What is the best state of a family A woman wants to be atmospheric
The heart is like a fish tank, only allowing goldfish to play; Only the heart is like the sea, and the whales are allowed to swim.
How big is a woman's heart?
As the old saying goes, "a woman's heart is a needle in the sea", but a woman's heart can also be as wide as the sea, both delicate and inclusive.
The capacity of the heart does not depend on appearance or wealth, but on the broad-mindedness, calmness of handling things, and a detached view of human feelings.
01 The heart is as narrow as a fish tank, and the goldfish cannot escape the pain of hitting a wall.
Among the neighbors of Grandma's house, Uncle Liu and Aunt Zhang's married life is not as perfect as it seems.
Uncle Liu is a corporate department manager, tall and handsome, and quite capable at work. Aunt Zhang works in a bank, has a lively personality, loves to talk and laugh, and always pays attention to the details of life. Although they seem to outsiders to be a talented and beautiful couple, they often quarrel, mostly because Aunt Zhang suspects Uncle Liu of having an affair.
Year after year, their marriage still has a lot of quarrels. Uncle Liu was not promoted in his career, which made him feel distressed. It is said that their son is also a mischievous and poor academic child.
If a woman always looks at her lover with a critical eye, no matter how good the other person is, it will become full of holes in her eyes. This kind of picky woman seems to be shrewd, but in fact she is narrow-minded, like a fishbowl. Even goldfish can't escape the fate of hitting a wall in a small fish tank.
If a woman's inner capacity can be measured by a measure, then Aunt Zhang has many enviable external conditions, but she still has not been able to manage her marriage well. How big is her heart?
02 The heart is as big as the sea, and the whale roams in it.
At grandma's house, Uncle Jia's family lives in the courtyard on the right.
Uncle Jia is a tall truck driver, ** black but smiling, showing white teeth.
His wife, Aunt Li, is a clerk of the Commerce Bureau and is always amiable.
People often say that Uncle Jia is not worthy of Aunt Li. Someone said in front of them: "The driver of the big car, he doesn't make much money, and he is gone for several days, and your daughter-in-law is still so considerate of you, which is really a blessing from eight lifetimes!" ”
However, Aunt Li always responded gently: "My old Jia is very capable, but the time has not yet come." I believe in him. ”
Later, Uncle Jia's business grew bigger and bigger, successfully contracting a fleet of vehicles and even starting his own company. He seems to be really as Aunt Li said, but the time has not yet come. Moreover, their daughter was admitted to a prestigious university in Shanghai, and her life became more and more smooth.
When a woman looks at the people around her with appreciation, she is bound to become better and better over time.
Even if there are flaws, be good at discovering the strengths of the other person.
When considering problems, think from the other person's point of view, and over time, the capacity of a woman's "heart" will be as wide as the sea. At that time, why worry that there will be no whales roaming freely?
Every time you encounter a setback, you are honing your "heart" capacity, which is an opportunity given by God to experience.
If you only feel panic, fear, and anger when faced with a difficult situation, it means that your "heart" capacity is not large enough. A large stone is enough to make the water in the fish tank splash, like stirring up the wind and waves that overturn the river and the sea.
In case of emergency, it is even more important to keep your heart at peace. This process is the process of exercising the heart.
When dealing with things, take a more long-term view. The larger the capacity of a woman's "heart", the broader the pattern of her life and the broader her vision of seeing people and things.
Even a small fish can grow into a big fish as long as it is given enough space and conditions.
To have a tolerant heart means to always be grateful; Behind the peace with the encounter is a reflection on oneself; Only by swallowing grievances and hardships and nourishing one's own pattern can we gain insight into the detachment of human feelings.
Only in this way can we have a mind as broad as the sea. At that time, how can the small fish and shrimp match the endless sea.