"Block" is the name used by the two messengers to refer to Gegnawen.
About that article, is there really so much "block"?
The mother-in-law, Wen Ta Niang, described her as follows: "You mentioned this daughter-in-law, who rubbed her hands all day long, and did almost nothing in the yard, like a pot of cakes thorning at the bottom of the pot. Whenever she was asked to do a job, her brow tightened, and there wasn't enough time left to start playing.
Chuanwen said to her jokingly: "Old Cui Ya is not very good, when you put the cake back into the boiling water, he did not bite it, but threw it into the pigsty at will. As a result, I accidentally hit the hind leg of our old sow, causing the pig's leg to break. This forced Chuanjie to find a carpenter to make a pair of crutches for the old sow."
However, this person, who is regarded as "not worth mentioning" in the eyes of his mother-in-law and husband, has won high praise from his father-in-law Zhu Kaishan.
The Zhu family was framed by Han Laohai, and when they couldn't find suitable workers to fight the frost, Nawen borrowed ten yuan from his father-in-law, saying that he should go out and do a public job to contribute to the family.
Wen Ta Niang looked at Zhu Kaishan with a puzzled face, although his face was full of distrust, Zhu Kaishan still readily agreed: "Okay, dad trusts you once, his mother, give his daughter-in-law ten oceans."
After the article left with ten oceans, he never came back, and the mother-in-law kept nagging: "This 'block', I don't know if a wing has gone, and the block' is 'block', which can be used to build a fence wall."
When she staggered home with three contracts, Zhu Kaishan was taken aback at a glance - she went out and won half of the belongings for the Zhu family.
Zhu Kaishan was full of respect for her in his heart, and he ordered in a loud voice to convey such a message: "Please summon her over, absolutely not!."If you carry her over, I will toast her three glasses of wine."
That article is like a "block" that can't even pull the wind box of fire, and can only be "used to build a fence wall", so why can it win the high praise and recognition of the father-in-law?
The reason is quite straightforward, she has many traits similar to Zhu Kaishan!
Assess the situation carefully and be flexible.
In Zhu Kaishan, the most admirable thing is his flexibility and adaptability.
Zhu Kaishan, as a hero who heroically defeated many foreigners in the Boxer Rebellion, ventured incognito in the Kanto region and showed admirable adaptability.
In the old Jingou area, in order to avenge the life-and-death friendship with He Laosi, and in order to regain the golden pimple, he was willing to silently arrange the footcloth for the foreman, wash his feet with water, and prepare an unpleasant urine tank for him.
The workers ridiculed him and said, "Lao Zhu, you are burly, how can people make you look like noodles"?"My name is the back of the tiger and the waist of the bear!Zhu Kaishan smiled lightly and said: "We are all people who walk from south to north, the mountain will not change direction because of the water, as long as we are forgiven, we will forgive."
Like her father-in-law, Navin is a flexible person, and she knows how to judge the situation.
After the fall of the Great Qing Kingdom, Nawen, who was the royal palace Gege, conveyed these words to her Amma:
Amma, the political pattern of our Qing Dynasty has been precarious, since Lafayette began to listen to the government, which thing can win the hearts of the people?Yuan Shikai's ambition can't be seen by anyone?But Galeries Lafayette was very wary of him, it was strange to be so undefeated"!
After reading the article describing the Qing Dynasty as a "coffin", I understood that in this world, the emperor, the prince, the elder brother and Gege will no longer exist. Therefore, what he has to do is to make himself more like a child of the Eight Banners, so that the people of the Eight Banners can accept him as the emperor. If you still harbor the noble sentiments of the descendants of the Eight Banners and indulge in those unrealistic fantasies, then you must beg for food like a beggar.
As a result, after joining Yuanbao Town, her uncle lost all his family property due to smoking a lot of tobacco. When he suggested that she go to Zhu's house for a blind date, she hesitated for a while and finally agreed.
The article that can gain insight into the current situation realizes that the past days are irretrievable, and the most important thing to do now is to face the reality bravely.
When she followed her uncle into Zhu's house, she saw Zhu Kaishan and his wife, who were full of enthusiasm. Although they may seem a bit unpretentious, they are all very talented and good-looking messengers. Hearing this, she felt that Zhu Kaishan and his wife were not bad, so she said to herself: Let's get married like this.
Nawen, who decided to get married, took positive action in front of Chuanwen, she first provoked the conversation and said: "Why is it so coincidental, my name is Nawen, your name is Chuanwen, there is a Wen in the name, your father opens his mouth and closes his mouth to Wen his mother, Wen is called his mother, whose mother is it called"?
Chuan Wen hurriedly continued: "If you are willing to be my daughter-in-law, then once you pass the door, you will become my mother."
A clever question not only shows his point, but also shortens the distance between him and the text. If you can seize the moment and ask questions subtly, then the other party will be impressed with you. Once he decides to take action, Navin will show his keen insight into the situation at the right time.
On the festive day of that article and biography, Xian'er's sudden appearance made every member of the Zhu family feel extreme heartache and dilemma. Xian'er was diagnosed with congenital hydrocephalus shortly after birth and needed surgery**, but she refused to accept this cruel reality. Faced with the scene of Chuanwen and Xian'er bursting into tears, Nawen didn't know what to do, and finally burst into tears.
After a night of in-depth thinking, Zhu Kaishan expressed his inner admiration for Nawen's outstanding performance the next day. "I've been in a good mood these two days!"It was described in the original work:
As the sky grew brighter, Nawen was carefully dressing himself in front of the mirror, and Chuanwen asked with a hint of helplessness: "What are your plans?""I don't like being a daughter-in-law!The article calmly stated: "I am the bride that the old Zhu family is marrying, and I should fulfill my duties as a daughter-in-law." Since you are a man, I am confident that you will take care of Xian'er's affairs." It was late one evening, and it was as hot as a steamer. With that, he slowly left the room.
That article followed the Manchu tradition of respectfully standing at the entrance of the upper room, waiting for the in-laws to get up and greet them.
The article, which is good at perceiving the current situation and being flexible, made a decision in his favor on the major events that decided his fate and future marriage - to hold on to the transmission and stay in the Zhu family.
That article earned itself the happiness of the rest of his life with its keen insight. If she had bravely withdrawn from this marriage out of sympathy for Xian'er at that time, regardless of her own predicament, her fate would have changed dramatically.
Nawen knows very well that it is now the ** era, a woman like her, who can't lift her hands and shoulders, is down-and-out and qualified, if her identity is exposed by divorce, no one wants to marry her again, so she must maintain her status as the daughter-in-law of the Zhu family.
Falling from the moment of Wang Fu Gege to the dust, this huge contrast in life is not acceptable to everyone. But she just didn't want to accept it, because she felt that she was a dignified woman. However, the article confronts all this calmly, and she shows neither crying or dissatisfaction, nor blaming others or fate.
She lowered her status and, in a flexible and adaptable manner, gladly accepted the unfair treatment that fate had given her. And Nawen's keen insight into the current situation not only won her father's high praise, but also won her lifelong happiness.
There is both courage and strategy, wisdom and courage coexist.
Few people succeeded in bringing out the gold during the gold panning activities in Laojingou, but Zhu Kaishan, with his wisdom and courage, successfully helped the Jinfu to transport the gold out of Laojingou.
He used the strategy of "sacrificing his life to swallow gold and transporting corpses" in his appearance, but in fact he used the strategy of "stealing beams and changing pillars". He not only successfully transported the gold out of Laojingou, but also used the hands of the government to end the lives of Jin Datou and Jin Dana, and avenge He Laosi.
Zhu Kaishan expressed his high appreciation and comfort to his daughter-in-law Nawen for her bravery and strategy, as well as the coexistence of wisdom and courage.
While he was still at home, he was often bullied by his hired workers, who not only did not listen to his orders, but also often showed him, which made Chuanwen very angry and almost cursed heaven and earth.
When Nawen learned of this situation, she did not be impatient, but adopted the strategy of "wanting to capture and indulge" in the thirty-six strategies, and easily won the heart of the second pillar who loved the beginning, so that he told Chuanwen that "in the future, I will completely obey the instructions of the young treasurer".
When Zhu Kaishan learned of this situation, he said with appreciation: "Only the Gege of the palace can conceive such an idea."
Nawen not only established his prestige in front of the employees through clever strategies, but he also relied on his wisdom and courage to solve urgent problems for the Zhu family, so that Zhu Kaishan won a lot of respect in front of everyone.
In the autumn of one year, frosts come early. In the process of fighting the frost, Han Laohai used a trick to take away all the temporary workers who might be hired because of the martial arts.
Because he couldn't find a suitable employer, Chuanwen anxiously wandered around, and even the usually shrewd Zhu Kaishan felt helpless.
The article said to Chuanwen, who was lying on the kang and was short of breath, "Isn't it just that you can't find a job?"Isn't it just the Han family making a ghost?Why don't you let me try it."
Therefore, Nawen borrowed ten oceans from his father-in-law, and then Shi Shiran went to the town.
After arriving in the town, Nawen walked straight to the tavern, and his eyes fell on Han Laohai, who was playing mahjong and gambling with others in the bar, and Nawen said mockingly: Ha, I think I'm a master, you guys can be regarded as playing cards, right?I think you're just playing cards!
In my opinion, there is no one in Yuanbao Town who really knows how to play cards, they are all messing around." "Nawen said, don't give us any more drinks!Today I don't bet, tomorrow you come!When he finished speaking, he prepared to leave with the wine he had already prepared in his hand.
Han Laohai was very angry when he heard this, he stopped the article and said, "Let us want to leave after losing for a long time?."Play a few hands before leaving, I really want to ask".
That article was something she was very eager to get, but in the course of eight laps, she lost again and again, and all the money on her body was spent, which made Han Laohai mock her like a mule and couldn't act immediately.
Hearing Han Laohai's insult to himself, Na Wen immediately put on the jewelry on his body, intending to play a few more times, and after saying this, he took off his coat and rolled up his sleeves.
Han Laohai looked at the whirring article and said to her jokingly: "That article, if you lose again, what do you lose"?The girl smiled and replied, "If I lose again, I'll have to die!"The article drank a glass of wine and said with a smile: "If you lose again, I will leave naked".
In the laughter of everyone, Nawen drank a glass of wine again, and announced loudly: "I'm going to play a game, I bet on the three of you alone, I and the three of you lose, and the three of you, no matter who and are, are regarded as I lost." There must be documentary evidence, there can be no escape, I bet on my body, what are you going to bet on"?
Han Laohai was convinced that the article was doomed to failure, and he thought that the time had come for Zhu Kaishan to lose face in the town, so he angrily declared: "I want to bet on four horses." Lao Sun Tou then bet on three cows, while Zhang bet on three rooms.
When everyone was looking forward to this play, the article that was a little drunk glanced at Han Laohai contemptuously, then picked up a card, quickly overturned the card in front of him, shouted "and" loudly, and then tightly grasped the words that were made, and then coldly lowered his head, put on his coat, and said loudly:
Tomorrow, I will face the financial pressure of my family, how should you judge?I will respond to you in the evening. But I forgot to tell you that I was born into a Gege family, and only 100 days later, the old prince took me to sit at the table and play cards.
On a card, I can touch three handfuls and I don't need to look at it to know what it is. If the card falls to the ground, I can clearly see that from the look in my eyes, I can see your intentions, and if you lose, pull it with a car. Playing with you, that's lifting you up."
As soon as the words fell, the article smiled softly and left the tavern, and the people around him seemed helpless. "My iron!Han Laohai lowered his head and said with remorse: "I really bit the pig iron today, I'm really sorry"!
As soon as Zhu Kaishan opened the three contracts brought back in that article, his shock was overflowing: "Oh my God, she went to gamble this time and won half of her belongings"!
With his outstanding wisdom and courage, Nawen solved the urgent problem of fighting frost for the old Zhu family.
That night, unable to afford defeat, Lao Sun Tou and Zhang Jiaotou led a team of hundreds of people to Lao Zhu's home to carry out frost resistance activities.
True wisdom lies beneath the surface and knows how to show one's vulnerability.
The reason why Zhu Kaishan was able to stabilize his position in the Kanto region and build his empire was that in addition to his ability to adapt to changes, he also possessed a special skill, that is, he knew how to show his weaknesses.
In Lao Jingou, he chose to endure silently in order to get gold, and was ridiculed as a weak person by his colleagues. He worked as a cook in the city and as a construction worker. In order to not destroy the harmonious relationship between Xiu'er and the two families, he started a fight with Han Laohai, which was described by Wen Ta Niang as a sick cow. When running a restaurant in Harbin, he always accommodated Pan Wuye in order to make money in harmony, and as a result, Pan Wuye's son regarded him as a soft melon.
Zhu Kaishan's weak attitude not only helped the Zhu family bring back his golden pimple, but also moved Han Laohai and made the two families re-establish friendly relations. What's even more touching is that he was praised by Pan Wuye: "The former hero can now endure such grievances ......."This young man is really not an ordinary person"!
And Nawen, because she knows how to behave weakly, not only did not let her mother-in-law dislike her because she was a piece of "waste", but made her mother-in-law gradually like her because of her sweet words and great wisdom.
Among the three daughters-in-law of the Zhu family, the emotional distance between Nawen and her mother-in-law is the largest.
Xiu'er received endless care and love from Wen Ta Niang because of her special relationship with Chuan Wu, while Yu Shu lost her mother since she was a child, so she received the deepest care from Wen Ta Niang. Wen is a very kind, gentle and strong person. Wen Ta Niang has established a deep emotional bond with them, and their relationship has gone beyond the traditional mother-in-law relationship. Only Nawen and Wen Ta Niang constitute a real relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The article didn't pay attention to the estrangement between her mother-in-law and her, and her wise and foolish personality knew better than anyone else that there were some things that could not be forced and needed to be patient. She knows that her mother-in-law is a very gentle and considerate woman, she knows that her mother-in-law is a very easy person to get along with, and she also knows that her mother-in-law is a person who is not easy to get close to. Therefore, she never puts on a haughty posture in front of her mother-in-law, she always shows her weak side, and resolves her identity and predicament day after day.
My mother-in-law called that article "Block", and although everyone felt uncomfortable after listening to it, the article never really took it to heart, nor did it make people haunted.
Whenever I see my mother-in-law depressed or hear her criticize me, that article always makes my mother-in-law happy and helps me out of an awkward situation in a way that seems a bit "binary".
In the process of Han Laohai's revenge and run on the Zhu family, Wen Taniang accused him of being a person who lacked courage because of Zhu Kaishan's continuous forbearance. However, Wen Laohai defended his father-in-law and said: "Mother, you can't say that, my father's behavior is like lying on his salary and tasting guts."
Wen Ta Niang was very angry when she heard this, she said: "You'd better close that stinky mouth, close the door, enjoy your day, and you'd better interfere less in family affairs"!
Seeing that her mother-in-law was angry, Nawen hurriedly walked down the kang to make a fire. Wen's mother watched her walk out of the door and said with emotion: "This eldest daughter-in-law, although she looks like a lady, she is indeed a little different, but she is also a person who likes people."
When the mother-in-law mentioned herself, Nawen poked her head out of the door and asked, "Mother, what do you mean by two?""Two!"Two!That seemingly stupid but actually deep sentence not only made the mother-in-law laugh, but also quickly resolved the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
That article not only showed deep wisdom in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also showed a weak side in the relationship between husband and wife.
After Chuanwen learned her Gege's identity, he was almost so frightened that his jaw dropped, he hugged Nawen tightly and kissed her twice, and then ran happily on the kang several times to roll forward.
Seeing that her husband attached so much importance to his personal status, that article was neither complacent nor put on any show. "What do you do?She gently expressed her feelings to the message:
Sir, this article can be said to be very happy now!In my life, I don't expect my husband to be a **, ride a good horse, or pursue a huge family fortune, and I am satisfied to live such a quiet and leisurely farm life."
That article used a series of weaknesses and praises to attract Chuanwen's favor, which not only made Chuanwen quickly forget Xian'er, but also made him and her become the happiest pair of mandarin ducks in the world.
Please write it at the end of the article:
In this world, everyone's life is not necessarily smooth sailing.
While some people are born with excellent hands, in the midfield phase of life, fate may forcibly take a good card from your hand and hand you a useless card.
In this case, the key is to see how strong you are. If you can be as flexible as Nawen, with wisdom and courage, you will act like a fool and know how to show weakness when it comes to critical moments. Even if fate throws you a bad card, you can smash it.
In this world, there is no such thing as a waste person, and those who do not understand you may see you as a "useless thing". You are a person with a brain, a way to think, and a person who is good at expressing yourself, but you are not a person who can treat others as "treasures" for others to enjoy. However, in the eyes of the person with keen insight, you may be a "genius" who stands out.
The key to choosing whether it is "block" or "strange material" is whether you have deep emotions in your heart, and your eyes are full of mountains and rivers.