Wen Kapok
At 2:00 in the middle of the night, Xiaowen (pseudonym) posted such a circle of friends: "7 years of marriage, I left today!."In a woman's marriage, if there is a pair of in-laws who interfere in the lives of her children and a husband who only listens to her in-laws, then any resistance from the daughter-in-law, whether right or wrong, is a violation of the rules of heaven and is unreasonable!
The picture of this circle of friends is an IOU of 50,000 yuan, a family tree and a basket containing 100 stupid eggs, and a divorce certificate.
Xiaowen introduced,After 7 years of marriage, he was ruined by a 50,000 yuan loan from his in-laws, a family tree and 100 stupid eggs.
Xiaowen and her husband are both top students of prestigious universities, they met in a campus debate competition 9 years ago, and after two years of love, the two began to talk about marriage.
Considering that the husband is from the countryside, the family's economic conditions are poor,Xiaowen didn't ask for a penny of dowry, but also collected 30,000 yuan of dowry money from her parents, rented a house by herself, and funded her own wedding.
But less than half a year after getting married, my parents-in-law packed their bags and moved from the countryside to live with them.
The house we rent is not big, and you are still young and have the ability to take care of yourself, why do you want to live with us?Xiaowen couldn't help but ask her in-laws.
But the in-laws said confidently: ".It's been half a year, and you haven't been pregnant, and the people in the village have started gossiping and laughing at us. We are here to stay with you until you are pregnant and have a baby!”
Xiaowen sneered and said helplessly: "How can we have children under this condition, we don't have our own house, and our work has just started, so we can't have children at all!."”
The in-laws felt that Xiaowen was condemning them for not preparing a marriage room, and the mother-in-law immediately quibbled: ".Although we didn't buy you a house, we raised our son very wellYou are all graduates of prestigious universities, and you have good jobs, so why don't you worry about not having a house to live in!But the matter of having a child cannot be delayed, people say that it is better for a woman to have a child before the age of 25!
Xiaowen no longer argued with her in-laws, but only told her husband her views and asked her husband to invite her in-laws back to their hometown.
But half a month passed, and the husband didn't speak, and the in-laws went out for a walk every day, and one night, the in-laws and Xiaowen had a formal conversation.
Before talking,The in-laws took out 50,000 yuanput it on the table and said boldly: ".We discussed, and we took out the money we had saved all our lives to buy a house for you!
At that moment, Xiaowen was moved, because her husband said that her in-laws had been farming all their lives and had a meager income, and the 50,000 yuan was saved by them for I don't know how many years.
Mom, I can't accept the 50,000 yuan, and I can't buy a house!Xiaowen refused.
But my in-laws have always emphasized that if I don't take out the money, I will feel guilty and can't sleep at night.
In this way, Xiaowen, her husband and in-laws began to look at the house and prepare to buy a house, and finally they fell in love with a three-bedroom apartment of 123 square meters, with a down payment of 500,000 yuanIn addition to the 50,000 yuan given by her in-laws, Xiaowen borrowed 300,000 yuan, borrowed 100,000 yuan from her parents, and borrowed 50,000 yuan from friends to make enough for the down payment.
But when the house purchase contract was signed, the in-laws covered the signing part and proposed to Xiaowen: ".After receiving this 50,000 yuan, you can have a baby, right?
Xiaowen was shocked, and immediately turned her face and said, "50,000 yuan?."Let me have a baby?Then you take 50,000 yuan, and I won't give birth!”
The in-laws also immediately got angry: "You said that you don't have children because you don't have a house, isn't this buying a house right away, why don't you give birth yet, how can you let us beg you!."After the mother-in-law finished speaking, she sat on the ground and began to cry.
As soon as her mother-in-law cried, many people in the sales department came around, and Xiaowen felt embarrassed and got up to leave.
After her husband came home, he took an IOU to Xiaowen and said indifferently: "This is an IOU for us to borrow 50,000 yuan from our parents, you have to remember." Buying a house is a small matter, and it hurts the old man's heart is big, you are really unfilial!”
Xiaowen and her husband had a big quarrel, and even made a move for the first time.
The next day, my in-laws packed their bags and went back to their hometown!
Although Xiaowen has always been very repulsive, the birth of her in-laws has never been broken, but her in-laws rarely talk to Xiaowen directly about it, but put pressure on Xiaowen's husband, and slowly, as long as her husband goes back to his hometown to see his parents, he must find various reasons to quarrel with Xiaowen when he comes back.
In the New Year, 3 years after marriage, her in-laws repeatedly called Xiaowen **, telling Xiaowen to go back to her hometown for the New YearThat year, there would be a large-scale temple fair in the hometown, and the family also had a large-scale ancestor worship activity, and they had to go back to support the façade for their in-laws.
That's all,Xiaowen turned down an important job and used 4 of the 7 days of annual leave to return to her hometown with her husband.
After returning to her hometown, Xiaowen learned that the so-called large-scale ancestor worship activity of her in-laws was actually an annual activity of hanging a family tree, which was to write a family tree in her family according to the personnel and generations on the family tree.
Xiaowen, you see, you are also on the family tree!The mother-in-law pointed to the family tree and said to Xiaowen.
Xiaowen looked at it again and again, and asked puzzledly: "In **?."Why didn't I see it!The mother-in-law pointed closer again, and Xiaowen looked at it carefullyIt turned out that she had three words on the family tree: "Wang (Xiaowen's husband's surname) Li (Xiaowen's surname)".
Xiaowen sneered and was silent, but couldn't help muttering in her heart: "Such a genealogy, it's okay if you don't go up!."”
Xiaowen originally thought that the genealogy incident would end here.
But at dinner in the evening, her in-laws laid out the family tree and talked to her seriously.
The father-in-law asked, "Xiaowen, what do you think when you see our family tree!."”
Xiaowen replied, "I don't have any ideas!."”
The mother-in-law was anxious and said, "How can you not have an idea?".Don't you see?The grandfather's family, there are two sons below, and then there are 3 grandchildren;Your second grandfather's family has 3 sons and 5 grandsonsYour cousin's family has 1 son and 2 grandchildren belowIf you look at our family again, we have one son, and there is nothing underneath!
Xiaowen instantly understood that her in-laws were born through the genealogy, and her mood was immediately extremely bad, and she couldn't help but fight back: ".What if you don't have grandchildren?What about having grandchildren?Is there a mine at home or is there a throne waiting to be inherited?
The in-laws were angered by Xiaowen's words, and said unceremoniously: ".You want a house, I bought you a house;You want time, it's been more than 3 years since you got married, what reason do you have not to give birth?Don't you know what the people in the village say about you and laugh at us!
Xiaowen was mad and replied, "You used 50,000 yuan to buy me a house?"Can't even buy a toilet;You give me 3 years?I've been working hard and earning money for the past 3 years!Someone else gives birth to ten or eight, what does it have to do with me!If I don't have children, what does it have to do with you and your villagers!
The in-laws were furious and shouted: ".You're 30 years old, and you won't be able to give birth in a few years, isn't it delaying my son, you're too selfish!
Xiaowen sneered a few times and said firmly: "If you have the ability, let your son change and marry, and if you don't have the ability, you have to endure it."I read so many books and work so hard, not to give you grandchildren, so that you can compare the number of grandchildren!
There is no doubt that when she returned home from her hometown, Xiaowen and her husband quarreled again and fought coldly for 3 months.
After this dispute, Xiaowen almost became enemies with her in-laws, rarely interacting, and rarely saw each other on New Year's and festivals.
For Xiaowen, the roots of her ears are cleanBut Xiaowen also felt that the relationship with her in-laws was not handled well, which also affected her relationship with her husband to a large extent.
Just three months ago, my in-laws, who had not been at the door for three years, came again.
As soon as the in-laws entered the door, they said to Xiaowen with a smile on their faces: ".You see, this is the stupid eggs we are reluctant to eat for you, there are 100 of them, you can replenish your body and have a baby quickly!As he spoke, he handed over a basket.
Xiaowen didn't take the basket, and directly refused: ".I don't give birth, I don't have enough money, I don't have enough energy, and I can't bring it when I give birth, which is irresponsible to myself, and even more irresponsible to my children!
The mother-in-law immediately asked puzzled: ".What responsibility do you have, you just have to give birth, I will serve you in confinement, out of confinement, I will take the child to the hometown to help you take it, and when the child can go to primary school, I will send you back, is this not okay?In our neighbor's house, our son and daughter-in-law go out to work, and they all put their children in their hometown!You have to be considerate and considerate of us, everyone else has grandchildren, only our family, nothing, while we can still move, you hurry up and give birth to one!”
Xiaowen was suddenly enraged and fought back: "Why should I give birth to a child for you?"Can you raise it well?Take your 100 stupid eggs back, eat them yourself, and give them your own life!Then you won't be lonely and lonely, and you can show off everywhere with your second child!
Who knows, Xiaowen's words just fell,"Smack" A loud slap fell on her face, it was her husband who hit her!
Can't you just talk to my parents properly?Anyway, they are also your elders!The husband said angrily to Xiaowen.
They are not my elders, they are your elders, and even if they are my elders, they can't interfere in my life!Xiaowen replied-for-tat.
They are all good for us, what bad intentions can they have for us!The husband continued.
They weren't for my goodThey are first and foremost for their own good, and secondly for your good, they never thought about me!Xiaowen still replied calmly.
So what do you say about these 100 stupid eggs?Doesn't that care about you?Why are you so ignorant of what to do all the time!The husband said.
Xiaowen sneered and asked rhetorically, ".Give you 100 stupid eggs, put an embryo in your belly, slowly grow for 10 months, go through all kinds of uncomfortable and dangerous situations, and then make a big cut in your belly or go through 10 levels of labor pain, give birth to a child, and face the risk of being out of shape, postpartum depression, career stagnation for 3 years or more, do you agree?
The husband was helpless and threw out a cruel sentence: "That is no room for negotiation, let's leave!."I can be unmarried, I can't let my parents break off!
Agreed!Xiaowen said desperately and soberly!
In this way, Xiaowen and her husband soon divorced.
At this point, I don't know if Xiaowen's in-laws will regret their stubbornness;Will her husband reflect on his own shortcomings, and what warnings will Xiaowen get.
It's just that in life, we should keep our distance, refuse to interfere, and respect each other!
May the above text be encouraged by my readers!
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Today's Topic:
Who do you think Xiaowen, Xiaowen's husband, and in-laws should be held responsible for their failed marriage?Should the old man give birth?