What is the meaning of the ancient tradition that newlyweds must "return to the door" for three days of marriage?This may seem like a shy move, but it carries a profound cultural connotation. Chinese people have always paid attention to etiquette, especially on important occasions such as weddings and funerals. And as a part of the marriage ceremony, what is the profound meaning of "returning to the door"?First of all, the return door symbolizes a change of identity. At this time, the bride and groom will prepare gifts and go to the woman's home. The family will prepare a sumptuous feast to welcome the couple. This move means that the bride has since become an "outsider" and a guest of her mother's family. Therefore, the bride arrives as a guest when returning to the door, and the maiden family treats the daughter's return door with the same etiquette as a guest.
Secondly, I also go back to thank my family and friends. Preparing for a wedding is a lengthy process that requires the help of friends and family. On the day of the wedding, the couple is so busy with various ceremonies that it is difficult to thank the relatives and friends who came to the wedding. On the day of return, the newlyweds invite their relatives and friends to gather together to express their gratitude. Among them, the most important to thank are the bride's parents. The husband is grateful for the nurturing of his father-in-law, while the wife is grateful for the nurturing grace of her parents. In addition, it is also a day off for newlyweds. In ancient times, couples who married at a younger age had relatively little knowledge of marital life. Therefore, on the day of returning to her mother's home, the mother and other married women will pass on some coupleship experience to the bride to help her better adapt to the new family life.
In addition to the above connotations, Huimen also has a lot of attention in the ceremony. Both husband and wife should prepare a return gift in advance, which is usually an even number of gifts, implying that they are in pairs. When entering the woman's house, the woman is required to enter the door in some places, symbolizing leading the groom back to his parents' houseIn some places, the groom enters the door, which means that the groom comes to the door to marry. Although different regions may have different customs, some places return to the door for three days, some places for five days, but regardless of the day of return, these traditional customs exist to make people better adapt to the new married life. I can't help but think deeply, what kind of wisdom and emotion is contained in this ancient custom in married life?
In today's fast-changing society, we should cherish these traditional cultures, draw wisdom from them, and add more warmth and beauty to our married life.