To give, is rich in consciousness;Giving is the psychology of superiorityGiving is a virtue。If the giving is willing, it will produce a wave of energy, which can not only make the recipient feel loved, warm, and supportive, but also make the giver feel happy.
On the contrary, not wanting to give is a sense of poverty, which has nothing to do with how much wealth you have. Rich and stingy, he is an out-and-out "psychological destitute", no matter how much money he has, he always compares with the richer and produces greater greedwithPossessive. The essence of many people's ** and vicious competition is the bomb detonated by this consciousness, which not only destroys themselves, but also harms their families and society.
The ancients said, "When you have more than enough to help others, you will never be able to help others." "Believe it?How much money does a person have to be content?If you compare yourself with Bill Gates, you will probably always be poor, and if you compare yourself with people who are not as good as yourself, you will immediately become rich, as the saying goes, "those who are content are rich." If a man is not content, not only will he not give charity, but he will never feel joy and happiness.
There is a story about a man who occasionally picked up a golden arhat in the mountains and was so overjoyed that the whole village was envious and even jealous. But it didn't take long for him to become depressed and irritable again, and others asked puzzledly, "You are already rich, why are you not happy?"He said dejectedly, "I'm thinking, what about the seventeen Arhats?"When will I find them.......
On the other hand, giving is not necessarily money and material things, it is a broad concept. "The best way to implement the law of giving," says Mae Chopra, "is to make a secret determination that you will give something to whoever you come into contact with, whenever and wherever you come into contact with them."It doesn't have to be in the form of a substance, it can be a flower, a thanksgiving, or a prayer. In fact, the most powerful form of giving is immaterial. Care, care, love, appreciation, and love are the most precious gifts you can give, and they don'tYesWhat money to spend. When you meet someone, you can silently send him a blessing, hoping that he will be happy, happy, and smiling, and this kind of quiet giving is extremely powerful. ”
Reflecting on our current marriage and family, parenting education, and other interpersonal relationships, many misunderstandings, troubles, and failures are the result of not truly understanding giving, learning to give, and giving sincerely.
Let's talk about the giving between husband and wife first, many couples ignore this point after getting married, such as timely comfort when the other party encounters confusion, frustration, and even spiritual emptiness and loneliness. For example, a female worker who is off the job is sickInsomniaWhen depression came to the consultation, he said: "My husband is socializing outside all day long, and threatens to say what are you afraid of being laid off, and I am not raising *** you, what do you have to worry about, isn't it better to stay?."Reading this passage, you can understand the psychology of the female worker, but her husband cannot understand the words of sympathy, even a white lie may be better.
There is also a lady, who works very well in the unit, but she is good at nagging, her husband is a business manager, and when she comes home, she nagged her children's school Xi, and the things of the unit, and she does not understand her husband's fatigue for a day, and even worries and irritability, the couple often quarrel because of these little things, and then the lady learned the law of giving, "the sun comes out, and the haze dissipates". Her method is actually very simple, whenever her husband comes back in the future, she will make a cup of tea with a smile, and say: "My husband has worked hard, drink some tea first, take a rest, and the meal will be fine for a while...... AuthorThinkEven if you don't make tea, greet it with a smile and a hug. There is a story about a wise man who supported a marriage on the verge of divorce, that is, when the husband came back every day, the wife took the initiative to hug enthusiastically, and as time progressed, the hug became stronger, and a month later, the two reconciled as before, and fell in love again.
A cup of tea, a smiley face, a hug, they're all thereYesThe energy of love is generated, and when this energy continues, it is as if the temperature of the water is constantly rising, and finally the quantitative change reaches a qualitative change, and a rainbow appears in the sky.
Let's talk about parent-child educationAuthorfound that this is also the main contradiction of unhappy and unhappy families in many familiesIt not only caused tension between parents and children, but also caused "a fire at the city gate to affect the fish in the pond". It has even affected the polyamorous contradictions and pain between husband and wife and between grandparents and grandchildren.
Due to the current pressure on students, schools and parents are taking the lead by scores, and students' psychological problems are increasingIn this case, parents should learn to "appreciate" education, and give their children some understanding, encouraging words and eyesAgain"Whipping fast cattle", so as to lead to the regret of pulling seedlings to fuel. For example, a father and son compete with each other, so that the son does not want to see his father, let alone communicate with his father. His father, Mr. Jia, was a private business owner, and he was depressed and helplessMeAfter I told him the principle of giving, he insisted on applying it for half a month and it worked, do you want to know the method?It's actually quite simple. When he saw his son again, he just smiled sincerely and said, "My son just needs to learn Xi as much as he can, and don't hurt his physical and mental health......."When the father said it once or twice, he may not have much energy, but when he continued to talk for half a month, the son actually burst into tears, took the initiative to owe to his father, and was able to communicate honestly.
MiscellaneousRelationships are often better handled than those in the family, as long as you are sincere anytime, anywhereofGiving, believing that in time, it will drip through the stoneAs the saying goes, "The human heart is made of flesh." "How can you not be impressed?
It is reported that even if it is an animal or a plant, when you give it love, they will feel it and give it back in time, such as cows will secrete more milk after listening to itWhen you look at and praise the flowers, they will also appear more energetic and blooming. On the other hand, if you hurt them, such as when a man inserts a cigarette butt into a flower pot after smoking, the flower will secrete a toxin to retaliate against you. If you beat a cow, it will also secrete a toxin that reduces the amount of milk produced.
It is not difficult to see from this that it is not difficult to realize that the switch of positive and negative energy is in everyone's hands. Everyone is a container of good, evil, beauty and ugliness. It accumulates and releases good, evil, beauty and ugliness anytime and anywhereA series of opposing information and energies, such as giving and taking, and from this derives the ever-changing nature of the human world.
The truth of the universe is: "The more you give, the more you get, and the connotation of the so-called "giving" is, giving less and less, giving big and not reluctant. From the point of view of quantum physics, human beings are carriers of information and energy. Information needs to be constantly circulated and exchanged and used appropriately. In the same way, energy needs to flow constantly, just as blood in the human body flows every minute. Circulating flow means that man is alive, and when the flow of circulation is blocked, man is sick;When the flow of circulation stops, the person dies.
In other words, everything in the universe is giving and receiving, clouds rising and rain falling, rain falling and clouds rising;Falling flowers into mud, mud and flowers, giving love, love and feedback, biochemistry, and infinity.
If you are happy when you give, you are also happy to give. According to this theorem and law, if you want to be happy, you give happiness to others;If you want love, you have to give love;If you want to be rich, then first help others to be rich......Only in this way will energy continue to flow and circulate in the universe, the world will be full of vitality, and life will be full of vitality.