I need to be consistent, and sometimes even speak out loud, and openly export my principles and values so that others can perceive them, so that I can be trusted by more people.
A friend once discussed with me the question of "how to gain trust".
His main point of view is: emotional intelligence should be higher, be a person, and be able to speak;Do things reliably. Especially if you promise someone else, do your best!
My point of view is a little different, I think that if a person can stick to his principles and maintain consistent values, then he has his own righteousness and will not easily compromise for the sake of external pressure or personal interests.
And the so-called reliable work, the underlying logic is that you must have the ability to get results, rather than casually agreeing to others and deliberately pleasing others.
If the flowers are in full bloom, the butterflies will come. ”
I can't be liked by everyone, so it's better to set rules for myself and form my own values
Showing their own stance and attitude, such a person is consistent and reliable in words and deeds, and on the contrary, it will be easier to gain the trust of others.
For example, I have set myself the principle of "health first".
I've found before that when I'm tired from work, I have lower demands on my health.
But if even your own physical health is lost, then there is no way to talk about a good life.
Therefore, my goal is not only to seek outwardly, but also to seek inward.
It is necessary to make a global inventory of my health and add "health investment" to my work and life, which will make my "flower of life" bloom longer and more brilliantly.
Moreover, it is even more necessary to maintain a certain "sense of relaxation" and present a kind of mental relaxation, which can dominate one's life.
As a result, disease --, health++.
This principle is also affecting my mentality - people have to learn to reconcile with themselves, life is only 30,000 days, how many years do I want to struggle with internal friction?
For example, I have set the principle of "being sincere" for myself
Because in my cognition, all kinds of techniques are not as good as Yicheng.
So, no matter how reluctant I am, I always have to be sincere.
Honestly admit your mistakes and admit your ignorance generously, instead of covering it up with one lie after another.
When the tide goes out, it's clear who's swimming naked!
Also, getting along is also important in sincerity.
Whether it's friendship, family affection, or love, sincerity is the cornerstone that holds these bonds together.
Only by appreciating others with a sincere heart can we truly win the respect and trust of others.
Only by treating yourself sincerely can you truly love yourself and find your own happiness and value for yourself.
For example, I set myself the principle of "act now":
I didn't have the ability to act before, and I would put it down to personality reasons:
Naturally timid, he just doesn't like to take risks or try new things;Easily affected by emotions and often unable to concentrate on tasks.
It is true that the "shortcomings" of personality such as timidity and emotional instability will affect action to a certain extent, but if the lack of action is attributed to personality reasons, then this problem only stays at the level of subjective consciousness and is difficult to change.
But I found that almost all of my worries and fears were in my own imagination, and I would find out how real they were when I really did it.
So,As soon as I have the initial idea and logic, I will start to take action, and gradually eliminate the "ambiguity" by obtaining feedback, and this continuous feedback can also support me to continue to have enough motivation to move forward.
And when I know that the actions I take are likely to lead to positive results, I feel more confident. 05
Finally, to sum up:
Sticking to principles is a person's attitude towards things, and it is also a rational way of thinking.
A rational person should know what he can do and what he should not do, not only have a proactive attitude, but also know how to retreat.
Sticking to principles is also my core value.
I hope that in front of anyone, I can be consistent with my heart and mouth, instead of having one thing in my heart and one thing in my mouth.
Just like another of my values, neither humble nor arrogant.
And I need to keep them consistent, and sometimes I even need to express them out loud, and publicly export my principles and values so that others can also perceive them, so that I can be trusted by more people!