Someone did a test, put a piece of tempered glass on a pool with crocodiles, and walked calmly with the first group of people blindfolded, and the second group of people who were not blindfolded did not dare to pass, worried that the glass would break, and when they looked at a 200-pound man walking over and the glass was not broken, they all boldly walked over;The first group was not afraid of broken glass because they didn't know where he had walked, let alone that there were crocodiles in the pool, and the second group walked over because they later learned that the glass would not breakThe former is fearless for the ignorant, and the latter is for the knower
The world of adults has never been easy, the future is full of uncertainties, these uncertainties are the glass placed on the pool with crocodiles, will it break, let me see through, I can't figure it out, tomorrow, the future is like that glass bridge, we must pass, whether you want to or not. So how can we become self-aware and not anxious?
First of all, you must know that there are natural differences between people and people, and you and I cannot change them.
Tutoring children with homework, presumably people who have been parents will have the experience, counseling to their own collapse ** often appears on the Internet, why other people's children are academic bullies and my family is not open, can't keep up with the curriculum, bad grades, can't get into key schools, can't get into college, no good job, this series of problems, lead to anxiety as parents, but not the root cause.
Nietzsche said: Man is like an oak seed buried deep in the ground, and only when he grows into a towering tree do we know that she is an oak tree. Yes, a child is a seed, parents can't know whether it is a pine tree or an aspen tree, or it may be a rose or a peony seed, the seeds of different plants have their own suitable soil for growth, but they all need sunlight, water, and air, which is the common denominator of living things. Parents can do just like a gardener, watering, fertilizing, pruning and shears, if the wind and rain will not harm her growth and health, there is no need to set up a tent, build a greenhouse, and thrive in the natural environment. There is no need to go to great lengths to move flowers and trees, change places, change environments, and only make her grow taller and better, but flowers are still planted flowers, trees are still that kind of trees, some children are born to be a reading material, some children are born to be good at running and jumping, look back to see if our classmates are so different, all kinds of thingsWe are like this, and our descendants don't have to be all scholars and wheat masters. When a book child grows up, he will be like a seed drifting in the wind, finding the right soil for his life and growth, becoming a chef, a police officer, or an entrepreneur. Liu Zhenyun's parents were not writers, and Leonardo da Vinci's parents had no artistic talent. The old adage that dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and a mouse will make holes is not suitable for today's society.
There is a father who has a clear understanding and has two daughters, his only requirement for his children is not to repeat the grade, all he does is to supervise, do not tutor, do not complete the homework, after a few years, not only did not repeat the grade, but also kept up with the average level of the class in Xi, his experience is that parents can hope that their children have excellent grades, but can not let him become excellent, the school's education method, Learning Xi progress cannot be customized for everyone, just like putting a handful of different seeds into the same culture tank and receiving the same nutrients, the germination time must be different, and what seeds bloom and what flowers. The territory of the shark is in the ocean, and the freedom of the eagle is in the sky.
Secondly, knowing that this is an information society, it is difficult to distinguish between truth and falsehood, and there are only a few things we can decide and grasp.
The new crown, this sudden thing, brought us a lot of trouble is still clearly visible, the most panicked during that period is whether the medical resources of various countries can cope with this crisis, relatives and friends, between domestic and foreign countries, are using the existing convenient means of communication to transmit information to each other, there is a writer named Fangfang, published a short article about the epidemic that caused a sensation at home and abroad, and also equipped with **, she became famous because of this, The work was published in the New York Times, and it was later learned that it was true that she wanted to be famous, and the content of the publication was patchwork, but at that time, few people were bright-eyed. Parents who have children abroad have spent a lot of money to let their children return to China, because it is not safe, my advice to friends is that it is best to do a calm analysis of the ** of various news information. What you see and hear, is only what they want you to see and hear. A friend of mine who often travels back and forth between China and Japan said that the news description he saw in Japan was completely opposite to that in China, because he went to Japan after the incident, and he was very angry because of his position, but because foreign reports said the opposite, not the truth.
How much of our life is because of such information, which causes us to be anxious?
Can't let the child lose at the starting line, this sentence makes how many parents' money be handed over to those businesses, for fear that their children will lose their lives in the future. Those who post information about education, pension, and medical care, in addition to attracting attention and looking at how much money you have in your pocket, are creating anxiety. I don't know which one comes first, accident or tomorrow, so what are you anxious about. The industry we are engaged in, our position in society, and the things we have experienced in the past have limitations in judging and identifying various things, and we don't need to know the truth about everything. If we do what we can do well, what else can we do? Life is like an exam, since the paper has been handed in, the number of points in the test is the business of the teacher, is it meaningful to be anxious about failing the paper.
There is a saying: "Bodhi has no tree, and the mirror is not a platform." There was nothing in the first place, where to stir up dust. ”