Su Shi once said: "If you are brave, if you are cowardly, if you are wise, if you are foolish." ”
Really smart people seem to be very good at "pretending to be stupid".
When it comes to getting along with people, they are willing to suffer;When it comes to dealing with things, they are a little confused.
They are wise, but they don't show itThey are wise, but they are shrewd from time to time.
Because they understand that only forgetting the opportunity can eliminate the opportunity, and only ignorance can dispel the ominous.
Just the right amount of "pretending to be stupid" can not only make yourself comfortable, but also make others easier.
Seen such a story.
Lao Zhang asked Lao Li to drink, one to catch up, and the other to talk.
After three rounds of drinking, the conversation box between the two opened.
Lao Zhang said: "We have been together for so long, do you think there are any shortcomings in me that you can't bear?"”
Ordinary people may be fooled by two sentences.
Unexpectedly, Lao Li spit out all the displeasure of all these years.
He began to count the shortcomings of the other party, "Bad temper, poor brand quality, picking on doors, and not paying attention to ...... in clothes."”
Lao Zhang, on the other side, also nodded and received from the beginning, and his smile gradually disappeared, and his eyes gradually drooped.
Even, start to fight back against Lao Li, do you think you are good enough to go?
was originally a happy little gathering, but in the end it broke up unhappily.
Wang Xiaobo once said: "Foaming at the mouth, making value judgments on others, the level is very low." ”
Indeed, in this world, everyone has their own way of life.
We can not approve or accept it, but it is better not to over-evaluate.
Because, bad words hurt people and cold in June, and good words warm three winters.
A casual slander is like a knife quenched with poison.
When cut on a person, not only will the flesh and blood blur, but it will also be difficult to heal.
In many cases, it is not difficult to see through a thing.
The difficult thing is that you can't see through it, and you can't break it down.
Other people's lives, good or bad, do not need our interference;The choices of others, right or wrong, should be respected.
Not to speak lightly, not to make false comments, not to comment, is both a kind of wisdom and a kind of kindness.
I have read such a sentence: "Pretending to be deaf and dumb and confused, half drunk and half awake to understand people." ”
In this life, people don't need to be too clear and sober in their lives.
Especially in dealing with family affairs, occasionally pretending to be confused is not only a kind of freedom, but also a kind of freedom.
Yang Jiang once told such a story.
When she was young, when she and Qian Zhongshu were studying abroad, they once argued about a French word.
Yang Jiang felt that Qian Zhongshu's pronunciation was not so standard.
And Qian Zhongshu firmly believes that there is no problem with his pronunciation.
So, because of this trivial matter, the two quarreled on the ferry, and even said a lot of hurtful things.
In order to prove his correctness, Yang Jiang even found a Frenchman to judge.
In the end, although Yang Jiang was proved right, she did not have a little happiness in her heart.
On the contrary, I felt that because of this little thing, not only did I waste the opportunity to enjoy the beautiful scenery of the sea, but also almost ruined the happiness of the two of them going to the future together.
Later, she wrote:
A good marriage should be played in a play, a confused play should be played, and a reconciliation should be reconciled. Marriage is a cooperation, and whoever opens his eyes first loses.
Indeed, husband and wife can never get along too soberly and too calculatingly.
After all, when the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives.
No one is a saint, and he will not make even a single mistake.
Many small things in life, if you don't rise to the big thing, just laugh and pass, there is no need to figure out the twists and turns.
But if you always focus on trivial matters, it will not only ruin your mood, but also affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Only by pretending to be stupid and being confused can we make our hearts light and our relationships close.
It seems to be a well-known truth that suffering is a blessing.
But not everybody.
After all, no one is a fool, and he can really be willing to sacrifice himself for others.
However, when people reach a certain level, they will be willing to suffer losses and take the initiative to suffer losses.
Ma Weidu once talked about such a thing.
Many years ago, there was a hawker who just started out in the business.
I have a set of fine ancient porcelain in my hand, and the price is 80,000 yuan.
Many buyers, seeing that he is young, may not know the trick.
I desperately pushed down the price.
At this time, Ma Weidu directly took away the porcelain with 90,000 **.
People around me said, Lao Ma, you are stupid, this kind of loss, why do you have to eat it yourself.
But Ma Weidu said, wait and see, the good luck of the master is behind.
Knowing that Ma Weidu was a bold man, the little trader established a friendship with him.
In the future, if you have any good goods in your hand, you will take the initiative to find him.
Because of his reputation, other people in the circle will contact him as soon as they want to ship good goods.
This also made him indeed receive a lot of things.
"The Story of the Small Window" said: "Let profit be good at profit, and escape from fame is clever in inviting fame." ”
In a word, the trick of human life or failure is broken.
Only by leaving life for others can we open up a world for ourselves.
A person who is always calculating not only kidnaps his own gaze, but also avoids the blessings around him.
In life, learn to suffer losses in order to receive blessings;Learn to be altruistic, in order to benefit yourself.
After all, no matter who you are, no matter where you are, you will be reluctant to give up, small to be small, big to be big, and not reluctant.
People who can laugh and suffer losses will not have too bad luck.
The so-called wisdom does not mean that we have to stand in a high position and look down on all living beings all the time.
Sometimes, pretending to be stupid can not only save you from disaster, but also get what you want.
Grandma Liu in "Dream of Red Mansions" is such a smart person.
When she entered the Grand View Garden for the second time, Grandma Liu relied on "pretending to be stupid".
coaxed Jia's mother and the young ladies to be happy, and only then did they seek a warm winter for their family.
When going to the banquet in Qiushuangzhai, Jia's mother put a red chrysanthemum hairpin on her sideburns, and then called Grandma Liu to come over and wear flowers.
Sister Feng was clever, and in order to please the old lady, she turned the plates into full plates and put them on Grandma Liu.
Leaving the ordinary old lady aside, she may not be able to stand such a mockery.
But Grandma Liu just smiled, and learned the little girl to scratch her head and gesture, and said:
Although I am old, I was also romantic when I was young, and I love a flower and a pink, and it is good to be old and romantic now. ”
Sure enough, it amused everyone on the side.
While eating, Jia's mother saw that Grandma Liu was older, so she said "please".
Grandma Liu knew that she couldn't take the shelf, so she said loudly: "Lao Liu, Lao Liu, eat as much as a cow, eat an old sow and don't look up." ”
This also caused the big guys to laugh uncontrollably.
She has always understood that the purpose of her coming to Daguanyuan is to coax Jia's mother to open her heart and provide the girl with some fun.
After all, when people are under the eaves, how can they not bow their heads.
If you want to beg for a bite to eat from a high-ranking person, you can't take your own face too seriously.
Sometimes, pretending to be stupid and full of flutes can get things done, and it is also a blessing to protect the whole family.
Lin Yutang once said: "Life in the world is nothing more than laughing at others, and then making others laugh at yourself." ”
Just the right amount of self-deprecation, seemingly clumsy, is actually transparent.
Not only to be considerate of oneself, but also to others.
Liu Zhenyun said this:
There is a large river in the world that is particularly choppy, drowning many people. The river is called smart.Indeed, wisdom will be hurt, love will not live, and strength will be humiliating.
Do not overdo anything.
In this world, there are too many smart people, all of whom are mistaken by cleverness.
On the contrary, knowing how to be clumsy can be long-term;Learn to play stupid, and you will be thoughtful in the end.
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