Recently, I have been severely empathized with by this passage--
"Don't marry a man who seems to be very honest, he has no opinions, he doesn't communicate when there are contradictions, and he never apologizes, let alone say anything that warms your heart. Pretend to be deaf and dumb in case of trouble, and choke you to death when you open your mouth. ”
My husband is the kind of man who doesn't communicate and doesn't apologize, and can choke you to death when he speaks, that's not all, the key is that he is still a full "bar spirit".
You say a word, he can top you ten sentences, he often argues with reason, wants to win everything, for fear of suffering a little loss, he also likes to be reasonable, sometimes mediocre little things, stunned to pull out a tirade for you, in short, he is not to make you speechless, or to fight with you to the end.
When I first got married, I was still young and vigorous, and I often quarreled with him and competed with him, but obviously the chances of winning for a stupid person like me were slim, and I lost the battle in three or two sentences, so I pretended to be angry and said to him"You barbitch!”
Who knows that he still said triumphantly"I'm a bartender. ”Are you angry or not?!
I think it must have been my love brain at the beginning, I loved him too much, and I didn't find the slightest thing, or maybe he hid it deeply.
Then we had children, we communicated less and less, we had more and more conflicts, and I became more and more anxious and silent.
We had little to talk about other than the children and the three meals a day, because I knew that most of the things we ended up doing were unhappy, so I wouldn't bother myself.
The faucet handle in the bathroom in the house was broken by him, bare, I was afraid that the child accidentally scratched his hand when he used it, so I urged him to quickly find a way to solve it.
Once, my son went to the bathroom to wash his hands and wiped his hand sanitizer, but he couldn't turn on the faucet and shouted at me to help, so I hurried over.
In the bathroom, I nagged a few words, "Your dad really is." I don't do anything if my own things are broken for so long, and other people's things will be done as soon as they have something. ”
Who knew that I had just come out of the bathroom, and he angrily asked me about the guilt, and I was not to be outdone, "Am I not right?".As soon as my sister's mobile phone screen was brought to you, you replaced it, my mobile phone screen was broken for so long, how many times have I told you, have you changed it for me?”
The old lady's mobile phone screen also dragged on for a long time to change it!He still didn't give up, I didn't want to hear a word, and I didn't want to continue to entangle with him, so I turned around and took the child into the house and locked the door.
He is always justifying, constantly justifying, he always seems to have his own reasons, always trying to find excuses for himself, and this is what disgusts me the most, even disgusting, so I don't want to fight with him, I'm tired, I'd rather be a dumb person!
My phone screen has been broken for more than half a year, and I have told him no less than 5 times, and I have promised it every time, and what about in the end?
His sister's mobile phone was sent, and the new screen was replaced in two or three days, and even the second time I sent to change the volume button, it was perfectly solved, but mine didn't even have the following. I muttered a few words, and people still felt aggrieved.
After four years of marriage, I have thoroughly seen through and enlightened, and it turns out that learning to shut up is the basic quality in the marriage relationship!
From a girl to a resentful woman, then from a resentful woman to a madman, and finally to a mute, the price of growing up makes you unrecognizable, but this is too cruel for a woman.
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