From the moment they enter marriage, all girls will regain one identity, that is, their wives.
But they are only in their 20s, and marriage is a novelty and a yearning for them.
They will look forward to all the good times in their marriage, they will imagine spending their lives with the person they love, they will look forward to having a lovely baby, and the family will be happy until they grow old.
However, only when you really enter marriage will you understand that marriage is not so tolerant, it needs wisdom, management, and more self-cultivation.
In reality, there are many cases of those marriages going to the end, and women in marriages are carrying too many things, so I would like to say a few heartfelt words to those girls who are about to enter close marriage.
1. Don't depend on anyone
Why is it easy for women to become dependent?Because a girl needs love, she needs affection, she is easily emotional, and it is easier to devote herself to her relationship, she will completely trust and rely on each other.
In the TV series "Ask the Heart", "Zhang Yuxi" is a member of the "007" clan who is dedicated to his work, and has a heart attack due to staying up late for a long time.
When Zhang Yuxi was facing a life-and-death situation, her husband Tian Lei and her mother-in-law did not care about her physical health, but anxiously wanted to know if she could still get pregnant and whether they could continue the incense for their Lao Tian family.
We always hope to meet someone who is in love with us in our lives, but the cruelty of marriage makes girls understand again and again that it is better to expect others to treat them well, than to become stronger and not dependent on anyone.
A phrase that Hayao Miyazaki said:
Don't rely on one person easily, it will become your Xi.
When separation comes, you lose not someone, but the pillar of your spirit.
Learn to walk independently whenever and wherever you are, it will make you walk more calmly. ”
2. Learn to manage marriage
In the past, I always heard the old man say that "the door is right", and at that time I always thought it was a joke, but now that I think about it, it is not unreasonable, the family background, economic status, and political status of the two people are comparable, but now I prefer to understand it as "evenly matched".
Marriage is a relationship other than love and family affection, and it is in between, and she needs to manage and maintain it.
Mutual trust between each other is the most basic, and the foundation of trust comes from trust in each other's love and character.
You must know that the relationship in marriage is particularly fragile, it is not like when you are in love, you enjoy it wholeheartedly, it needs to be woven by economy and firewood, rice, oil and salt.
In marriage, every little thing will affect the relationship between husband and wife, and only mutual trust, understanding and tolerance can such a marriage last.
Keeping the bottom line of marriage, marriage is not only the union of two people, but also the union of two families and social relations. In marriage, both parties need to abide by social and moral norms, respect each other, and work together for the marriage and family.
To understand each other, in marriage, both parties need to learn to understand and respect each other, less complaining, more caring. This includes being able to listen to the other person's perspectives and feelings when faced with problems and conflicts, and working to find solutions to problems so that the needs of both parties are met.
3. Learn to love yourself
The premise that I love you is that I am myself first and foremost, I have my own life, my rhythm, my ideas, I am an independent individual, and I can live freely without anyone.
It is easy for a girl to lose herself when she enters marriage, especially after having children, she puts all her energy into the family and children, loses her economy, and loses herself.
At this time, marriage is also the most prone to conflicts, disagreements, and even harm.
This time is also the time when the boy is most tested, but in most marriages, the boy never considers the girl's feelings, and even hurts the girl again and again.
We can't predict what kind of person we will meet in the future, so we can only be truly happy if we learn to learn to love ourselves at all times.
Only by loving yourself can others love that excellent you, and you deserve to have a better person.
4. Love your parents
Parents are our closest people in this world, they are unconditionally paid for us all their lives, even if they get married and marry, you are also the person they care about the most, and their greatest wish is that their children can live happily.
It can be said that they are our strongest backing and safe haven in this world. I watched Huang Bo's movie "Wading through the Sea of Anger" some time ago, this is the craziest thing a father did after his daughter was victimized, let's not underestimate the love of parents for their children, even if the child is married and has children, it is also a lifelong concern.
The girl who lost her life because of the unfortunate marriage happened in our lives, so there was a sincere advice from her parents to the boy when she got married: I don't love her anymore, please return her to me, don't hurt her.
Even if you marry far away, even if you can't be with your parents, you should visit them from time to time, talk to them more, and comfort their hearts.
Write at the end:
Mr. Yang Jiang once said something that is roughly as follows: marriage is not the whole of life. In the second half of our lives, we do not rely on our husbands, children, in-laws or appearance, but have a strong and optimistic attitude, excellent ability to make a living, a healthy body and sufficient economic reserves.
In marriage, whether you are happy or unhappy, whether your in-laws are good or bad for you, whether your partner is loyal or not, cannot be the whole of your life.
No one's life can be smooth sailing, no regrets, a good marriage requires two people to work together, girls must continue to learn and Xi, in order to harvest a life that truly belongs to them.