After a long time, you have finally reached middle age, or you are about to enter middle age, it is time to pay attentionMarriageHave you been sincerely cared for by your husband?Actually, in middle age, men are rightMarriageThe woman has some special needs and dislikes, which is a painful problem that has to be faced. In order to help you better understand and cope, I interviewed three middle-aged men to hear their real feelings.
Mr. Li, a middle-aged man from a first-tier city, admitted that he disliked his wife the most for not paying attention to his image, and he was sloppy and sloppy in dressingMakeup、Do not dress up。 My wife always uses busyness as an excuse to say that she doesn't have time to go to the beauty salon or go shopping. However, this raunchy image made him feel that his wife was irresponsible to him. He believes that a woman's image and temperament are her business card and her self-confidence. If you don't even cherish yourself, how can you save your family?He advises women to pay attention to their image and temperament in middle age, and not to neglect their appearance because they are busy. SocialThe requirements for women are already very high, and it is the basic standard to be able to go up to the hall and down to the kitchen. Moreover, a man does not require his wife to smile like a flower forever, as long as she looks decent and generous. Falling short of even the most basic requirements, it's hard not to wonder if she's capable of running a good family.
However, for women, midlife is not without opportunities to improve their image and temperament. Despite being busy, time management and planning are carried out in a targeted mannerlife, or still be able to find some time to take care of themselves. For example, wake up a little earlier and set aside some time for a simple beauty treatment to keep your skin in shapeOr choose a simple outfit that suits you, a few versatile clothes can make the whole person look new. In addition, you can also arrange some time to go shopping, buy some clothes and accessories that suit you, and give yourself some freshness. BusylifeYou should also pay attention to maintaining good manners and temperament, not only for your own self-confidence, but also for your husband to feel that you value and work hard for the family.
Mr. Wang, also from a first-tier city, feels the most disgusted that his wife always puts her children first, without taking into account his feelings and needs. The wife is always busy with the children and neglects the feelings between the husband and wife. He knows that children are the heart of his wife, but everyone needs to have their own time and space. If the wife always puts the children first, then theirMarriageThe relationship will become more and more indifferent. He believes that the feelings and needs of the husband are especially important, especially in middle age, when it is easier to feel empty and lonely. He advises women to balance the needs of various family members in middle age, and not to neglect the relationship between husband and wife. Don't forget,MarriageIt's a matter of two people, and only by working together can we go further.
For women, middle age is indeed an important time to take care of children, but the presence of husbands cannot be ignored. Communicate frequently, exchange each other's inner needs and feelings, and find a balance. Try to make a deal about the time that belongs to the couple, such as scheduling a one-night date a week or cooking a nice dinner for each other. In addition, you can also participate in the development of the children with your husband, do some housework or play with the children, which can not only take care of the husband's needs, but also deepen the relationship between the husband and wife.
Mr. Duan's experience is deeply sympathetic. He dislikes his wife's chatter the most, and always vents his dissatisfaction and exhaustion on his husband, making him feel physically and mentally exhausted and helpless. Although he understands that his wife is under great pressure and hardship, his husband's ability to bear it is also limited. If the wife always wants to vent her emotions without taking care of her husband, the relationship between husband and wife will inevitably become more and more strained.
For women, the pressure they face in middle age is indeed great, and the catharsis of emotions is also important. However, it should be noted that the catharsis of emotions should be appropriate, not excessive, and not to pour all emotions out on others. Sometimes you also need to adjust and control your emotions, and try not to let negative emotions spread in your family. You can find some catharsis that suits you, such as listening**, reading a book, taking a walk, etc. If you really need to vent, you can also find some close friends to talk to, which can not only soothe your emotions, but also not cause too much pressure on your husband.
When people reach middle age, men need a dose of heart boosters, not sleeping pills, women should pay attention to their image and temperament in middle age, balance the needs of family and individuals, learn to control emotions, and pay attention to their husband's feelings. Only in this way can the relationship between husband and wife be more harmonious and satisfying. SuccessfulMarriageIt is good for both parties to understand and tolerate each other, and it is good to confide in each other, but don't overdo it, give each other quiet and breathing spaceMarriageConsistent and stable.