Preface. For women, marriage may be a paradise, or it may be a grave, and no one knows what kind of character the person they marry will have after marriage. In 2020, there is a housewife named Su Min, who is 56 years old, and when faced with the chicken feathers of life, she resolutely chooses to leave the family and go on a self-driving trip by car by person.
The reason for all this is because she has a husband who treats her badly, and she is obedient at home, so she has no choice but to do so. Two years have passed, I don't know how Su Min is now? What kind of grievances did she suffer at home to make such a decision? In this issue, let's talk about the story behind Su Min.
Lack of love since childhood.
Su Min was born in Henan in 1964, but she didn't grow up in Henan, because her parents' work was far away, and there was no one to take care of her in her hometown, so she was brought to **. When she went to follow her parents to such a distant place, she was already old enough to go to school, so the first thing she did after that was to find her a school.
In fact, Su Min's original family was not happy, which also had an impact on her character, her family was a family of six, and she also had three younger brothers who were younger than her. And the eldest seems to always be synonymous with sensible at home, not to mention a situation like her where there are still younger brothers in the family.
In this case, she can't be sensible, because the person her parents prefer is never herself, and Su Min doesn't turn on the TV and eat snacks every day after she gets home from school. She directly put down the schoolbag in her hand and helped her mother with housework.
Even so, she still didn't get a compliment, it was as if it was a task she took for granted, and there was no reward for doing it well. And her younger brother didn't have to do anything, he would get snacks and toys, and the most hurtful thing for her was actually in her senior year of high school.
Her parents quit their jobs because the salary here was too low and were ready to return to Henan from **, but at this time, Su Min was about to take the college entrance examination, but no one stayed with her. The family packed their bags and set out on the journey home, leaving herself in this unloved place.
At that time, she was in the most sensitive period of her psychology, and a huge sense of grievance came to her heart for a while, and she could only bear it silently. After taking the college entrance examination, she was finally able to see her parents back, but her grades were not ideal, and she could only go to school if she repeated.
As her parents, she didn't say a word of comfort, which made Su Min's heart hurt even more, she could only accept that there was no other way for this family, and she also understood that her parents didn't love her, even if she did something good, it was useless.
After that, she found a job, thinking that after having money in her hand, her life would be better, but she didn't expect that it would be the same as before, and she would have to do housework when she returned home. Within a few years, she reached the age when she could get married, and Su Min's mother asked a matchmaker to find her a family business, and the two of them just met in a hurry, and the matter was settled.
At that time, she was completely immersed in her own fantasies, and thought that after she had a family, she could be a good wife and mother, but she only thought half of this thing right, after all, these things were more unstable.
A piece of chicken feathers in married life.
When they first got married, Su Min didn't feel anything wrong, because both of them had their own jobs, and they would only meet every night when they got home. During the day, they eat at their respective workplaces, and when they get home at night, she takes the initiative to cook and clean, even if she has a mother-in-law at home.
Some things only changed after she had her first child. Su Min's first child was a daughter, which caused her mother-in-law to be dissatisfied, thinking that he could not give birth to a boy. Her mother-in-law's thinking is a typical patriarchal thinking, so she either asks Su Min to work every day, or is weird to her, and the most important thing is that she never helps her take care of the children.
In the face of her mother-in-law's approach, Su Min's husband not only didn't help her speak, but also did nothing at home every day, relying on her alone. In order to take better care of her children, she quit her job, but she didn't expect that when she lost her economy and asked her husband for money, every time she asked for money, she would be told by her mother-in-law once, and she had to endure her husband's inquiries, as if she had hidden the money herself.
So she had to find a part-time job on her own, and she could use her spare time to earn money, even if the salary at the end of the day was only enough for their mother and daughter to eat, she was happy. For this daughter, her husband doesn't care, whether it is milk powder money or tuition money when she grows up, Su Min earns it by herself.
So even if the couple later had a son, this daughter was still the closest child to her. If the verbal hurt can be endured, then the physical injury is the most devastating, when her daughter was young, her husband beat her, and the cause of the incident was a very small thing.
Because her husband invited a friend to come to the house for dinner, Su Min asked him to drink less wine at the dinner table, which caused him to be dissatisfied, and after the guests were gone, he directly started to fight, in front of their daughter.
So much so that later Su Min's daughter told her when she grew up that she must not find someone like her father, perhaps because those things had left a shadow in her heart.
After the children grew up, Su Min's status in the family still did not change. Such a depressing environment, every day at home is equivalent to a free nanny, and there can be no refutation of hard work. Over time, even she didn't know when she suffered from depression.
One day, Su Min and her husband had an argument over a matter, and the more they talked, the more excited they became, at that time their daughter had already been married, and their daughter and son-in-law happened to be still by their side. Seeing that she picked up the fruit knife and slashed at her wrist, her son-in-law hurriedly rushed forward and shot the knife.
At that time, they didn't expect that Su Min had psychological problems, until the next year, she did harm herself again, and this time the damage was even more serious. When she and her husband quarreled over whether to let her go out to work, seeing that her husband had been blocking her thoughts, she directly picked up the fruit knife and slashed her wrist twice, and then stabbed herself in the chest three times.
Her husband reacted and rushed her to the hospital. It was because of this that she began to realize that something was wrong, and after examination, she learned that she had suffered from moderate depression.
Decide on a road trip.
After that, she began to take some mood-relieving drugs every day, and was thinking about the first half of her life, so she made a bold decision in her heart, that is, to travel by car. In 2020, self-driving travel has long been a way of life that everyone yearns for, and Su Min is no exception, she lived for her mother's family before she got married, and lived for her in-laws after she got married, but she never lived for herself.
After she figured it out, she told her daughter about the idea as soon as possible, got the support of her daughter and son-in-law, and also gave her tens of thousands of yuan to buy a car. In this way, she began her journey to find herself, even if she did not get her husband's understanding, it was no longer important to her.
And Su Min's story was also spread on the Internet, in the process of traveling, she opened her own personal account, and when she walked to **, she would share what she saw and heard with netizens. At the beginning, she had only a few fans, and now she has more than two million.
She also relies on her fan base to bring goods on online platforms, although some people question her approach, the answer she gives is that there is nothing to be ashamed of making money by her own efforts. With the money she earned, Su Min also replaced the small car she had just started with a large RV.
The most important thing is that she rediscovered the joy of life in this trip, it turns out that life is not the daily firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also the poetry and distance that she is now pursuing. Along the way, she had unprecedented happiness and freedom, ate delicious food that she had never had the opportunity to eat before, broadened her horizons, and met many like-minded friends.
Some time ago, Su Min returned to her hometown after two years of absence during the Mid-Autumn Festival, and thought that her husband could change, but it backfired, he was still the same, and he also made sarcastic remarks about her, whether she couldn't stay anymore and didn't know how to go home.
Such a sentence not only made Su Min's heart cold, but even netizens couldn't stand it, and they all said that it was no wonder that her wife would leave home for two years. Even if she wanted to talk to him about her future life, it was difficult to talk about such an attitude.
Su Min came back to see her mother this time, and told the ** who interviewed her that it was because her brother-in-law was very good that she could do what she wanted to do with confidence. Maybe it was because her mother knew that she felt sorry for her daughter, so she didn't say that she shouldn't go out again, but she was very worried about whether she would encounter any danger outside.
Later, in an interview with **, Su Min said that she could not travel outside all the time, and she might return home in a few years, and as for the relationship with her husband, divorce is the best way. What does marriage bring to women, only a few people like Su Min can resist, and some women are even trapped in the shackles of marriage for the rest of their lives.
Epilogue. Marriage is a major event in everyone's life, and you must carefully decide whether the person you will entrust for life is worth it. Su Min represents thousands of housewives who have encountered this situation, but they are braver than them, what do you think of Su Min's approach? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss.