Chapter 1: Overly Strong Personality (1) – Negative Effects on Children
In a family, if the mother's personality is too strong, it will often have a bad impact on the child's development. Strong mothers tend to be very strict with their children, and will even force their children to obey their own commands. Children can become cowardly, lacking self-confidence and independence because of their absolute obedience to their mothers and lack of right to speak.
Strong mothers can be too harsh in their words and often use a tough tone to reason with their children. They harshly criticize and blame their children for their negative behavior, and even punish them with corporal punishment. This kind of education can easily make children feel fear and pressure, and they will become timid, afraid to express their opinions, and even lack autonomy.
In addition, the parenting style of a strong mother often makes the child lack innovation and self-motivation. Strong mothers tend to pay too much attention to their children's grades, and may give too much help and guidance in order for their children to achieve good grades, or even complete tasks on behalf of their children. In the process of growing up, such children lack the opportunity to exert their creativity and problem-solving skills, and it is difficult to develop the quality of courage to try and keep improving.
In order for children to develop independence and self-confidence, there are a few things moms can do. First of all, the mother should give the child appropriate autonomy. For example, children can be given a certain amount of autonomy in making some decisions and learn to think and make decisions on their own. Secondly, mothers should provide adequate support and encouragement to their children, so that they can face setbacks and difficulties bravely and persevere. At the same time, mothers should fully respect their children's individuality and wishes, and constantly encourage them to give full play to their strengths and abilities.
Chapter 2: Overly Strong Personality (2) - Psychological Effects on Children
Due to the education of overly aggressive mothers, children tend to lack self-confidence and independence. They may have doubts about their abilities and are afraid to think and act independently. When faced with difficulties and challenges, they tend to hold back because of a lack of self-confidence and are unable to overcome difficulties. For them, it's not the problem-solving skills that matter, but the reliance on others for support and guidance.
To help her child build self-confidence and independence, there are a few things that moms need to do. First of all, mothers can lead by example and set the right example for their children. Mothers should show confidence and optimism and encourage their children to face challenges bravely. Secondly, mothers can provide appropriate opportunities for their children to solve problems on their own. Children can be given small tasks to try to complete independently, thus developing their confidence and independence. In addition, mothers should give their children full praise and encouragement, so that they can feel their own value and ability.
Chapter 3: Excessive Spoiling (1) - The Psychology of Dependence in Children
Overdoting mothers tend to give their children too much care and attention as they grow up, resulting in the formation of a dependency mentality in the child. The child spends every day under the protection of his mother, lacking the ability to solve problems independently. They are Xi to relying on their mothers to solve various difficulties in life and will not try to find solutions on their own.
Overdoting mothers care too much about their children's life chores and Xi problems when they are growing up, and do not give their children proper space and freedom. Under this control, the child becomes unassertive, and everything is subject to the mother's arrangements and decisions. They are prone to losing their will and ability to choose, and always rely on their mother's decision-making.
To help children develop the ability to develop independently and independently, mothers can take the following approaches: First and foremost, mothers should give their children the right space and freedom to give them the opportunity to solve problems and make decisions on their own. Secondly, mothers can give their children certain responsibilities and tasks to let them take on their own roles. For example, let children tidy up their own rooms, do laundry, etc., to develop their independence. At the same time, mothers should give their children full encouragement and support, believe in their abilities, and not give excessive protection.
Chapter 4: Excessive Spoiling (2) – The Child Lacks Autonomy
Overly doting mothers tend to do everything for their children and do not give them any chance to be autonomous. In everyday life, children hardly need to worry about themselves, so they form a great dependence on their mothers. Children will think that as long as their mother is around, any problem can be solved. They have no opinions of their own, lack autonomy, and will only rely on their mother's decision-making and guidance.
To help children develop a sense of autonomy and independent thinking, mothers can take the following approaches. First and foremost, mothers should give their children proper autonomy and give them the opportunity to try to make decisions and solve problems on their own. In some daily life, children can make their own decisions, such as choosing what clothes to wear and what food to eat. Secondly, mothers can provide their children with some enlightening questions to guide them to think independently and express their opinions. Children can also be encouraged to actively participate in group activities to exercise their autonomy and sense of cooperation. Finally, mothers need to give encouragement and recognition to their children at all times, so that they realize their own value and abilities.
Chapter 5: Excessive Spoiling (3) – Affecting Children's Academic and Interpersonal Relationships
Overdoting mothers tend to focus too much on their children's academic Xi and will over-interfere with their children's academic Xi in order for their children to achieve good grades. They may enroll their children in various training classes, complete homework on behalf of their children, and strictly supervise and control their children's learning and Xi activities. This kind of education method can easily make children lose their interest and motivation in learning Xi, and become bored with learning Xi. In the long run, a child's academic performance may be affected by a lack of self-directed learning Xi and active exploration.
Overly doting mothers tend to interfere excessively with their children's social activities and do not allow their children to socialize freely with other children. They may control their child's circle of friends and limit their range of friends. This kind of education can easily make children show dependence and inferiority complex in interpersonal communication. They do not know how to build friendly relationships with others, and lack the ability to cooperate and communicate. In the long run, children's interpersonal relationships may be limited, affecting their social skills and interpersonal interactions.
In order to maintain the balance between her child's academics and relationships, moms can adopt the following methods. First of all, mothers should give their children a moderate amount of space for independent learning Xi, so that they have the opportunity to show their Xi and ability to learn independently and Xi. Secondly, mothers can encourage their children to participate in various social activities and develop their sense of cooperation and communication skills. It can also give children a good social circle and give them the opportunity to socialize with various people and learn Xi.
Chapter 6: Excessive Pampering (1) – The Child Lacks a Sense of Responsibility
Overly pampered mothers tend to provide their children with too many benefits and conveniences, so that the children do not have the sense of responsibility for themselves. In daily life, children do not need to do housework or pay attention to their own trivial matters, because their mother has already solved all the problems for them. This kind of education method can easily make children lack a sense of responsibility and have no sense of responsibility for their own actions.
To help children develop a sense of responsibility and self-care, mothers can take the following steps. First of all, mothers should give their children certain responsibilities and tasks so that they have the opportunity to take on their own roles. Let your child help with household chores, such as tidying up the room and washing dishes, so that they understand their responsibilities and obligations. Secondly, mothers should provide appropriate support and encouragement to their children so that they can persevere in the face of difficulties and setbacks. Finally, mothers should establish correct values and responsibilities in their children, so that they understand the importance of taking responsibility for their own actions.
Chapter 7: Excessive Pampering (2) - The child lacks the spirit of cooperation
Overly pampered mothers tend to be laissez-faire and indulgent to their children, not setting any rules and constraints for them. It is difficult for children to learn cooperation and teamwork in this environment, and they are Xi being self-centered and ignoring the needs and feelings of others. They do not know how to work with others, and lack basic politeness and presentation skills in dealing with others.
To help children develop a spirit of cooperation and communication, moms can take the following approaches. First of all, mothers should establish correct values for their children, so that they know how to respect the needs and feelings of others. Secondly, mothers can provide some opportunities for their children to interact so that they can learn to share, cooperate, and communicate. For example, you can participate in group activities and work together with other children to complete tasks. Finally, mothers should give their children sufficient support and encouragement, so that they can gain a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction in cooperation.
Chapter 8: Excessive Pampering (3) - Affecting Children's Moral Development
Over-pampering mothers tend to indulge their children's wayward and rude behavior, not giving them proper rules and constraints. This kind of education method can easily make children form a selfish and willful character. They do not know how to respect the needs and feelings of others, and may be rude and arrogant when dealing with others. In daily life, children may lack the ability to self-discipline and behave unruly and morally.
In order to cultivate children's moral and moral values, mothers can adopt the following methods. First of all, mothers should set the right example for their children and show good moral character and moral values in their own behavior. Secondly, mothers can participate in some public welfare activities with their children, so that they can learn to care for others and help others. At the same time, mothers should also give their children correct moral education, so that they can understand what is right and wrong, what is justice and fairness. Finally, mothers should give their children appropriate rules and constraints, and punish and guide them appropriately when they violate the rules, so that they can understand the consequences of their actions.
Over-spoiling and over-pampering can have a negative impact on a child's growth and development. Under the excessive care of the mother, the child is easy to form a dependency mentality, and lacks the sense of autonomy and problem-solving ability. They may have difficulties in their studies and relationships, lacking a sense of responsibility and cooperation. In order to avoid this from happening, mothers should give their children appropriate autonomy and responsibility, and develop their independent thinking and self-care skills. At the same time, mothers should also give their children reasonable rules and constraints to cultivate their moral and moral values. Only in this way can children grow up healthy and independent.