As adults, we often feel the powerlessness of reality.
I believe that parents will definitely have this feeling: the old and the young, working hard every day, and not even daring to get sick. Even if he gets sick one day, he still has to go to work, after all, he has a large family to support - although the child is still in high school, it is time to prepare him for college expenses;Although the old people are still in good health, they have to prepare money for them in case of emergency... ...In order to fulfill the various responsibilities on our shoulders and cope with the various risks of our future life, all we can do is to make more money and make more money. Only by making more money can middle-aged people give themselves a little more security.
Sometimes we even fantasize about how nice it would be if we won five million in the lottery ticket!We even immediately think in our minds about how to spend the five million: how much for the children, how much for the parents, how much to add this thing, to buy that furniture ......Whatever you want, where. Five million is simply not enough to spend!
In the face of pressure, adults can still fantasize, let alone high school students who are about to become adults and have not yet really entered society.
Like I said, a lot of high school students don't stand out in every aspect of their lives. There may be some loss psychologically. In order to make up for all kinds of difficulties in life, they will find solace in some literature, film and television works. For example, some high school students may be addicted to the Internet** or online games, and find satisfaction and comfort from those bizarre stories and exciting games. Actually, this is not a problem. Indulging in fantasies is something that everyone experiences at that age. Parents need to face up to this matter. You must know that there is nothing that you can't talk to and communicate with your children. We all fantasize about good things, and the key is how we make the fantasy practical and ultimately a reality. These require parents to guide their children step by step and tell their children.
Student: Mr. Zhang, I usually like to watch that kind of magic**, hoping to become a hero in it and save the world. But in real life, I don't have any special skills, the girls in the class don't look at me more, and the teacher ignores me, how can I become a hero?
Me: Hello classmates, let me tell you an example of my junior brother. My junior brother is one year younger than me. When he was in school, he was like you, fantasizing about one day becoming a hero who stood up to the sky, but real life was dull, he studied Xi well, earned a good salary after graduation, got married, had children, and worked like an ordinary person, and couldn't see what his life had to do with heroes. Until one day, his lover's father was seriously ill, and his high income was enough to support this sudden change. His lover said to him, "You are truly a hero to our family." His son said to him, "Daddy, you're awesome." He said that at that moment, he felt that being a dependant of his family was the proudest thing in his life, much better than being a big hero.
I often say to my students, "Why do people live?"It's about experiencing the beauty that you haven't experienced. Regardless of boys or girls, as long as they have dreams, they can boldly pursue and work hard, so that dreams become ideals and ideals become reality. This is the most powerful and beautiful thing we are born to do.