As the executive deputy director of the Organization Department of the Municipal Party Committee, my cousin has considerable real power. He also grew in the family and became the most powerful of his relatives. My cousin and I are more closely connected than any other relative. We often keep in touch online, but rarely see each other in real life. There is only an opportunity to meet at the annual gathering of relatives, after all, everyone is busy. As his cousin got older, he gradually interacted less with relatives and friends, only occasionally contacting him.
The gradual increase in his cousin's promotion and power distanced him from his relatives and friends. Probably because he was busy with work and didn't have much time to communicate with his relatives, he could only see him at regular gatherings of relatives. As a relative that my cousin is more familiar with, we have relatively more contact with each other, which also reflects the importance that my cousin attaches to me.
My cousin's son was admitted to the college entrance examinationLiaoning UniversityAlthough it is only a college, it is already a very good result in the eyes of ordinary people. However, his son went through several provinces and citiesCivil servantsI didn't get the exam. I want to stay in the provincial capital, but the time is not ripe. Later, he transferred the child to the county unit through connectionsCareer establishment。Although after working for a few years, I was successfully transferredMunicipal units, but in the examCivil servantsOn this issue, there has been no result.
My own son showed extraordinary talent and Xi ability from an early age, and was eventually admitted to ZhejiangUniversity。This made me proud, because among my relatives I became the envy of others. However, I could also feel a bit of jealousy in the congratulatory words of my relatives. After his son graduated, he decided to take the examCivil servants, feeling that this is a stable and promising career choice. However, since I didn't have any connections in the system, it was very difficult to develop within the system.
I asked my cousin for advice on how to promote my son, and his answer was frustrating. He said that it was difficult for anyone at the grassroots level to be willing to promote his son, so his son would do itCivil servantsThis post. His advice was that if my son wanted to develop, it would be better to work in the ministry because it was too difficult at the grassroots level. However, I am well aware that this is only his personal opinion and does not give me any substantial help.
In the cousin's son'sWeddingsHe asked about my son, and I replied that he was not working well at the grassroots level and could not be promoted. So, I made a request to my cousin that I wanted him to help me, asking if I could transfer my son to our city for a job.
The cousin smiled mockingly and said, "Do you think this is a joke?"Inter-provincial transfers, don't even think about it, unless your son has a very special situation, or has the support of senior leaders. As the head of the organization department, I only have that much power. "I was a little disappointed by his denial, but I understood what he meant. After all, under the current system, he can't help my son more.
In my conversation with my cousin, I gradually realized that even though my son was admitted to the cityCivil servants, and he doesn't necessarily give particularly much assistance. Although my cousin and I have a decent relationship and he has the ability to arrange transfers, I was clearly disappointed by his attitude. I understand that not everyone in life would want others to live better than themselves, even between relatives.
After this conversation with my cousin, I realized that no matter what difficulties I encountered, I still have to solve them on my own in the end. I am not worried about my son's choice, he has a good career and development opportunities. I told my son that he could take either path he chose, as long as he followed his character and wishes. I didn't disclose these things to anyone, including my cousin. After all, few people other than their parents would sincerely congratulate someone on their success.
My cousin didn't know about my son, and I came back to attend his son's wedding. He asked about my son again in his spare time, and I replied, "It's still the same, working at the grassroots level is not going well, and I don't get the opportunity to be promoted." "My cousin was furious with me, blaming me for not listening to his advice. He thinks that my son should go to the top and enter a unit like a ministry. He pointed out that it is very difficult at the grassroots level and no one wants to promote. I pretended to be pitiful and asked him, in that case, how about being transferred to our cityAs the head of the organization department, he must have the ability to connect with the above. After all, we are real relatives, and it is not too much for him to put more thought into it.
However, the cousin just sneered and said, "Do you think this is a joke?"Interprovincial transfers are simply not possible unless your son has a very special situation or someone at the top who supports him. "I was very disappointed by his words, but I also understood what he meant. Under the current system, he can't help my son much.
I gradually realized that it didn't matter if my son was admitted to the city or notCivil servants, the cousin may not necessarily give particularly much assistance. Although we have a good relationship and he has some ability, I am disappointed by his attitude towards this matter. I understand that not all relatives in life will want others to live better than themselves, especially when personal interests are involved.
Through the communication with my cousin, I gradually realized that no matter what difficulties I encountered, I still have to solve them on my own in the end. I told my son that no matter which path he chooses, as long as he follows his own wishes and interests, he will have good opportunities for development. Instead of pinning my hopes on others, I encourage my son to think for himself and make the best decisions for his future.
This exchange with my cousin made me even more convinced. Although I feel disappointed and confused at times, as long as I keep working hard and believe in my ability, I believe that my son and I will have good results. I decided not to put my hopes in others, but to actively look for opportunities to create better conditions for my son's development. Eventually, we all live the life we want.