Text: Zhou Peng. There are many states of emotion in this world. Between men and women, in addition to love, there will also be pure friendship.
"Friendship is often formed by a common interest that is more easily attainable by two people than one," Strindberg said, "and the relationship is pure only when it is mutually satisfying." ”Whether the friendship is pure or not can be seen.
If a man and a woman are pure friendship, they will maintain boundaries when they get along, they will care about the feelings of each other's family members, and they will not cause misunderstandings among others.
Men and women are pure friendship, and they are inseparable from the following.
The relationship between a man and a woman is pure friendship, and no matter how good the relationship is, it will maintain a sense of proportion in the time of contact.
Like my next-door neighbor, he and I have been friends for over thirty years.
We work in the same city and meet occasionally, during the day. And, call each other's lovers, and never meet alone.
The purer the feelings, the more attention will be paid to the choice of time to meet and chat.
They pay attention to each other and don't socialize in each other's private time or in the middle of the night.
If you want to find the other party for something, you will consider whether the other party is convenient and whether it will have a bad impact on the other party.
Each other knows how to set aside more personal time for each other, and try not to disturb each other at night or make each other misunderstood.
The dealings with each other are also very generous and decent, and will not leave a handle on people and affect each other's image and reputation.
If a man and a woman maintain pure friendship, they will not easily cross the line when they speak.
They don't make random jokes that make each other feel uncomfortable, and they don't test each other's minds.
If one party has something on his mind and does not want to disclose it, the other party will not ask again and again, but knows how to maintain boundaries.
For the emotional life of the individual, not too much attention.
When getting along with him, if the other party wants to say, he will naturally take the initiative to mention it, and the other party will also be a qualified listener, not messing with ideas, and not commenting on others at will.
When two people are talking, keep boundaries and give each other space. The more you don't cross the line, the easier it is to make your pure friendship with each other last longer.
Men and women in pure friendship, no matter how good their relationship is and how compatible their personalities are, they will not have casual physical contact.
In life, we will not hook each other's shoulders at will, and there will be no misleading behavior.
When the other person needs help, they may pull the other person by the hand. For example, when climbing a mountain, when the other party is not on a firm footing.
After that, each other will still maintain the most basic sense of proportion, and get along with each other in a way that makes each other comfortable.
When getting along, they will not pat each other's shoulders or hold each other's hands because they have known each other for a long time or because they have a good relationship with each other.
Not having physical contact at will is the respect and maintenance of the friendship between two people.
As long as the heart remains pure and abides by one's words and deeds, one will not care about the criticism of others.
Belinsky said: "True friends do not pay lip service to friendship, they do not demand anything from each other for the sake of friendship, but do everything they can for each other." ”If a man and a woman are friends, if they are pure friendships, then they will also consider each other's situation.
When interacting with each other, they will care about the feelings of the other party's family, and will not cause unhappiness to the other party's family.
For example, they will not give each other more affectionate names, and they will not talk about each other's family members at will.
When the two are interacting, if the other party's family is also present, they will take the initiative to greet the family and show their respect.
If there is a conflict between the itinerary of the two people and the other family, try to arrange it reasonably and do not let the other family's family feel neglected.
Friendship between each other, do not cause conflicts and strife in each other's families, and do not put each other in a dilemma.
When men and women manage their pure friendship with each other, they must grasp the balance of their feelings.
When you come and go, you must keep a sense of proportion and boundaries in your time and speech.
Only by getting along with each other and being polite can you gain a pure friendship.
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About the author: Zhou Peng, an emotional writer, takes dreams as horses and words for a living. Carefully build Zhou Peng's meditation classroom, committed to cultivating the mind, improving cognition, and surpassing oneself. Grow together along the way.