However, as a result, Zheng's army was defeated by Hu, who had already set a trap. Guan Qisi, a "confidant", also became a victim of Zheng Wugong. So, when someone shows you a "selfless" side and is worried about you leaking secrets, be careful. Second, frequently express your favorability. Like you is not necessarily a good thing. Some people will frequently express their love for you and their concern for you. They will suddenly appear next to you and will often give you ** and make you feel like something special. However, this manifestation may be that they are asking you to pay more and involve you in their plans without you even noticing. While they like you, they may also use some small means to make you love them more and more. When you're in trouble, they'll step up and show selfless care, making you trust them more. However, by the time you notice something is wrong, it's too late. Third, compare yourself to others. Some people will try to compare you to others. When you're in trouble, they'll tell you that everyone else can easily fix it, so why can't you?Their intention is to make you feel like a loser and that they are your only way out.
Such people will gradually build up authority around you, making you more dependent on them. But in reality, this practice is simply taking advantage of your psychological weakness and controlling your thoughts and actions so that you serve them unknowingly. Fourth, constantly criticize you. Constantly criticizing you is more toxic than comparing you to others. Some people will often judge or even belittle your words and actions. They will tell you that what you are doing is wrong and what you are thinking is wrong. This kind of criticism will not only make you feel inferior, but also make you feel powerless, thinking that you are not capable of doing things well. Such people will gradually establish authority in your life and make you more dependent on them. But in reality, this practice is simply taking advantage of your psychological weakness and controlling your thoughts and actions so that you serve them unknowingly. Therefore, when the above hints appear in the people around you, you must be vigilant, think more about the problems, and keep yourself from being harmed. Have you ever gone out of your way to find out the truth behind a so-called secret?Have you ever trusted someone only to be caught by you inadvertently?
These things may seem like just happening by chance, but in reality, the reason behind them is that those people don't know how to deal with their emotions and information. In interpersonal communication, secrets are often a way to increase mutual trust, but sometimes, the other party will turn your secrets into a kind of **, used to threaten you or control you. Therefore, we must learn to protect our secrets, not to give our secrets to others easily, and not to tell our secrets to people who are not very familiar with them. And when dealing with mistakes, we also need to keep a clear head, and don't easily trust the tolerance and tolerance of others, because this is likely to be a trap, and the other party may seize your handle and create more trouble. Therefore, when we do something wrong, we need to correct our mistakes in time, learn to admit our mistakes, and apologize to others in time, instead of blindly avoiding or denying our mistakes. Finally, in interpersonal interactions, we need to always be vigilant and not easily believe the words of others, because there are often deeper problems hidden behind them. We need to learn to see others for what they are, to master our emotions, and to remain calm and rational in the face of complex situations.
Only in this way can we avoid being taken advantage of by others, protect our rights and interests, and maintain our dignity and respect. New article: "The heart of the human heart is sinister, be wary of the trap of "killing"In the complex social circle, it is often difficult to distinguish between the truth and hypocrisy between people. Sometimes, when we are in a bad situation, the people around us may suddenly list all kinds of our faults, as if they already knew about it, but they have always chosen to remain silent. This kind of "killing" behavior makes people feel like they have gone astray, and there is no chance of turning back. Before King Shang was killed, the people around him were very flattering to him, so he didn't know it. This method of "praising and killing" makes people wonder why some people can list our faults one by one when we are unlucky, but when we are lucky, they seem to ignore all this. In fact, these people have long known about our crimes, but they have chosen to remain silent, or even lie to cover up the facts. This makes people can't help but sigh at the sinister nature of people's hearts. In addition, some people will take the initiative to be friendly to us and even send us gifts. However, we are to be cautious about such kindness and gifts. Although this may seem like a good thing, in fact, we may be getting a hot potato.
Many fallen bosses started by being treated as a gift, and then they got out of control and finally fell into the trap of bribery. Those who face our smiling faces but stab them behind the back, this kind of social style we need to abandon all. After all, when you meet people, you can only say three points, and you can't throw away all your hearts. In normal social interactions, people tend to keep a certain distance from each other and not get too close. For those who are devoted to us, we need to be vigilant, because there may be various problems hidden behind it. Kind people sometimes go step by step, often because their nature is led astray by others. Therefore, we need to keep a clear head at all times and be alert to the actions and motivations of those around us. In this world, the sinister nature of the human heart is everywhere. We must learn to be wary of the trap of "killing" and not easily believe in the kindness and benefits of others. Be a bright and upright person during the day, and you will not be afraid of ghosts knocking on the door at night. Keep a cautious heart, do not trust others at will, and do not give your heart to others easily. In this way, we can protect ourselves in interpersonal interactions, while also not missing out on real development opportunities. The human heart is sinister, but we must not let that give up our trust in people.
It is only through one's own judgment and observation that one can identify someone who is truly trustworthy. Let's stay vigilant, not be fooled by hypocritical "killing", grasp the balance of interpersonal communication, and let ourselves go further. I have seen many people who have stumbled and been constantly injured on the road to love. They will do whatever it takes to get each other's attention. They tolerate all the shortcomings of each other, and even lose themselves in order to accommodate each other. But, have you ever wondered, are these efforts really worth it?Sometimes, you will find that a gentle trap is creeping up on you. What is the trap of gentleness, you may ask?It is the behavior that seems to be gentle and considerate, but hides the intention of framing. In the process of pursuing love, we often meet people who are very gentle and take care of us in every way. They will take the initiative to care about everything about us, take care of everything about us, and even give up everything for us. We will be moved by their tenderness and think that they are sincere to us. However, when we fall into it, we realize that these gentleness are nothing more than their means of framing us. So, how do these gentle traps work?
First, they will deliberately hide their true colors and pretend to be harmless. They will please us with small gestures or words that make us feel like they are what we need. They will constantly give us tenderness and affection to make us feel special. However, this specialness is based on their control and manipulation of us. They will make us dependent on them and control everything we do in a gentle way. Second, they will use our kindness and tolerance to achieve their own ends. They will deliberately create some emotional swings that make us feel like our inclusion is necessary. They will ask us for unlimited things, making us feel that this is the only way to be recognized and cared for by them. However, when we really give everything and accommodate them in every way, they will change their faces and become tired and dissatisfied with us. Our tolerance and kindness will only be seen by them as a tool of weakness and utility. In the end, they will leave us mercilessly when we fall into the abyss. When we become dependent on them and lose ourselves, they will not hesitate to abandon us. They will come up with all sorts of reasons to explain why they are leaving.
However, these justifications are only to cover up their harm and betrayal to us. We will fall into an abyss of pain and helplessness, from which we will not be able to extricate ourselves. So, how should we protect ourselves in the face of these gentle pitfalls?First of all, we need to learn to be vigilant and not to easily trust the surface of others. Gentleness is only a garment, and the true purpose may be hidden behind gentleness. Secondly, we must stick to our principles and bottom line, and don't lose ourselves in order to cater to others. Only by sticking to your own path can you stay away from those gentle traps. Finally, we need to learn to love ourselves and not give everything for others. Love is equal, and only when both parties give, can we truly enjoy the beauty of love. In short, the pitfalls of gentleness exist, and we need to be vigilant. Love is beautiful, but we can't lose ourselves for love. Only by keeping a rational and clear mind can we stay away from those gentle traps and find happiness that truly belongs to us. Let's make one with it"Cool thin"It's not harmful, and it's not easy to mess with. Let's take a step out of the trap of gentleness and pursue happiness that truly belongs to us.