There is a kind of person who seems to be destined to be better to outsiders than to his own family. In their mental rankings, the status of outsiders is far higher and more important than their own family members. The most obvious behavior is that if they have something in their hands, they will give this benefit to outsiders as soon as possible, and then they will think of their family members when they have the rest, otherwise they will not get anything as a family member.
In fact, the personality characteristics of this kind of people are that the core is not stable enough, the heart is not strong enough, and they are very interested in unexpected people's comments and feelings, so they will naturally put the feelings and needs of outsiders in the first place and put them in the most important position. The consequence of this is that they have indeed won the praise of those who have vested interests, such as their good hearts, kindness, and even generosity, and they will not be stingy.
However, everyone knows that the first half is praised, and the subtext that is not spoken in the second half is: Although they are generous, although they are very good, they are a little stupid, poor and generous, and they don't know how to think about themselvesAfter all, it's not his own family. Moreover, they did not even take care of their own families, so they went to take care of outsiders, this kind of behavior of sacrificing their roots is very contemptuous and shakes their heads, and it is not advisable.
However, they are such a character, it is difficult to change, it is almost impossible to change, they can only sigh silently, and then let them do what they want. Because, if they were to be criticized for their actions, they would not be alive, they would be even worse. Their thoughts are the same as their actions, and only outsiders can convince them that what their family says to them, they will only rebel.
If it is the family of this kind of person, you can only taste the grievances all the time, the family is not as good as the outsider series, and there is no harm if there is no comparison. However, it can't change this situation, even if you feel uncomfortable in your heart, you can only vent and digest it privately, or you can just just be out of sight, and leave and stay away is the best plan.
Such a person regards the affairs of other people's families as more important than the affairs of his own family. When they are at home, they can even be the shopkeeper and ignore everything, or they are not at home all day long, and they all go to other people's houses. However, they are just happy to do it, willing to do it, even if they contribute money and effort, they feel very happy, in short, everything is willing, no one forces them.
This feeling is like giving birth to a child for free to someone else's family, and the child is close to someone else's family, and he has always been saddle before and after, sparing no effort to dedicate. However, they are not close to their biological families, and they are even thinking about it many times, or the dragon is not seeing the end, and it is difficult to find their people.
However, the reason why other families are so accepting and tolerant of them is because they will not take advantage of themselves, and they will even often bring themselves all kinds of benefits and benefits, such as free food, free coachmen, free labor, etc., just because they have vested interests. If they didn't get these benefits and counts, other people's wives would have been in trouble with them, or even swept away.
So, in the final analysis, they have been currying favor with others, putting their own status very humble, and then giving profits everywhere to block the chewing and disgust that may arise from other people's homes. However, who knows that if the concession is stopped, it will be time to be given an ultimatum by someone else's family. How can there be so much affection between adults, even if the other party has it, but the other party's family may not have it.
However, their character and this behavior will not change, so if it is their family, they can only accept it helplessly, let themselves not have so much expectation of them, or even respect them, they are happy.
If you feel wronged, vent or complain in time, then turn the page, continue to do what you have to do, and just take care of yourself.