I miss my second father and mother
Su Yanxia. At about 8 o'clock in the evening on December 17, 2023, on this cold winter night, my second mother (Fan Xiucheng) was lying in bed in exhaustion after dinner. After 84 years of her life, she died. On December 23rd, November 11th of the lunar calendar, I was buried together with my second father (named Su Laiyou), who had passed away for 32 years, at the Lone Ziliang Cemetery in Dalat Banner, Yikezhao League, Inner Mongolia. In those days, my sister and brother made a special trip to the funeral, which reminded me of so many unforgettable memories.
The second father is the father's second brother, and they have six elder brothers and seven brothers and sisters. Among the old brothers of the father's generation, the second father is the most righteous, the most capable, and the most economically minded. The second father was born on February 11, 1934 lunar calendar, childhood chaos, many adults, hunger, is in extreme poverty and hardship, thirteen or fourteen years old followed his parents to the west exit to escape the famine to get food to Dalat Banner. When I was 15 years old, my grandfather unfortunately died of a sudden illness, when my eldest father was only 17 years old, my third father was 13 years old, and my aunt was three years old. In the bleak years, the second father helped the old and the young, worked as a coolie, and pulled his brothers and sisters to live a difficult life. Perennial in the local woods called the flour mill (a workshop for the production of vermicelli, vermicelli and other foods), the pot mill (the old liquor production workshop), dry heavy physical work, long-term humid and hot environment caused him to suffer from ** disease, itchy and unbearable. During this period, the second father and two mother got married and gave birth to three sons and two daughters. The second father went out earlier and returned late, trying his best to support his family. Later, he helped people repair houses, stoves, and houses. The second father was also famous in the woods, and later set up a small-scale maintenance team. Although the second mother is thin and weak, she has worked hard all her life and helped the second father to manage the livelihood of a large family!Tired prematurely bent over.
The second father is not only smart and willing to endure hardships, but also has a lot of economic acumen, as long as he has a little leisure, he sees the opportunity to dump cattle and sell pigs, sell wood, make money to subsidize the family, and support his brothers and sisters to study and start a family. The second father is naturally warm-hearted, and any of our big families are always willing to discuss with him when there is something, rely on him to make ideas, and rely on him to mediate when encountering trouble. In fact, the second brother is the backbone of our big family. I remember that the big wardrobe of the second brother's marriage was still the one that the second father hired a carpenter to bring back to Dongba (the village where the big father lived). In the 80s, the second father had repeatedly checked several villages around the forest, and asked people to find relationships to prepare for our family to move to Daqi and leave the old Gaochuan who relied on the sky for food. From 1986 to 1987, my second father Zhang Luo transferred me to Daqi No. 6 Middle School to go to school, eat and live in their house. A lot of strong family affection, so that we warm and moving, unforgettable!Although I am a niece, I am better than a daughter, except for the parents who gave birth to me and raised me, my second father is probably the person who helped me the most on my way to growth.
Of course, in addition to me, the second father also cares and helps our brothers and sisters of the same generation, including my aunt's cousins, cousins, relatives and friends of him and the second mother, without the slightest distance or closeness. I often remember that at that time, I had just made a big pot of rice, and there were always some distant relatives at home, and my second mother was always hungry for this.
Among our sisters, the second father will always be an example for us to learn. His nephews both respected him and feared him.
The second father relied on his hard-working hands to finally live a more stable life, and his physical strength was overdrawn all year round, and he became ill from hard work, and his health deteriorated, and he was framed by others with jealousy and slander, and he suffered lawsuits, and finally the second father who was upright by nature was sick and sick. And the early death of the eldest brother dealt a heavy blow to the ill-fated second father's heart, which became an unforgettable pain in his life. On February 2, 1991, he left his favorite family with hatred, at the age of 58, and the untimely death of his second father is the eternal unhappiness of our entire family.
That year, I was in my third year of high school at Yulin Middle School, and I came home during the summer vacation to learn the news of my second father's death. Looking back now, I feel very guilty in my heart because I couldn't finally give him a ride to the old man's house. When he was sick and bedridden, I didn't stay by his side to accompany him and talk. For more than 30 years, I have been feeling guilty in my heart. After 32 years, this time the second mother passed away, so I could go to his grave and burn paper to pay tribute and remember. (The older generation pays attention to women, and they can't go to their mother's grave casually).
The second father is not afraid of bullying all his life, and he does not bully the good and the weak. He is not afraid of ruthless people, and he does not deceive weak people. Our nephews both respected him and feared him. He is vigorous and resolute, and speaks loudly and crisply. He often teaches his children and nephews to be upright, hardworking and self-reliant.
Looking back on the life of the second father, it is an ordinary and difficult life. But there are also many extraordinary personality traits in him. He is smart and industrious, unites brothers, is a good neighbor, and helps relatives and friends, regardless of distance and proximity. Therefore, the second father and the second mother are also blessed old people, and the descendants of their children are loyal and prosperous. The second brother, the third brother, the eldest sister and the second sister's family are prosperous and happy. Thanks to the old man, the second father and the second mother have two grandchildren, one granddaughter, and one nephew, all of whom are positive and have successful careers. There are also great-great-grandchildren, one male and one female, both lively and cute.
Now, the second father and the second mother have left us forever, but they will never forget their kindness!Their spiritual outlook and personality charm will always be the heirloom of our family, and we will inherit and carry forward their benevolence and virtue!
I wish the second father and mother all the best in the other world!May their blessed stars shine brightly, and future generations will be forever!