Have you ever had the experience of suddenly feeling like crying at a certain moment?
Everyone has a different experience, but the moment of the breakdown, the feeling is the same.
Those things that make you sad are like snow on the branches, which obviously just fall lightly, and slowly bend the branches in the accumulation of one piece after another. If you don't slip in time, the end result is that the branch will break.
The older we get, the more unhappy times we have, and we are always silent on the big things and break down on the small things.
The other day I needed to go to the city to run errands, and because of the traffic restrictions, I chose to take the subway. On the subway, sitting next to me was a young girl with glasses and a very delicate appearance. She has been staring at the ground since she got on the subway, and she has never changed positions on her mobile phone. Later, I saw her take off her glasses, cover her face with her hands, and shrug her shoulders slightly. I knew she was crying. As a stranger, I couldn't ask her anything, so I just patted her on the shoulder and handed her a tissue.
On the crowded subway, if you are not sad to the extreme, you will not have an emotional breakdown. Many times, we struggle for the so-called decency, but a sudden little thing can easily destroy the defense line we have built.
There's a saying on the internet that goes like this:"When you grow up, you realize that sudden tears are often more bitter. "
Yes, we in front of people always pretend to be very strong. But in places that people can't see, countless tears have endured countless days and nights, and then suddenly erupt at a certain time and one day because of a certain event.
Something that makes adults crumble, if only called it"Annoyance", which is too superficial.
And these things, cold and warm self-knowing, no one will empathize. No matter how difficult it is, there is nowhere to say, no one can say it, it can only be accumulated in my heart bit by bit, and slowly and slowly towards collapse.
Yang Jiang once said in "Centennial Reflections":"It's hard enough to be a human being. "This kind of bitterness is so heavy that it can't be dissipated with more confiding and complaining, so we can only deal with it with silence and ignore it with pretenses.
Those adults who suddenly collapsed, such as the girl who cried on the subway, I believe that she must not be because of fragility, let alone hypocrisy, but because she has gone too far and held on for too long.
Do you remember a man on the subway, crying and stuffing bread into his mouth? I think he must have been so sad that he didn't care about the decency of adults, and cried tears in front of the public.
When we were young, we laughed when we were happy, cried when we were unhappy, and vented our emotions unscrupulously and without scruples. When I grow up, no matter how difficult it is, no matter how bitter it is, no matter how collapsed, I can only keep silent, and I will silently resist everything.
When we grow up, we are all running for life, and we have more responsibilities on our shoulders. We can feel stressed, we feel lonely and helpless.
At the moment of collapse, we may shed tears, we may complain, we may want to give up. But life doesn't stop because of our breakdowns, and time doesn't wait because of our stops.
It is a greater and more precious courage to face vulnerability than to endure grief.
So, if you want to cry, you can cry!After catharsis, wipe away your tears and get back on the road.