The turning point of love is not only wishful thinking, but also a gradually waning enthusiasm.
At the beginning of a relationship, the boy's enthusiasm is often at its peak, like a bee that tastes love for the first time, and they devote themselves to it and pursue the pleasure of love.
They feel fresh and obsessed with everything about you, eager to be by your side all the time, close to you, and when separated, they will constantly contact you through WeChat, sharing life trivia, mood changes, and even gains and losses in the game.
They are eager to express their love for you with outpouring, and the corners of their mouths will unconsciously rise every time their name is mentioned.
The moment he saw you running towards him, his heart swelled with the desire to love and pamper you for the rest of his life, and he felt that it was the greatest luck in his life to meet you and choose to be with him.
The beginning of every love story is a beautiful fairy tale, and people who love each other always think that their passion will never wane.
However, as you spend more time together and you get to know each other's personality traits and Xi better, they may be surprised that you are emotionally complex and changeable in a real state without disguise.
Sometimes, they will regret that they started the relationship impulsively and without much thought, and in their eyes, you have ceased to be the image of the well-behaved, gentle, ideal partner, but have become an irritable person due to trivial matters.
They may be angry at your sluggishness in responding to messages, show jealousy of your conversations with other members of the opposite sex, and you may be more aggrieved and sad when he is unable to accompany you due to illness.
They see all your emotions but feel overwhelmed, whenever you get angry, they may think that you are being vexatious, what they once promised is gradually forgotten in the noise and cold war, and their patience, tolerance and affection for you begin to gradually diminish.
As time goes on, you rarely go out on dates alone, the messages they send you are less word-counted, the content is simplified, the tone becomes colder, and they don't seem to reach out to you if you don't reach out to them.
It's been a long time since they've updated their updates about you on social **, the most recent one was even half a year ago, and you forced them to post it.
Your usual chats are also gradually decreasing, they are no longer sharing with you as often as they used to, and even when they get a promotion or raise, they choose to celebrate with their friends instead of telling you.
They also stop offering comfort when you're unhappy, and they even forget your birthday and haven't said "I love you" to you in a long time.
Maybe you think they're just tired, but in reality, they're thinking about whether they should break up, and they're weighing the pros and cons of starting over and continuing the relationship.
Although they may have hesitated, they understand that it will not end well to continue in your current situation, that it is human instinct to remain warm and fresh with a person forever, and that they feel helpless about it.
After many days and nights of getting along and conflicting, their attitude towards you has become more cold, their eyes are no longer as tender and loving as they used to be, and even if you are not wrong, their attitude towards you is noticeably colder.
They don't reply to your messages, they don't answer your **and** calls, whenever you want to see them, they always make excuses to shirk, they are always busy with other things, and there is no news about you on their social **.
When you bring up the topic of the future or marriage, they always avoid it, their coldness and distancing are very obvious, and they are indifferent even when you cry in front of them.
They no longer care about anything about you, as if to exclude you from their world, and when you accumulate enough disappointments and propose a breakup, they may not hesitate to agree that for them, the breakup is not the end, but a relief.
This story tells us that the pinnacle of love is at the beginning, and that every step after that is a gradual downward process, however, we don't realize that the so-called freshness, change, and excitement stem from exploring new things with old love, rather than repeating the same mistakes in new people.
Therefore, if it feels like the relationship has entered a flat period, we can try the following methods to save the relationship:
1: Create more surprises and romance, such as giving each other small gifts or sharing movie and food nights, life is often ordinary, but the sense of ritual never fades.
2: Try to record the strengths and weaknesses of the other party, if there are more disadvantages than strengths, we can discuss how to improve together, if the advantages outweigh the weaknesses, we can continue to maintain them.
3: If there is unhappiness or grievance, be sure to be honest with the other party, and don't let the other party guess, because guessing will only deduct points in your heart.
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4: Work together to grow, and maintain personal lifelong learning Xi, balanced love can continue to move forward.
Love is a matter for two people, and I hope we can all actively participate in it, truly love each other, and truly live. Ex spit meeting