Whether it is ancient or contemporary, messing with the relationship between men and women is consciously or unconsciously evaluated by people, and it seems that people like to comment on such things. The logic is that you like it, but you can't mess around, and if you see or hear it, you have to talk about it and spread it widely. And all kinds of discussions and evaluations are basically unfounded, there is nothing to the point, just a personal evaluation, and it is not enough evidence.
In ancient times, the idea of patriarchy was more serious, and it was normal for men to mess with the relationship between men and women, which was considered capable. Because men can marry wives and concubines, the purpose is to ensure that they have more children, and more boys. After all, labor productivity in ancient times was relatively low and a large amount of labor was required. If a family does not have a boy, it is equivalent to "the last child", as Confucius said;"There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is greater. "Men are not called lustful, and messing with the relationship between men and women is not called messing with the relationship between men and women, but it is called suave, chic and happy. If a woman messes with a relationship between men and women, she will be called "unruly", "thief and adulteress", and so on. A man can have a group of wives and concubines, provided that he has money or power, and a man who has no money or power can't even marry a wife, let alone marry a concubine. Rich and powerful men can be happy at home, it is not called messing with men and women, if it comes to the social level, having a good relationship with other women is not called messing with men, but being suave. Men can go to the green house, but women can't. A man can have a good relationship outside of marriage, but he may not let his wife and concubine know. Therefore, under the protection of the feudal system, men can find women at will, and they can mess with the relationship between men and women, but it will not affect fame. Women can't do it, they must be chaste, called "a martyr does not serve the second husband", and she must start from the beginning, rather than "eating in the bowl and looking at the pot". Pan Jinlian, Yan Poxi, etc. have all become representatives of adulteresses, but due to the obscenity of the feudal system, no one defends them.
Men can men and women, while women can't so as not to be criticized. Even if two people are caught messing with a man's and a woman's relationship, the man will not be punished much, but the woman will be immersed in a pig cage and tortured to death. Now, however, women seem to have turned over and received the same treatment as men. Thanks to the development of social productive forces, society needs a large number of laborers, but it is no longer enough to use men, so women are needed to work, and men are paid equally for equal work, which also allows women to obtain a certain social status. Men can no longer use the "three obedience and four virtues" to demand women, but must be equal to women. Men may men and women, and women will men and women. It's okay to say that if you don't get married, both parties have no opinions, you can live together, try to get married, or even "ride a horse to find a horse", and when you meet a more suitable person, you will decisively make a promise, kick away the person you live with, and marry a more suitable person. Of course, such behavior is not illegal, but a normal thing. Then, according to the traditional moral evaluation, the men and women who get married are not pure, but in fact the second marriage, the third marriage, and even many marriages. Most married men and women have cohabitation experience and do not take marriage and divorce seriously, which leads to a large increase in the divorce rate and the fact that many children have no one to support.
Men and men have a relationship that violates morality and is criticized, but it is not illegal, and it will not cause a moral crisis. Maybe many people want to mess around like that, but because of a lot of emotional and money relationships, they can't take that step. After all, starting from biological attributes, people's choices for the opposite sex are many, not single. It's just that society has developed, and through legal and moral constraints, people obey monogamy, not mess around. However, the biological attributes of human beings have always existed and have always had an impact on some people. So, there is a mess of the relationship between men and women. Even after getting married, there are many people who are messing with the relationship between men and women. As the saying goes, "A wife is not as good as a concubine, a concubine is not as good as a prostitute, a prostitute is not as good as stealing, and it is better to say than to steal." "If a man can't marry a wife, can't marry a concubine, can't prostitute himself, can't steal fish, he can only talk about it, just talk about it, and there is no need to become the protagonist of the relationship between men and women.
From the perspective of the development of social civilization, the relationship between men and women is not conducive to social stability and people's development. If society does not have complete laws, but only promotes morality, but does not punish those who engage in sexual relations between men and women, it will become an encouragement. In order to motivate people to spend, capital has created a unified market and liberalized the procedures for marriage registration and divorce, which will soon be completed. The increase in marriage and divorce is huge for the consumption of some commodities, which objectively stimulates consumption. The power system is bought by capital, and it turns a blind eye. As a result, there are more and more divorces due to the relationship between men and women. It seems that people are no longer bound by feudal morality, and no longer deliberately restrain themselves, but want to find the person they like, even if they live together or get married, they will continue to look for it. Perhaps, messing with the relationship between men and women is really a skill, a sign of growth and maturity.
People who are involved in relationships between men and women will have a more mature understanding of the relationship, rather than a love for one. There are those who abandon the chaos at the beginning, those who step on several boats, those who support the second wife and the third child, and those who prostitute themselves. People seem to have let go, and capital investment in some areas has made it easy for people who are involved in relationships between men and women. After all, people who mess with the relationship between men and women spend a lot of money, otherwise, they won't get it. Capital takes advantage of the situation and wants to pay a certain price for those who mess with the relationship between men and women. However, it is basically nothing for people who mess with the relationship between men and women. They only want to be happy, but they often evade social responsibilities, and even do some radical things, some abandon their wives and children, some murder their husbands, some mutilate their children, and some commit suicide after overdrawing their credit cards. In fact, messing with the relationship between men and women is a bad behavior in itself, and civilized people can't do that kind of thing, if it's just fake Taoism, it can really be done, and it will be criticized.