Wen Xiamo. Life is like a journey, and marriage is like the most important attraction in the journey. If you don't make a good choice, you will have a lot less joy and happiness in life.
Parents can't decide what their children choose, but they can help them look at it and give constructive advice.
After all, my parents have seen a broader world, walked through the dullness of marriage, and experienced the vicissitudes of this world.
Visionary parents do not marry the four types of families
I have a girlfriend who originally had a good chat with her blind date and was ready to go further.
Her mother suggested that the parents meet and the two families have dinner together to learn about each other's family situation.
The atmosphere was good during the meal, and the best friend's mother asked casually, saying why she didn't bring her little daughter to meet.
The man's parents looked disdainful when they mentioned their daughter, saying: She is not important, but she is a daughter's family, and she will not be her own family if she marries in the future, so there is no need for her to participate in such an important occasion.
Hearing this, both the girlfriend and the parents denied the relationship.
Parents said that the family values sons over daughters, and Xi is used to devaluing women, and if they marry into such a family and give birth to a daughter in the future, they don't know how much they will be wronged.
There is a bad atmosphere Xi habits in the family, and there are bad ideas that are deeply ingrained and cannot be easily changed in the future.
As Maugham said, "It is much easier to change good Xi habits than bad Xi habits, which is one of the great sorrows of life." ”Bad Xi at home will be like a quagmire, making people fall into it and have no daylight.
Forward-thinking parents will examine the family style of their in-laws. If the family style is not correct, the value of the three views will inevitably be wrong.
A complex family will inevitably have complex family relationships.
Family relationships are complicated and can be very tiring. After all, maintaining relationships between people takes a lot of time and energy.
Gu Tingye in "Do You Know" begged for Minglan , but the grandmother who loved Minglan the most always disagreed, firstly because Gu Tingye had a bad reputation, and secondly, his family relationship was too complicated.
Gu Tingye's stepmother seems to be kind and amiable, but the city government is very deep. At the beginning, he successfully calculated Gu Tingye and drove him out of the Hou Mansion.
There are many brothers in his family, seven aunts, eight aunts, uncles and aunts, none of whom are easy to get along with.
She was afraid that Minglan would marry in the past, and she would be too embarrassed and unhappy.
In a family, there are many family members, and various interpersonal relationships need to be handled carefully and carefully.
Too complex interpersonal relationships can consume a lot of enthusiasm for life. I have to juggle some tedious little things every day, and I am too tired to live.
Parents would rather their children marry a family that is not so wealthy, but the family relationship is simple and easy to get along with.
After getting married, if the family is not harmonious, it is bound to be difficult to be happy.
Before getting married, it is necessary to examine the atmosphere of the man's family.
Sanmao said: "The most peaceful happiness in the world is to quietly observe the world and the world and slowly taste its harmony." ”If the family members are not of the same mind and have their own ideas and positions, they will fight for themselves and will not maintain the development of the family.
A friend of mine, before she got married, knew that her husband's parents were quarrelsome. At that time, she naively thought that it didn't matter if she got married and wouldn't live with her parents.
After getting married, the parents quarreled and divorced for three days, and their lives were not peaceful at all.
There is no joy and happiness in a family that is not harmonious.
When you spend time with it, you will feel like you are in an ice cellar. Life is depressing, and there is no hope in sight.
Forward-thinking parents will not let their children enter into a family that is not harmonious. Because, when entering such a family, intrigue and beware everywhere, the happiness index will be reduced.
Before getting married, it is important to inquire about the reputation of your in-laws.
A family with a good reputation must be a good person, cultivated, measured, and knowledgeable.
If so, a family has a bad reputation, and the neighbors give bad evaluations. Then we need to investigate it carefully.
The notorious family, like a trap.
If you enter a family with a bad reputation, you will suffer, which will affect your own development and even drag down your life.
Because, notorious families, there may be personal misconduct, grumpy, lazy Xi. Either way, it could be a huge hidden danger in the future.
To marry such a family is to make trouble for yourself.
When a child gets married, as a parent, you should help him to inspect the family.
Falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is not. When two people are together, their families of origin will have a particularly close bond.
Before getting married, children should listen to their parents.
Parents have a certain amount of experience, and some considerations are also far-sighted, so think more about the worst outcome and think about whether you can bear it. Only by making rational judgments can we ultimately determine the future development.
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