My name is Xiao, and my father and father-in-law are both middle-aged men in their fifties and sixties, both of whom have been widowed for many years, one lives in the countryside and the other in the city. Although the two of them have different circumstances, they live in widowhood and have many similarities. However, counting carefully, there are still many differences in the lives of the two.
My father, Uncle Zhang, lives in rural Henan, he is thin, full of white hair, **dark, and his hands are covered with calluses from labor. Introverted, not good at talking, busy with farm work every five nights and nine places, rarely chatting with neighbors. When I was a child, I often heard people in the village say: "Why is Uncle Zhang's mouth so tight, he has always worked silently alone, and his wife lives like that when he leaves, he is really a poor person." ”
A few days ago, I took a special leave of absence to visit my father in the countryside, and then took the high-speed train to visit my father-in-law in the city. This time, I found five major differences in the lives of the two old people.
In my rural hometown, when I arrived home, Uncle Zhang was busy working in the yard, his face was dark and very thin.
Dad, why are you working in the field again, can your body withstand it?I put down my luggage and said worriedly.
Son, you're back. Uncle Zhang wiped his sweat, "Who does the work in the field, who does not do it?"Besides, I'm in good health, so don't worry about it. ”
Dad, you're not young anymore, and you have to work in moderation. Why don't I stay a few days and help you with some of the farm work. I advised him.
Okay, okay, I'm not the same yet!Uncle Zhang waved his hand, not wanting me to help. I had to go back to the house and put my luggage down.
Uncle Zhang is always like this, he would rather endure hardships alone than trouble others. People in the village said that he was withdrawn and lacked interpersonal contact. I looked at his figure working alone, and couldn't help but sigh: "If Mom had a spirit in the sky, I would feel sorry for Dad working so hard alone." ”
Hey, hello father-in-law!I smiled and walked over to greet him.
Yo, Xiao Wang is here!Uncle Wang happily hugged me, "It's just right, let's exercise together!."”
I looked at him with a red face, chatting energetically with the old people in the neighborhood, and couldn't help but sigh: "If Mom had a spirit in the sky, I would be glad for Dad's cheerfulness." ”
One is the daily routine. My father, Uncle Zhang, has a chaotic schedule all year round. In the busy season of farming in the countryside, he often gets up early and works in the fields before dawn, and is busy until dark before going home to eat and rest. In his spare time, he also wakes up early and wanders around the yard or does chores with nothing to do. My father-in-law, Uncle Wang, has a much more regular life, getting up at 6 o'clock in the morning, going to the park at 7 o'clock for morning exercises, going home for breakfast at 8 o'clock, and then most of the time of the day is arranged, and he rarely deviates from the original plan.
The second is food and clothing. Uncle Zhang usually eats very simple, the cornmeal he grows himself, with a little pickles, fools him over. The dress is also very plain, usually wearing old-fashioned cotton jackets and pants with a lot of patches. Uncle Wang eats abundantly, and each meal should be matched with meat and vegetables, and the nutrition is balanced. Dress well, often go to the mall to buy new clothes, dress elegantly and cleanly. There is a clear gap in the quality of life between the two.
The third is the residential environment. Uncle Zhang still lives in an adobe house built by himself more than 20 years ago, with peeling walls, leaking rain, and cramped and dark spaces. Uncle Wang lived in a newly renovated, warm and comfortable modern apartment for the elderly, surrounded by perfect facilities. The living conditions of the two are very different.
The fourth is interpersonal relationships. Uncle Zhang is not very familiar with the neighbors, and he rarely interacts with each other, and he only nods when he meets him, and he will not talk a few words. Uncle Wang is familiar with many elderly people in the community, talking and laughing every day, and often shopping together or partying to play card and board games. Social circles are very different.
The fifth is the acquisition of information from the outside world. Uncle Zhang has very few opportunities to surf the Internet, and he doesn't know anything new about the Internet, mainly by reading some old newspapers to learn about things outside. Uncle Wang's mobile phone online shopping is convenient, and he often learns about new things through WeChat chat. The channels for obtaining information are completely different.
I was impressed by these five differences. Perhaps the difference between urban and rural areas is destined for two different living conditions. But no matter what the circumstances are, I hope that the two old people can live happily and no longer feel lonely.
After returning to Beijing, I began to visit my father in the countryside more often, advising him to rest properly and encouraging him to talk to his neighbors more. Once, I took a tablet back with me, wanting to teach my father how to use it and no longer be isolated from the world.
Uncle Zhang waved his hand irritably: "What so many twists and turns!."I don't play this again, learn what it does!”
I sighed, my father's conservative thinking didn't seem to be easy to change. But I'll still try my best to get him closer to this era.
I also often tell my father-in-law to guard against online fraud, not to trust people from unknown sources, and to protect his property information. Uncle Wang said with a smile: "What is there to deceive my old bones, it is enough to have your son!."”
Just as I was trying to close the distance between me and the two old men, a sudden change caught me off guard.
One day, the rural hometown suddenly came**, saying that my father was sick and in bed. I was so worried that I immediately asked for leave and went back to my hometown.
When I came to the door of my house, I saw that the yard was in a mess, Uncle Zhang's bicycle was crooked aside, and the crops in the field were not taken care of. I hurriedly pushed open the door and walked into the house, only to see my father lying on the bed with a pale face, not even having the strength to speak.
Dad, what's wrong with you!What the hell is it like to be sick?I nervously probed his forehead, which burned frighteningly.
Uncle Zhang shook his head weakly, and he didn't know what the illness was. I was so anxious that I hurriedly ran out and called for help from my neighbors.
Brother Dong, my dad suddenly became very ill, you can help me call a car and take him to the county hospital!"I stopped my neighbor, Master Dong, who was about to go out.
Master Dong nodded and said, "Okay, I'll go and hail a taxi, and you go back to watch your dad first." ”
I ran back to the house gratefully, thinking that I really didn't expect that Brother Dong, who usually doesn't talk much, would help with this.
Another Aunt Li from the neighborhood also rushed over to help, looking at my father's pale face, she couldn't help but sigh: "Why is your father's health so bad these days, we don't know that he is sick, otherwise we would have come to see him earlier." ”
I nodded, thinking to myself that maybe I wasn't in my hometown, and my father was sick alone.
At this time, Master Dong came in a car, and we hurriedly carried him into the car, and Master Dong drove all the way to the county hospital. After examination, the doctor said that it was a cerebral hemorrhage and needed to be hospitalized for observation. I stayed in the hospital every day, anxious.
After a few days, under the careful care of the doctor, my father's condition was finally under control, and his face improved a lot. I finally breathed a sigh of relief and silently thanked the people who had helped my father these days.
I was startled and rushed to Beijing without looking back. When I came to the hospital, I saw my father-in-law's head wrapped in a thick bandage, and his face was very weak.
I was so distressed that I quickly asked, "What the hell is going on?".Is it serious?”
I was furious: "It's too much!".Gotta catch those two gangsters!”
The police said that they had been dispatched to arrest and also reported the case to apply for insurance claims, so don't worry. "Uncle Wang persuaded me.
I have mixed feelings in my heart, my father and father-in-law suffered at the same time, I can't take care of them, and I really blame myself. Fortunately, they are gradually getting better, which is a little relieved.
This accident made me realize that no matter what the conditions are in the city or in the countryside, the health of my family is the most important thing. I want to spend more time with my father and father-in-law, care about their health, let them worry less, and have more family warmth, so that I can rest assured.
These two incidents also made me think about the lives of my father and father-in-law.
My father was alone in the countryside, with weak neighborhood relations, sick and no one to take care of him, and the situation was dangerous. I began to encourage him to communicate more with his neighbors, so that everyone could care for each other and help him in time when he was in trouble. I usually advise him to do less heavy farm work and take care of his health.
One day, Master Dong came to visit his father and cared about his condition. It was rare for his father to take the initiative to chat with him.
Master Dong, thanks to you for taking me to the hospital last time, otherwise I would have died of this disease. Father said gratefully.
We are a family, if you have difficulties, just say, let's help each other. Master Dong replied with a smile.
I watched with relief as the two of us chatted warmly, thinking that thanks to this illness, my father's interpersonal relationship seemed to be slowly improving.
On the other hand, I also repeatedly told my father-in-law to be more careful when going out alone to avoid encountering criminals again. Uncle Wang nodded understandingly, promising me that he would pay more attention to safety in the future.
Son, thank you for coming back to see me often, I am indeed lonely when I live alone. "Once Uncle Wang suddenly said to me.
I shook his hand and replied, "You are my relative, and I will do my filial piety." ”
Okay, when I'm better, let's go shopping and cook together!Uncle Wang said happily.
I smiled and agreed. Seeing his positive personality, I was also much relieved.
After this incident, I feel that my father and father-in-law have changed a little. My father began to take the initiative to deal with the neighbors and stopped overworkingThe father-in-law became more aware of his own safety and began to actively seek the company of his family.
They are starting to come out of their respective states of loneliness, which is the most gratifying thing for me. Although their living circumstances and conditions are different, with more care and communication, they are all happier in life, and this is the result I hope for the most.
Life is full of accidents, but with family by your side, all difficulties can be overcome. I will look at the differences between my father and father-in-law with a friendly eye and give them the greatest understanding and companionship.
Whether you're a city or a rural person, no matter what your life is like, I'll do everything I can to make you feel loved. This concern will accompany me through every stage of my life. May all parents in the world live a long and healthy life, and be happy!
Son, you're back!When he saw me, my father beckoned happily.
Dad, are you playing chess?"I walked over and saw the situation on the chessboard.
I was idle, Master Dong came, and we played chess together. Father said with a smile.
I was glad to see that my father was finally willing to communicate with people. In the past, he always worked alone in the yard, but now he is actually playing chess and chatting with Master Dong, which is a good sign for me.
Xiao Wang, your dad is happy this time, it's different from the past, and our Lao Zhang is finally familiar with the people in our village!Master Dong said to me with a smile.
I praised, "Yes, I also hope that Dad can make more friends, and it is important to communicate in life." ”
The father touched his head a little embarrassed and said: "In the past, we had a farther relationship, which was also in my temperament, but now that I think about it, I feel that it is not wrong to have a good relationship with the neighbors." ”
I was thrilled to see my father's conversion. This illness completely changed his lifestyle. In the past, he was like a pool of stagnant water, but now it finally flows and enriches his life.
I also continue to encourage my father-in-law to participate in community activities and make more friends. Once, when we went to the park to exercise, my father-in-law actually took the initiative to talk to an old man.
Good morning, dude!Come and exercise?The father-in-law asked enthusiastically.
Yes, come and go around every morning, and when you are older, it is very important to move your muscles and bones. The old man said with a smile.
I could tell my father-in-law was desperate for company. He had been lonely in the past, but now he is finally much more cheerful. I'm so happy for him.
After experiencing difficulties, both father and father-in-law came out of loneliness. They begin to actively associate with people and enrich their lives. This also made me feel the power of family affection, illness and hardship can crush a person, but family affection can support him to stand up again. I will continue to accompany them and make happy and warm times the norm for them.