"As soon as I write my homework, my mother yells at me" The flashpoint for parents is also the sadness of students
In order to ensure that their children do not lose to others at the competitive starting line, and in order to make more effective use of their spare time, many parents take the initiative to take on the responsibility of "tutoring homework". However, the results of this initiative have not been satisfactory.
Recently, many primary and secondary schools have started to implement online classes, which has virtually provided more parent-child time for students and parents. However, due to the influence of the general environment, most of the parent-child time can only be spent indoors, and the main indoor activities are often tutoring.
As a result, some parents began to confide in their children's troubles in the class group: writing homework too slowly, making frequent mistakes, lacking initiative, and making excuses to go to the toilet or drink water when it comes to homework. Parents are venting their frustrations to their students, but do students also complain to their parents in their hearts?
As soon as I did my homework, my mother yelled at me"This is the voice of Xiaomei, a second-grade elementary school student. Since my mother did not go out to work during the epidemic, she began to tutor her math homework every day. It doesn't matter if the teacher doesn't assign homework, mom can do it herself.
Xiaomei described that her mother always left some difficult homework. In just over 20 days, although Xiaomei learned a lot of math knowledge, she also learned some things that her mother often said, such as "Why are you so stupid?".Why do you have so many things to do?”
Xiaomei understands that her mother's homework is for her future, but she doesn't understand how her mother's yelling helps her, it just makes her feel more disgusted with studying, and even wants to burn all the workbooks.
Xiaomei also revealed that every time her mother yelled at her, she also felt very sorry for her mother and was worried that her mother would be angry. And my mother also has a habit of always promising her that she will not yell in the future, but every time she forgets her promise because of small things.
Can parents really understand the student's inner monologue?First of all, students expressed dissatisfaction with their parents' problems. Secondly, the parents' excessively strict education did not cause students to consciously recognize their mistakes, but caused students to start to hate learning.
Thirdly, the parents did not really let the students correct the mistakes, but let the students see the mistakes that the parents did not believe. In the end, the inner world of the students is already very rich, and they feel very sorry for their parents in their hearts, but the parents ignore the distressed students when they shout.
But parents are also very distressed, there are a lot of mistakes in students, as the saying goes, if the tree is not repaired, it will not slip straight, and you can't always watch students make mistakes but let them develop without education. In fact, parents ignore one thing, education pays attention to methods.
Regarding "tutoring homework", the flashpoint of parents is also the sadness of students at a time when the degree of student involution is so severe, and at the moment when parents are gradually joining the ranks of involution, tutoring homework has basically become a daily must-do homework for parents. If you want to reduce the number of arguments when tutoring homework, parents need to know their students well enough.
In fact, the flashpoint of parents is often the same sadness of students, to put it simply, parents are angry when they see students writing so-so homework, and students' hearts are also uncomfortable. Therefore, an excessively strict education does not necessarily attract the attention of students.
On the contrary, it is recommended that parents should first understand the reasons why students make mistakes. Generally speaking, students are struggling before writing homework because students are not interested enough in learning, and parents can help students improve their interest in learning through a reward and punishment system and setting learning goals.
Students make too many mistakes in learning, which may be due to lack of seriousness or lack of mastery of classroom knowledge.
Why do parents usually do well, but as soon as they help with homework, they change?Most of the questions are parents, and this question is a question that many students, including Xiaomei, want to ask. The author believes that most of the problem lies with parents, especially for younger students, and the parents' education style and high expectations of students are the main ways of influence.
First of all, parents should help students develop good self-learning skills, rather than being criticized and corrected by parents all the time, such as by setting study time for students and making study plans. In terms of expectations of students, parents should not use an adult's ruler to measure students, nor should they use a magnifying glass to see students' shortcomings.
The author's message: There are countless parents who yell at students as soon as they write their homework, from a good point of view, this is a manifestation of the parents' attention to education, and from a bad point of view, it is a reflection of parents who do not know the correct way of education, but we believe that more and more parents will realize their mistakes.
At the same time, students' mistakes are the root of their parents' roars, so students should understand their parents' good intentions, be a horse that "does not need to raise a whip and work hard", and have the belief that "no accumulation of steps can reach thousands of miles", and become a good student who makes himself and his parents proud.
Today's topic: Are you a parent who yells at your child a lot?
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