On December 23, Tao Yong, a well-known doctor, posted on Weibo about the details of educating his daughter, which attracted a lot of criticism. The article said that on his daughter's birthday, Tao Yong asked his daughter to serve meals and vegetables for relatives, and her daughter complied one by oneLater, Tao Yong proposed that his daughter should clean the dishes and chopsticks, which was blocked by his family, but under his persuasion, the daughter finally decided to wash the dishes and chopsticks.
At the end of the blog post, the analogy between "the bifurcation of a lady and a witch" and the choice of whether or not to wash the dishes for her daughter has attracted the most controversy. Some netizens described Tao Yong's behavior as "full of fatherly flavor", believing that his educational concept is backward, forcing his daughter to do housework on her birthday is excessive interference with the child, and comparing the daughter who does not wash the dishes to a "witch" and expecting her to become a "lady" is to stifle the child's willingness to develop freely. Tao then deleted the post.
Tao Yong's original Weibo article.
On the morning of the 26th, Tao Yong officially responded to the controversy, saying that he had something wrong, and he wanted his daughter to take more responsibility, but he ignored the feelings of the little birthday star, and responded humorously to welcome netizens to recommend dishwashers.
Prior to this turmoil, Tao Yong had been seriously injured in a violent medical incident in 2020, and his left arm fell and he was disabled for life. At this darkest moment, Tao Yong still showed the responsibility and tolerance of a doctor, and was deeply sympathetic and warmly respected by netizens. Since then, Tao Yong has been wearing the halo of professional reputation such as "angel in white" and "benevolence of doctors", and has been favored by the first world, and has been active in the public eye as a guest of variety shows and a writer of popular science books.
However, as the "darling" of the world, a parenting Weibo can make Tao Yong's word-of-mouth polarized overnight, and some people even "pick up black material" on this, examine and judge his past remarks one by one, demean his character and professional attainments, and call him a "stinky man", which is really not a healthy ** ecology.
Some netizens commented.
Specifically, the differences in the concept of family education involve differences between individuals, such as generations, educational backgrounds, and practical experiences, and there is no consensus system that can be recognized by everyone, and it is difficult to assert what a "perfect solution" is.
Of course, from a more child-caring perspective, Tao Yong's description of the details of education is indeed a little outdated, with the drawbacks of directive education, and the pertinent and well-intentioned criticism also points out the irrationality, which still belongs to the category of sincere interaction and effective communication. However, it is unfair and scientific to blame Tao Yong personally and to completely criticize and deny him completely.
In fact, whether it is "creating gods" or "destroying gods", it is a manifestation of the inability to objectively evaluate the external world and the lack of cognitive resources of one's own. It is also a cognitive bias based on the expectation of "perfect persona" to characterize the words and deeds of a specific individual in a specific situation.
Its blindness lies in the inability to understand that a concrete, real-life person is necessarily complex, three-dimensional, and has multiple facets. In addition to professional attributes, a person will have many identities based on the social division of labor;What is done in one identity is in line with the preferences of the viewer, and it does not promise that everything will be considered in other roles.
Love wants to live, evil wants to die", is one of the current "epidemics". When a public figure is contaminated with negative controversy, the public evaluation is not even willing to stay at the "mixed reputation" of him, but slides to the end and kills him with one shot, this trend also reflects a collective "cognitive laziness" - that is, unwilling to spend time, energy, and intellectual costs to deeply understand and consider people and things. This will not contribute to deep discussions and constructive dialogue on education or other issues, and the habit of harsh individuals will also hinder the creation of an inclusive and peaceful ecology.
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