The other day, a friend complained to me about a small thing.
In the town where his family is located, there is only one express outlet, and he needs to pay an additional 3 yuan for each express shipment.
Every time he drove back to his hometown in the village, he had to help a few friends bring a few express mail.
The one-time pickup fee is more than ten dollars.
But when I got home, my friend only took the express mail and never mentioned the money.
He thought that his friends would send it to him on WeChat afterwards, but what he waited for was that there was no follow-up, and then it was gone.
It's okay once or twice, but every time it's like this, he has an indescribable feeling in his heart.
Everyone knows that you have to pay for the delivery, but no one wants to give it.
If you ask for it, it's just a matter of more than a dozen yuan, and you seem to be stingy, for fear of hurting your friend's face.
Don't do it, it's just a matter of a dozen dollars, just feel that your contribution is not valued.
He asked me what to do
I said very simply, just three words: pay first.
Many people think:
That little bit of money is nothing.It is often this kind of inconspicuous small money that can make people lose patience with their friends the most.We have such a good relationship, talking about money hurts feelings.
Even if I give it to him, he doesn't want it, so he doesn't give it.
Here's what I think about small money:
You give it to me, I don't want it, that's my favor.
If you know it and pretend to be confused, there will be no next time.
The relationship between friends who dare to talk about money is mutual respect
No one's money is blown by the wind, not to mention one piece or ten.
To dare to talk about money is to thank the other party for their help and to respect the fruits of each other's labor.
Once, my dad took me to pay back the money to my second uncle.
After giving the principal, my dad took out another wad and said: This is the interest, I calculated it according to the bank.
My second uncle was stunned: What are you doing with interest, you might as well go to the bank to borrow interest.
In the end, my father couldn't resist the second uncle and recovered the interest.
On the way home, I asked my dad: you are brothers, why do you want to give him interest?
My dad replied
If you keep this money in the bank, you will have a lot of interest a year, and you will lose it in vain if you lend it to others.The relationship between friends who talk about money will not let the other party bear the debt of favors. I've seen a sentence:Others helped me, and I couldn't let others suffer.
If you want someone to be nice to you all the time, let him owe you.Although the words are common, the truth is very practical.
In this world, personal debts are the most difficult to pay off, and it is best not to use human favors to solve problems that can be solved with money.
Why do many people not recommend partnering with friends when doing business?
It's because I didn't sit down and talk about money in the early stage.
If you don't have a good plan to talk about money, you will make money and distribute it unevenly, and no one will be responsible for losing money, which will of course destroy the relationship between friends.
Talking about money with friends is not a sign of stinginess, but to avoid letting friends be burdened with personal debts.
Friends who dare to talk about money can filter the villains among friendsExamples like this are often seen in life:
You are a teacher, can you help my child look at the homework?
You have a car, can you help me pick up a friend at the train station?
You know how to do handicrafts, can you help me make a table, chair and bench for free?
If you only have one or two helps, of course you are happy, but in the long run, which friend can stand it?
If you clearly mark the price, it will make your friends unhappy, and if you reluctantly agree, it will only add to the annoyance.
You have a skill, and of course you can help if a friend needs it.
But if you use this as an excuse to pay for a long time without compensation, it is kidnapping in the name of a friend.
Friends are not the object of free solicitation, dare to talk about money, in order to filter out those who just want to take advantage, and the friendship can last.