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One of the signs of maturity is when we realize that something is better hidden in our hearts than in words. Over the years, I've found myself sharing my life with the people around me less and less often. Whether it's work or relationships, I tend to digest issues alone and then make decisions independently. In the past, when I met someone I could talk to, I would always pour out all my thoughts, including personal privacy and painful pasts, hoping that the other party would resonate and be comforted. However, as the years went by, I came to understand that there is no such thing as true empathy. The joy you share can turn into a show-off in the eyes of othersThe pain you pour out may seem like a joke to others. You can never predict that what you have said in the past will become a tool for others to hurt you in the future. Therefore, I chose to remain silent, burying some things deep in my heart and no longer sharing them with others. This is perhaps a sign of my growth, and it is also my understanding and respect for the world.
In the early days of my career, I had simple thoughts, unsuspecting of the people around me, and I had no reservations about what I thought and said. Once, while chatting with a colleague, they talked about each other's relationship journeys. She curiously asked me why I hadn't been in a relationship for years. Out of sincerity and trust, I opened up to her and told her about my unforgettable relationship. It was a love affair full of fraud and betrayal, so much so that after the breakup, I fell into a deep depression, and I doubted whether I had the eye to know people and whether I was really suitable for love. Every time I recall that relationship, it hurts like a knife, and sometimes I even burst into tears unconsciously when I talk about it. I thought that such an honest confession would bring us closer, but it wasn't long before I heard my story from another colleague who spoke in a playful tone. At that moment, it dawned on me that my pain was just an after-dinner conversation in the eyes of others, not worth mentioning. In this world, no one can really feel the pain of others, just like the feeling of ten thousand arrows piercing the heart and not wanting to live, that is just your business. Others may sympathize with you, they may sigh, but it will never be clear to them how far your wounds have festered. 
In human interactions, it's a labyrinth. You are sincere, others may not be sincereWhen others open up to you, you may not be able to understand what they mean. In this world, everyone has their own secrets and brilliance, just as "everyone snows, everyone has their own obscurity and purity". So, we don't have to share everything with others, and we don't have to talk about our sufferings when we meet others. Emotional fluctuations, ups and downs at work, family strife ......These are all journeys that we must go through and endure alone. Talking too much to the outside world will only add to your own troubles. If you talk too much, you will lose, if you talk too much, you will be annoyed, if you talk too much, you will easily have disputes, and if you say less, you will feel wronged. Therefore, restraining the desire to share may be the best way for us to protect ourselves. Sometimes, you think that confiding will bring salvation, but often you end up pushing yourself deeper into the abyss. Kazuo Inamori once warned adults: "In the interaction with people, it is better to say less and control the desire to express." Just be calm and gentle, not humble or arrogant, not ostentatious. Don't talk endlessly about the past in search of resonance. Unintentional qualities are often more powerful than a thousand words. Think about it carefully, which time did it bring you not remorse?Quietness has long been a plus. "In this complicated world, let's learn to be quiet, learn to face and bear alone. Let our hearts become a quiet lake, not fluctuating due to the wind and grass in the outside world. In this process, we can truly grow and become truly strong. 
I've always been convinced that in any relationship, we don't need to talk and share to bring each other closer. Because, true happiness and deep sadness are often not empathetic to others. The road in the first half of your life requires you to walk step by step, and only you can deeply experience the taste. And the road in the second half of your life requires you to persevere. Whether it is joy or sorrow, worry or sorrow, you have to face it alone, and no one else can share it for you.