She's certainly not **.
* It means that you know that your actions are harmful, but still do it, premeditated and planned, and have a pure black heart without impurities.
But Wanyan Huide is not, she has a red heart, just look at her homepage introduction. She is just unprofessional in her psychological counseling and lacks a certain amount of self-knowledge. If you don't know, it's not intentional, and it's not malicious.
Her order-taking behavior is public, and even the process of consulting is public, and she accepts everyone's evaluation, so she is not **.
Why does she lack self-awareness of her professional abilities?
Regional characteristics. She lives in a small western town. Although it is now an online world, whether you are herding sheep in the mountains or fishing for fish in the water, you can all be connected, and all network resources can be shared. However, there is still a serious lack of professional atmosphere in remote areas.
Counselling is still a luxury, and not everyone can afford it. Becoming a professional counsellor is more expensive and time-consuming. This determines that the psychological counseling industry can only grow and prosper in economically developed areas.
We all know that the cost of professional training in psychological counseling is often tens of thousands, and after a two-year long journey, tuition fees and travel expenses add up to tens of thousands. With Mr. Wanyan's financial ability (living in a low-rent house, the most expensive clothes are 600 yuan), it is indeed an insurmountable practical dilemma.
In addition, when you go out to study and train, you will not only gain professional growth, but also meet more peers, collide with different points of view, generate thinking, and have live people as a reference. In her professional growth, due to the serious lack of resources, her perception of professional ability has been skewed.
Thinking characteristics. When Ms. Wanyan was more than 5 years old, her father who loved her died, and her mother remarried when she was 9 years old. The disparity of power between the individual and the environment is not something we can imagine, especially in that era, especially in the backward and isolated small places of that era.
However, instead of accepting the arrangement of fate, she chose to fight.
The core beliefs that her life experiences have given her are:Destiny can be changed through personal efforts.
So, a poor child, a child without parental care, went to school and studied medicine, jumped out of the farm with limited resources, and achieved a class jump, which is a great ability in any case.
Perhaps it was because of such firmness that he helped himself overcome obstacles all the way and fight his way out, so he strengthened this mode of thinking even more, and felt that "what I think" is what it is, and it is the answer.
It also constricts one's vision to a small frame.
So, she thinks that this may be the case with counselling. Otherwise, there would be no consultation in the form of a public one. If she has never had personal experience with a real professional counselor, then she doesn't know what real counseling looks like.
Teacher Wanyan's three views are very positive, but he is slightly outdated in his thinking, and he is still in the state of 20 or 30 years ago. The lack of ideological up-to-date is also a big reason for her ridicule.
Aside from professionalism, from the perspective of personal hard work, Mr. Wanyan can be called inspirational.
An old man, not idle, is still learning to do ** live broadcast and editing, trying to help others change others, make everyone better, try to reflect his own value, love the motherland and the people. Compared with the waves of people who laugh at her, they can't learn and don't make progress, and some are still lying flat and gnawing on the old, isn't this a warm thing?
You laugh at yours, she still does hers, you have time to laugh at her, can you do something yourself?
He Xiangqun, founder of Ningbo Xiangqun Psychology Studio, full-time psychological counseling work, and member of the Chinese Psychological Society's science popularization expert database.