Rather than feeling worthless, I'd say it's more like you're not accepting yourself enough. For example, when I say, "I think you're so kind and smart," but you hear it and you answer me, "What's the use of being kind?"?Kindness is easy to be bullied;What's the use of being smart?Smart boys don't like it. 」
If you answer like this, it means that no matter how many beautiful qualities you have or how much praise and affirmation others have given you, you will be very dismissive, because you have already played a lot of crosses and forks with yourself, and how many hooks others draw for you are in vain. In other words, you don't like yourself so much, and you don't accept yourself that much. You only focus on what you think of yourself, which is that I'm not good enough, it's my problem. 」
So what needs to be paid attention to is that sometimes it's not that you don't have good qualities or that you are worthless, but that you can't see your own merits, even if others see it and tell you, you may not be able to accept the praise of others, and it will only be regarded as a scene;But if someone says something critical to you, for example, I think you're really ill-thought and careless. Or you didn't do a good job in this case, not engaging enough, and didn't put in the effort. When you are given this type of critical language, you will accept it all, and you will feel that the other party is talking about you, and then remember it and brush yourself up with negative comments again.
And even if you feel deep down that the other party can say this about you and criticize you like this, you will still accept it all, and you will be very distracted, this is actually the situation of our inner stability is insufficient, the mind is unstable, and it is naturally easy to follow other people's thinking.
Your dislike, uncertainty, and even your habitual criticism of yourself are all habits that have been developed over the years of thinking and thinking, that is, you see everything you do, even if you have worked very hard to complete it, in the end you will definitely pick and choose what you do, and you will find out all kinds of faults, and you have never been satisfied or encouraged after completing a thing. So basically it's a matter of your habit with yourself.
So, to solve this problem, first of all, you have to be aware that you have this habit, and then you have to get rid of this habit, and even you have to treat yourself in a way that turns around, you have to be able to appreciate yourself, you have to affirm yourself, and even you have to do the gratitude practice of thanking yourself every day, these are all very important, because these are the ways that you can change your self-perception, re-examine yourself, and treat yourself in a new way.