In a small forest, the crow and the dove were close friends.
However, one day, the crow decides to leave this habitat and say goodbye to its friend Pigeon.
The pigeon asked the crow curiously: "My dear friend, why are you leaving?"”
The crow replied sadly, "Actually, I don't want to leave either, but the people here are too indifferent to me.
They complained that my cries were too desolate and that I was not welcome to stay. I just can't stand this loneliness. ”
The pigeon was silent for a moment, and said affectionately to the crow: "Friend, if you don't try to change your voice, then it will be difficult to find your true home wherever you fly to **." This is known as the "Raven's Law".
If a person fails to face up to his own shortcomings and just blindly avoids them, then not only will the problems not be solved, but more problems will arise. True maturity is the ability to constantly reflect on oneself, face one's shortcomings calmly, and be brave enough to change.
Change of mood: do not blame when encountering problems
To err is human. On the vast stage of life, everyone can take the wrong step. We can't expect perfection because everyone is unique. Blaming them, like a raging storm, will only make things more tricky. On the contrary, not to blame in case of trouble reflects a person's cultivation and wisdom, and also gives things a better space to deal with. The great writer Su Shi, in the disputes of the imperial court, was repeatedly ** by Zhang Dan, was demoted all the way, and went through ups and downs. In the most difficult time, he was relegated to the distant Hainan province, where the environment was harsh and he was physically and mentally tortured. However, even in a desperate situation, Su Shi still maintained a calm and breezy attitude and laughed it off. 
In the third year of being demoted to Hainan, the imperial court granted amnesty to the world. Zhang Dan's son was afraid that Su Shi would come back to take revenge, so he wrote a letter to intercede overnight. However, Su Shi did not hold grudges, but instead sent prescriptions and cared about Zhang Dian's body. In his reply, he wrote: "But what has been done in the past, let alone what has not been, is only about those who have not been." This means that the past has passed, and it is useless to dwell on it, so it is better to focus on the future. Su Shi's story tells us that in the face of the faults and injuries of others, we should learn to empathize. Blame yourself with the heart of others, and forgive others with the heart of forgiveness. Because things have already happened, blaming will not help and will only increase the annoyance. Stop blaming and learn to be tolerant, life will become more and more smooth, and the road of life will be wider and wider. 
Change mentality: Don't dwell on bad things
Nietzsche mentioned in "The Other Side of Good and Evil": "If you fight with the evil dragon for too long, you will become an evil dragon yourself." Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back. This sentence tells us that in the process of entangling with unpleasant people and things, we may gradually become similar to them, or even be swallowed by them. Therefore, not dwelling on bad things is not only a kind of wisdom, but also an attitude. Han Shin's story of "humiliation under the crotch" teaches us that in the face of provocation and insult, we can choose to endure and draw strength from it. Han Shin's tenacity and wisdom allowed him to rise from this setback and eventually become a great general. This tells us that not dwelling on it is not cowardice, but letting go. 
Voltaire once said, "It is not the mountains in the distance that make a man tired, but a grain of sand in his shoes." This is a metaphor that illustrates how small things can often cause us big troubles. We can't change the existence of rotten people, nor can we change the development of rotten things, but we can adjust our mentality, find the cause from ourselves, and learn to free our hearts. 
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For the rest of our lives, we should be strict with ourselves, lenient with others, and work hard in a down-to-earth manner. Only in this way can we truly realize the value of our life and let life shine brightly.