The director of the system said:Stepping into society from school, the competition of personal ability has been upgraded from simple intelligence to IQ, EQ, reverse quotient, plus the fight of comprehensive ability such as relationship background.
If you ask me, what are the essential survival skills in the workplace?If I had to choose just one, I would say "emotional intelligence", and I can say that emotional intelligence is twice as important as IQ.
If you have a high IQ and not enough emotional intelligence, you will probably never meet in your life.
IQ determines the lower limit, and EQ determines the upper limit!
If you look at those who are successful (whether they are in business or in office), they are people with high emotional intelligence.
It is often said that IQ is innate, and it is difficult to improve it the day after tomorrow, but EQ is actually not difficult to cultivate, compared to the improvement of IQ, it does not require so much time and effort, and it can be significantly improved.
Some people mention that people with high emotional intelligence are slick and pat, sweet-mouthed, will come to things, can speak well, smiling tigers, eight-sided exquisite, know how to figure out people's hearts, left and right, and will engage in relationships That kind of person, in fact, such people are not high EQ in my opinion.
Therefore, high emotional intelligence is not to please others, it is not undignified, there is no principle, if you do this, it will only make others look down on you.
Anyone who flatters others at the cost of sacrificing their own emotions is not called high emotional intelligence, you are called harming yourself and benefiting others, and sooner or later you will hold yourself out of the disease.
Because we have a saying called Lu Yao Zhi horsepower, see people's hearts for a long time, you are a smiling tiger, you are exquisite, maybe at the beginning you can quickly pull into a relationship with others, but such people often can't go far, everyone is not a fool, after a long time, everyone will know what kind of person you are.
Especially in front of leaders who are much higher in rank and EQ than you, your little cleverness will be recognized at a glance.
Emotional intelligence is not innate, it requires a certain amount of knowledge and rich life experience.
Some people say, I read some books to improve emotional intelligence, saying that people with high emotional intelligence never lose their temper easily, and never criticize people, joy and anger are invisible, in fact, this is not really high emotional intelligence, real high emotional intelligence is to express your emotions, do you know when to lose your temper?When not to lose your temper?How to lose your temper correctly?He criticizes people, but his emotions are still under control.
Therefore, when it comes to a person with high emotional intelligence, it does not mean that this person never loses his temper, but that he clearly knows what I am losing my temper for and what purpose I want to achieve.
For example, high emotional intelligence means that you want the other person to feel sincere, he feels, and you establish a cooperative relationship.
High EQ is that you want the other person to feel your anger, he feels it, and he no longer dares to take an inch.
High EQ means that you want the other party to feel that you are a person who has revenge, and he feels it, and he doesn't dare to come over and bother you easily.
People don't regard art as the way, and don't fall into the level of skills such as mind attacking, ** art, mind control art, and PUA.
The so-called high emotional intelligence is all about achieving the ultimate goal.
Many people can't wait to make themselves sleek, in fact, the so-called "maturity" of many people who have come over is just a compromise after smoothing out the edges and corners and fading the edge, which is a kind of premature spiritual aging and the premature death of personality, without truly understanding the meaning of high emotional intelligence.