The popular slogan now is to never let children lose at the starting line. All for children, now young children's toys are no longer a one-yuan skipping rope, a few cents of sandbags, but a thousand-yuan computer, mobile phone, and even a 10,000-yuan electric children's car. This is not uncommon in urban and rural areas across the country. For the sake of their children, parents will do whatever it takes to buy a school district house in the city, so that their children can go to first-class kindergartens and aristocratic schools. In the flow of materialism, young children are immersed in economic baptism, become snobbish, qualification maniac, compared with the size of their parents' official positions since childhood, compared to food, than clothing, more money than who gave teachers money, more than the house and car at home.
Is it really right to do this for the sake of children?
Remembering the pedagogue Makarenko, he once said: ".Everything is for the child, sacrificing everything for him, this is the most terrible gift a parent can give to a child.
In fact, there are many stories in the world about sending children to prison because of their parents' doting.
The famous singer Li Shuangjiang once talked about how to educate his son in "Luyu has an appointment", he said: "I am reluctant to beat my children, but I haven't beaten yet, and my tears have fallen first." "Sometimes I really want to fight, but I can't fight, so I scare it, and I can't do it at all. "You can't ask your child to be good at everything, don't offend your child, your child just has to have a personality and edges, and you can't ask him to be obedient. ”
As a result, everything follows the temperament of his son Li Tianyi, which causes doting on his son and leads to his son Li Tianyi's arrogance: Li Tianyi was in the third grade of primary school, and when he had a conflict with his classmates, he was bold and reckless, and even pushed a student in the second grade downstairs.
Li Tianyi wanted to study abroad and go to the United States to study Shattuck-St. in the United Statesmary'When he was at sschool, he played a prank and even replaced the protein powder eaten by his classmates with laundry detergent, and after the incident, he threatened the classmate: "If you dare to come to China, I will kill you!"Do you know who my dad is!”
Li Tianyi is not an adult, no driver's license, 14-year-old Li Tian wants a luxury car, so Li Shuangjiang gave his son a BMW sedan, but not long after, he had a dispute with a neighbor when he drove a luxury car, injured a couple, and he yelled at the onlookers: "Who dares to call 110?".”
As a result, Li Shuangjiang seriously doted on his son, but harmed Li Tianyi, causing Li Tianyi to participate in criminal activities such as ***, in 2013, the Beijing Haidian District People's Court against itCommitting a ** crimeLi Tianyi handed down a sentence of 10 years in prison. I don't know how Li Shuangjiang feels about everything for the sake of the child.
Why do Chinese children go to the opposite of their parents' wishes?
This is because Chinese parents transplant their desire for social competition to their children, and the idea of hoping for a successful son is the ideal of all parents. It is not a mistake to hope that the son will become a dragon, but the way of education is wrong. Our parents think that holding their children to get ahead is to meet the needs of children with infinite materials, and as a result, children lose frustration education, flowers born in the greenhouse, and develop habitual indulgence, resulting in children becoming culturally tall and morally short, and some can neither become talents, but also become monsters of social crime.
The arrogance of "my dad is Li Gang" has become the badge of today's children. This is a sad social phenomenon.
It seems that how we can be fathers is still a social topic worth pondering.