What is the experience of marrying a little grandfather?
At first glance, it's beautiful:
The only son of the Duke of Qi has a good family background, good looks, excellent character, and high talent, how wonderful it should be to marry such a person.
However, if you ask his wife, the answer may surprise you.
In the drama version of "Do You Know", he has two wives.
The original partner went to Yuqingguan with him to make a wish, and sincerely wished to have a child with him, but he secretly prayed for another woman, Minglan.
After the death of the original partner, the Shen family who continued the string asked him to go back to his room to sleep, but he didn't go.
Although he is motivated and hardworking, his private life is simple, and he does not go out of Fireworks Willow Lane, but he treats his wife as a guest and is polite, and there is no tenderness and sweetness between husband and wife at all.
These two women really love him, and it is not difficult to imagine that they who always put their husbands first must have felt his deliberate alienation.
In front of outsiders, they are envied women, because they are married to the little grandfather, but in fact?
As husbands in the state of a little grandfather, as wives, they will feel very bad and bad.
That's it, after all, the little grandfather has Bai Yueguang in his heart, and there are people who can't let go, maybe he really can't be good to other women.
However, under the cover of this infatuation, there are also character flaws hidden in him.
At the banquet in the mansion, Minglan invited the little grandfather to a private meeting, and the little grandfather ran to the private meeting.
Judging from his expression and language, he is quite happy, and he has the intention of continuing the frontier.
Probably when Xiao Tao found him, he was so pleasantly surprised that he didn't think about anything, so he ran away.
But should he go?
At that time, he was already married for the second time, and Minglan was also married, so they had a private meeting like before marriage, is it still appropriate?(I didn't say that a private meeting before marriage was appropriate, but this private meeting was even more inappropriate).
The private meeting at the Hefu banquet was initiated by Minglan with a clear cause and purpose.
Under Mo Lan's prodding, Shen found Minglan and was ill-intentioned and worried.
For the sake of the Qi family, for the Shen family, for the sake of her husband, and for the sake of her own good life, she invited the little grandfather to have a private meeting, asking him to let go of the past, cherish the present, and focus on the future.
Minglan came with proportions and boundaries, but the little grandfather had no sense of proportion at all.
Probably "what you don't get is the best", he just pays attention to the feelings he doesn't get, and even asks why, he still hates this and hates that.
If he said this before he got married for the first time, it is completely understandable, after all, he was young at that time, and his vision of problems was often superficial, incomplete and profound.
However, from never married to his second marriage, so many things happened, his father was trapped, his mother went crazy, his original partner died, he married a second wife, he was on the list, and the current situation was turbulent, and the palace coup d'état. So many things didn't teach him to grow up, and he was still the impulsive and reckless teenager he used to be.
The more measured Minglan is, the more impulsive he seems.
The man is married and the woman is married, and he is still struggling with "Why don't you hate me?".”
What about Minglan hate?
What if you don't hate?
There are many helplessness in life, and not every helplessness has a clear answer.
The answer to the question doesn't matter anymore.
At this time, the most important thing is that in that era of strict etiquette, you are all people with status and status, and you must live well according to the mainstream culture, and you can't leave a handle on others, especially not let the woman be honest.
However, the little grandfather didn't understand, so he impulsively went to a private meeting, impulsively asked Minglan to ask questions that shouldn't be asked, and said things that should have rotted in his stomach.
Of course, a big disappointment in the end is inevitable.
Speaking of which, their last private meeting when the man and the woman were unmarried also took place in the Hou Mansion.
At that time, not long after the death of the old marquis, Xiao Qin thanked everyone for the care given by the old marquis during his death and feasted everyone.
Taking advantage of this opportunity, the little grandfather made an appointment with Minglan .
At that time, the little grandfather had been fighting against the family for a long time without eating or drinking, trying to make the family compromise in this way, so as to marry Minglan smoothly.
This way, it seems, is the only way for him.
Because he has always been an obedient and well-behaved baby, of course, it is precisely because of his goodness that he has achieved a good reputation on the outside.
In the private meeting, he still swore that he would not marry Minglan unless he was married.
It's important to swear, but it's even more important to do practical things.
Since you have a firm mind to marry Minglan, then do what you should do:
For example, if this is not successful and the mother does not agree, is there a plan B, plan C, or even more for the mother to finally agree?
For example, what if the private will be discovered?
For example, if it is found that they are not meeting with the county lord, but someone else, will he be able to keep Minglan out of the way?
That era was too strict with women, if what you did couldn't protect the woman you loved, was this really like, or was it wishful thinking under your own impulse?
However, it seems that the little grandfather didn't think about it.
It's just that he misses Minglan and impulsively asks Minglan to ask Minglan without thinking about what impact it will have on Minglan once the matter is revealed.
As early as when he was studying in the Sheng family's private school, he knew that the six girls were having a hard time, but not only did he not help the six girls live easier, but instead brought more difficulties, such as the polo club he begged Mrs. Wu to run last time, which brought endless gossip to Minglan .
The polo meeting is still just gossip, if this private meeting is discovered, what kind of uproar will it be?
These bad things that may happen, the little grandfather doesn't seem to have a plan to deal with them.
suddenly remembered Huang Xiaoming's "I don't want you to think, I want me to feel", which is also appropriate for the little grandfather.
He didn't think about what it was like to be really good for his beloved, but he just imagined "good for you".
In the past, when I saw the little grandfather who didn't eat or drink and missed the illness handing pastries to Minglan , I was so moved, and I felt that this was the sweet taste of first love.
At that time, they were all young.
It's understandable that young people are impulsive.
But, in fact, this is also the consistent character of the little grandfather.
He was always impulsive and reckless.
Even after Minglan asked him for a private meeting, he didn't think carefully about why he didn't marry Minglan Cheng.
It is true that he has to overcome many difficulties and wait for the right time to cross the class, but he has not done it properly.
always takes things for granted with enthusiasm, and in his career, it is reasonable to be used by the Queen Mother.
Fortunately, after being used, the consequences are not serious.
Fortunately, his later continuation was the smart Shen, if he changed to someone else, he saw that his husband had another person in mind, and for this person, he ran to a private meeting;
When this man gave birth to a child, he insisted on going even if he didn't need to put out the fire, without paying any attention to proportion.
His impulsiveness may make his wife suffer a great deal of grievance.
Moreover, if his wife is also impulsive, in order to vent her anger, she doesn't know what she will do, and Minglan doesn't know what trouble she will encounter.
The impulsiveness of youth can be regarded as a joke, but they are already husbands, and they have not yet Xi rationality and a sense of boundaries, and they are still so impulsive, and they will be scolded.
He shouldn't have gone to the private meeting invitation at the Hefu banquet, which was not only for Minglan and the Shen family, but also for the Gu family, the Qi family, and the Shen family.
If he can restrain his inner impulses, considering the impact on everyone, I think Minglan will be impressed with him.
But he didn't.
I was even thinking that when he was preparing for the scientific expedition, he probably didn't know that Minglan and He Hongwen were dating, and he just wishfully felt that the scientific expedition and the first trip to the Sheng family to propose marriage, but you also have to understand the real things in real life first.
He is like the students we meet when we are in school with good family conditions, status, appearance, and good grades, but he may be too well protected by his family, and he is prone to impulsiveness and imagination, and does not care much about others.
Wishful thinking and doing it without scruples, it is actually quite sad to have such a person as a husband.
There must have been a lot of vomiting and tears behind Shen's back, and even because of his impulsiveness, even the Shen family had to go to the emperor to help him intercede.
And his impulsive character flaws are all because he has Minglan in his heart, and everyone thinks he is infatuated, so he is tightly covered.
I know that the little grandfather and Minglan are many people's unease, in the past, they were also my love, and I always thought at that time, if they were together, how good it would be.
However, the more I watched, the more I understood that the little grandfather was not as rational and responsible as Gu Tingye, and he couldn't give Minglan real happiness.
Emotionally, he was too impulsive and didn't think about what kind of impact his actions would have on the other party, whether it was Minglan or Shen;
In his career, he also acts impulsively and is easy to be taken advantage of by others.
He has a good card in his hand, but his own cultivation needs to be strengthened urgently.
At the end of the drama version of "Do You Know", he had a happy ending, a good career, and a successful marriage, but I always feel that in the future, his road is still very long.
He can suddenly find himself in love with the Shen family next to him and let go of Bai Yueguang, but his impulsive personality that is hidden under infatuation cannot be changed overnight.