When it comes to falling in love, chatting is one of the important ways to enhance your relationship. However, some boys and girls may encounter a cold spot in a relationship, leading to a situation of estrangement in the relationship.
When you fall in love, how to chat so that you don't get cold?Come, read the following, it can help everyone maintain a pleasant chat atmosphere in a relationship and avoid cold spots.
1. Prepare in advance
Before chatting with lovers, we can prepare some topics and chat content in advance, so that we can have something to say when chatting. You can find out a little bit about the other person's interests, work life, family background, etc., and then start a chat about those topics. At the same time, you can also prepare some interesting topics, such as travel, movies, **, etc., to increase the fun and interactivity of the chat.
2. Pay attention to tone and style
When the two chat, let's pay more attention to the tone and method of communication, and maintain a relaxed and natural atmosphere. Don't be too nervous or deliberately imitate the way others speak, but use your own words and expressions to express your thoughts and feelings. At the same time, pay attention to listen to the other person, do not interrupt or steal the conversation, and let the other person have enough time and space to express their thoughts.
3. Find common ground
Finding common ground is one of the most important ways to strengthen your relationship when chatting. We can ask each other some questions about hobbies, travel experiences, family backgrounds, etc., to understand each other's experiences and ideas. At the same time, you can also share your own experiences and feelings, and share your life and thoughts with each other. By finding common ground, you can get to know each other better and increase your sense of intimacy and trust in each other.
4. Avoid sensitive topics
Chatting can be imaginative, but we should also try to avoid sensitive topics such as religion, money, etc. These topics are prone to controversy and disagreement, which is not conducive to maintaining a good chat atmosphere. If you want to talk about these topics, you can start by asking the other person if they want to talk about it, or choose a more relaxed way to talk about it.
5. Ask open-ended questions
We can ask more open-ended questions to increase the depth and breadth of the chat. Open-ended questions allow the other person to think more deeply and express their thoughts and feelings. For example, "What do you think of this movie?".It's a closed-ended question, and "What do you think are the characteristics of this director's expression?"It's an open-ended question. By asking open-ended questions, you can better understand each other's thoughts and feelings, increasing interaction and understanding with each other.
6. Give appropriate affirmation and encouragement
When chatting, giving appropriate affirmation and encouragement can increase the other person's self-confidence and satisfaction. When the other person expresses their thoughts and opinions, you can give some positive feedback and affirmations, such as "I agree with you", "I think you did a great job", etc. These affirmations and encouragements can make the other person feel valued and cared for, which can increase the sense of intimacy and trust between them.
7. Use humor and a relaxed atmosphere appropriately
During the chat, humor and a relaxed atmosphere can be used appropriately. Funny stories, jokes, or light-hearted topics can ease tension and increase intimacy. But be careful to use it in moderation and don't let the humor and light-hearted atmosphere get too loud and affect the flow of the conversation.
8. Pay attention to body language
In addition to speech, body language is also one of the important ways to convey information. When chatting, we should pay attention to our body language, such as posture, expressions, movements, etc. Maintaining a comfortable posture and expression can make the other person feel comfortable and relaxed. At the same time, it is also important to observe the other person's body language to understand the other person's emotional state and attitude.
Chatting when you are in a relationship requires the joint efforts and cooperation of both parties. Through the above methods, we can maintain a pleasant chat atmosphere in love and avoid the occurrence of cold spots. At the same time, it is also important to respect the other person's thoughts and feelings, and do not force the other person to do things you don't like or change your opinion.