People often say: "Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been natural enemies." ”
This statement is not unreasonable, but it is not entirely clear.
In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men are useless, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies.
I think so. Because behind every bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, there is a husband who is with the mud.
Recently I saw a very disturbing post.
Recently, the weather was cold, and when the woman was taking a bath in the bathroom, there was suddenly no hot water.
Helplessly, she shouted at the door in the bathroom for help, but no one came for a long time.
She was shivering from the cold, so she could only quickly rinse off the shower gel on her body with cold water.
Being inexplicably turned off the hot water has already made her very angry.
Who knows, when she went out to the bathroom, she saw a scene that disappointed her.
The husband and mother-in-law sat in the living room talking and laughing.
After the woman told her husband what happened to her, the husband did not care about her, but clapped with her mother-in-law.
Her husband's attitude made her completely lose confidence in marriage.
She didn't understand why her husband would do this to her.
So, she angrily locked her husband out of the room and didn't let him in.
It didn't take long for the woman to receive an apology message from her mother-in-law.
Only then did she know that the valve was deliberately closed by her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law came to apologize at this time because she was afraid that her son would be cold if he was locked out.
The mother-in-law didn't care at all whether her daughter-in-law would be cold.
In the mother-in-law's heart, the daughter-in-law is always an outsider.
After her best friend Xiaoying gave birth to a child, her mother-in-law spontaneously took care of Xiaoying during her confinement.
But the mother-in-law either stayed in the room and didn't come out, or told others everywhere how tired she was with the children.
Only in front of her husband, the mother-in-law will pretend to take the child.
When Xiaoying occasionally complains to her husband about her mother-in-law, he only thinks that it is hard enough for her mother-in-law to take care of children.
Why can't you be more tolerant, but look for things everywhere and make him in a dilemma.
When her mother-in-law knew that at this time, she would cry in front of everyone, as if Xiaoying had bullied her.
As a husband, you should understand that it is foolish to insist on favoring your parents regardless of right and wrong.
It's like what is said in "The Marriage of the Two of Us":
"Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are originally a by-product of marriage, and two people only have interests, not direct relationships.
Whether the family relationship is good or not, the way the husband handles it is the most critical part
A man's silence is not generosity, but an escape from inaction.
When one puts yourself out of the way, the war between the two women never stops.
I once saw a Q&A:
Why is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law so difficult?”
There is a highly praised answer that goes something like this:
"A mother-in-law who has been humble all her life, the only one who can exercise power is her daughter-in-law.
The first time I tasted power, I didn't know how to be a human being for a while. ”
Most of them transferred the grievances of being daughters-in-law to another person.
The other day, I swiped a**.
The mother-in-law pressed her daughter-in-law under her and beat her violently, and her words were even more mean.
Her dad was a cripple and a dirty mess. ”
The daughter-in-law lying under her had given up the struggle, and her face was desperate.
It is understood that the daughter-in-law and her mother's family are looked down upon by their in-laws, and have even been subjected to various bullying and abuse for a long time.
After the daughter-in-law gave birth, the mother-in-law came to take care of the daughter's confinement, but was beaten by the son-in-law.
Before the children grew up, as a husband and father of the children, he went to study abroad.
It also fueled the prestige of her mother-in-law, and she became the most powerful person in the family.
Thus appeared, the scene of the mother-in-law beating her daughter-in-law violently.
This scene also made many netizens angry.
It is an unavoidable thing to treat a daughter-in-law as a daughter and a mother-in-law as a mother.
If you can't be enthusiastic about your daughter-in-law, you must have at least respect.
stepping on the daughter-in-law's head to make a fortune not only disturbs the family style, but also makes people despised.
There are countless cases like this, saying that it is the mother-in-law's problem, but it is more of a man's problem.
Once, a woman and a counselor kept complaining about her mother-in-law's various badnesses.
The counselor asked her, "How is your relationship with your husband?"”
She fell silent for a moment.
Her husband rarely had the patience to listen to her and often walked away in boredom.
When there is a conflict with her mother-in-law, even if she is reasonable.
But her husband's words are always towards her mother-in-law, so that she can be more considerate and understanding.
Never stepped forward to help her say a word.
In fact, there is a particularly classic saying:
"Your in-laws' attitude towards you is all acquiesced by your husband. ”
In life, her husband always takes her contribution for granted, and he comes and goes as soon as he calls her.
As a mother-in-law, she naturally does not respect her daughter-in-law.
I agree with the words of the emotional mentor Zhou Xiaopeng:
"When there is a problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men are not qualified to remain so-called neutral. ”
The two women got together for him, and as insiders, why should they hang up for themselves?
The husband is thoughtful at both ends, and when he is the glue between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the family will be harmonious.
As the old saying goes:"One mountain is the most difficult to tolerate two tigers, and it has been difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along since ancient times. ”
But instead of-for-tat, it is better to take a step back for the sake of that mutual lover.
Today I talked to a colleague about her mother-in-law.
She considers herself lucky to have met a good mother-in-law.
Her mother-in-law often praised her for being kind, independent, filial, upright, and beautiful in front of everyone.
When buying a house after marriage, my colleague and her husband were short of money, and when my mother-in-law found out, she did not hesitate to take out her savings to support the life of the young couple.
When a colleague gave birth, my mother-in-law waited anxiously outside the delivery room.
During confinement, I tried my best to take care of her, and the meals were basically the same every day.
As a husband, he never mentions small frictions and collisions with his wife.
In front of his wife, he always affirms her ability.
The mother-in-law has never suppressed her, and no matter what she wants to do, the mother-in-law will firmly support her.
She said: "My mother-in-law is better to me than my own mother. ”
I agree with a sentence on the Internet:
Stupid mother-in-law will swear her place in the house;
made the chickens and dogs jump at home, and the son was in a dilemma.
A wise mother-in-law will be good to her daughter-in-law and never embarrass her daughter-in-law;
Only when the daughter-in-law is good, the son and grandson will be good, and such a family will be happy.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not related by blood, and they can't talk about any emotions at first.
It's only because of the love for the same man that they get together.
When there is harmony between family members, the whole family can go up.
With a good mother-in-law, marriage is half the success.
With a good husband, the family will be happier.
seems to have a harmonious relationship, but there will be a man who can handle the relationship behind it.
Bad husbands do, good wives do;
There is a contradiction, the husband mentions;
Something pleasing to the wife;
Only then can the family be harmonious, and only then can the family be of one heart.
The mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as if she were her own child, which is lucky;
It is the norm for a mother-in-law to have reservations about her daughter-in-law.
So, remember:
Only by setting a bottom line can we protect ourselves;
Lower your expectations so that you don't suffer from gains and losses.
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