"Wading through the Sea of Wrath".
The injury of the family of origin is the first knife to stab the child
Wading through the Angry Sea" has just been released, and it has rushed to the box office list in Chinese mainlandtop1
Have you seen it?
Cao Baoping + Zhou Xun + Huang Bo, these three names make this movie have its own appeal, and the labels such as "large-scale" and "revenge" during the publicity period make the highlights of the movie continue to be superimposed.
Many viewers felt that "Wading in the Angry Sea" was the best domestic movie in recent years, and they were shocked by the work;Of course, it also caused a lot of controversy among the audience.
This is a film that is destined to cause controversy, after all, its final focus falls on psychological issues, especially such extreme psychological issues.
Two days ago, after watching this movie, after two days of repeated confirmation to my heart, I still want to say that this movie is the most movie I have seen this year.
Synopsis: Lao Jin (played by Huang Bo) fishes all day long for his daughter Jin Lina (played by Zhou Yiyi) to study abroad, but in exchange for the death of his daughter who was stabbed to death by 17 knives, the biggest suspect points to her boyfriend Li Miaomiao (played by Zhang Youhao). The angry old Jin embarked on the road of seeking revenge across the sea, but Li Miaomiao kept absconding under the protection of her mother Jing Lan (played by Zhou Xun)...
There are several main lines in the plot, so I won't spoil them, today I want to stand in the perspective of family education and talk about the impact of the harm of the original family on the child's life.
What happened to the children who lacked love when they grew up?
This movie portrays Nana as a love brain who is extremely lacking in love and can't live without a man, and she is about to go crazy at every turn.
This also represents a type of image of a girl whose parents are divorced and lack love in reality. The film boldly unfolds reality and presents it to people, not pure fiction.
Because Nana's parents are divorced, she has never felt love, and she doesn't know love at all, let alone learn how to love someone.
She gained attention and love by self-destructing, going crazy, and **.
She would mistake Li Miaomiao's toying for love;
will use a third party as a "substitute" to gain Li Miaomiao's attention;
will regard Li Miaomiao's killing of the turtle for possessiveness, pulling out bloody teeth, and throwing away her shoes to prevent herself from leaving as the ultimate love;
Will put his hand in the refrigerator and freeze it to get someone else's care;
These are all signs of self-love.
In real life, girls who lack love will show varying degrees of self-love at a certain stage when they grow up.
I learned from a psychological counselor friend that a mild degree of self-love may manifest itself as an extreme love brain, and once you are emotionally involved, you will immediately lose your rationality and reason;The degree is really terrible beyond the imagination of ordinary people, and it is very serious.
Therefore, Nana's role in the movie cannot be said to be common, but it must be real, and it is not niche.
Why is Nana so crazy?This is also a very simple logic, that is, people of course need attention and love, we learn to Xi to perceive and receive love from infancy, and then absorb and internalize love as a kind of nutrition.
The lucky man has learned how to open his perceptual system under the bath of rich and sufficient love in his childhood, which will bring him peace for almost a lifetime, and he will always be able to rationally find love in things or not love, and then make a clear choice.
But what about people who lack love?Since she was born, she has begun to try to Xi the possibility of perceiving love, but found that there is no love around her.
So as she grows up, this switch of feeling love is always blocked, and when she grows into an adult, there is still no similar love thing that touches this switch, when she has her own power, this power is actually very terrible, because the need and strength are proportional.
This terrible power is also gendered, and loveless boys and girls behave differently when they grow up.
When a boy who lacks love grows up, in most cases his power will allow him to transform this imbalance into all kinds of destructive behaviors as he grows up, and conquer the world with his power.
Unlike a girl who lacks love, she will have a belief in her heart, just like in a fairy tale, believing that Prince Charming will always come to her life. This prince will pamper her, and will give her all the love she has not felt and lacked.
Therefore, the girls always feel that all misfortunes are temporary, and it is good to grow up. So such girls will no longer be able to hold back their hearts at the age of 15-18, and they will feel that they have finally reached an age where they can open their doors.
It's like a plot in the movie: Nana, who just came to Japan to study, the teacher told the students that throwing a small copper coin in this pond can make a wish that they can meet fate or something, and then people throw down a copper coin one after another, and Nana poured a whole bag of copper coins into the pool.
What a classic scene, how she lacks love, and how she wishes she had more love. I can't wait for the love that the whole world owes her back.
In the movie, Nana fell in love with the ** man Li Miaomiao. Li Miaomiao just bought a small piece of cake for Nana, and such a small favor made Nana's heart overflow and she couldn't extricate herself.
In their love with incorrect views, they have done a lot of abnormal behaviors, and Nana is constantly testing whether Li Miaomiao really loves him.
When she saw Li Miaomiao break off her front teeth for her, others were scared silly, and she would feel that this was the highest concentration of love she had ever seen.
Because she has always lived in thin love, her original family did not give her the love she needed, so she perceived love from here.
For her, normal love is not enough to fill her gap, and she needs a lot of love that goes beyond the standard line to feel just right.
And Nana just met Li Miaomiao, Li Miaomiao is a **, he is not normal to do things, beyond the standard, he is the kind that does everything and lives it, he can fight with others for her, this kind of love just makes up for Nana's lack of love.
Normal love can no longer be satisfied, only this kind of love that has been sharpened and pierced enough to pierce **, poked on her body, will she feel a little pain.
And this small pain is also her refreshment, and it is also her perception of the value of her life.
At the end of the film, Nana committed suicide and stabbed herself seventeen times with a knife, which is also proving the ultimate love.
She is ending her life in a self-destructive way, and she will not ask Lao Jin for help, because she has not felt the love of her family since she was a child.
There is a comment that says it particularly well:
Dad looked for the ** of the whole show, and finally found out** that it was himself.
It turned out that Lao Jin, who was a father, never gave Nana enough love, and the harm to the family was the first knife to stab the child.
What kind of family children will lack love?
Well, seeing this, we return to reality, what kind of family children will lack love?