I once saw a message from a netizen on the Internet:Since getting married, the only holiday I have had is my child's birthday. Full of ridicule, there is a faint sense of loss. We have always thought that love can enrich our lives, but we don't want to, and some people's marriages make life more dull. Like a bowl of water, without the addition of condiments, it will be bland and tasteless. And the misfortune of many marriages begins with the forgetting of the sense of ritual. Wanwan and her husband divorced because of a bouquet of flowers. Wanwan's husband is an engineer, and when he first chased Wanwan, his way was very old-fashioned, either taking Wanwan out to dinner every day or sending a bouquet of flowers every other day. Paradoxically, after Wanwan got married, she never received a bouquet of flowers from her husband. Valentine's Day, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, and days when flowers should be sent are all ignored by her husband. Wanwan once complained to her husband, saying, "Why don't you give me flowers after you get married?"His husband just said lightly: "It's all so ripe, what are you doing with flowers?" ”
However, one day, Wanwan accidentally saw a flower order pop up on her husband's mobile phone. Wanwan was pleasantly surprised, thinking that her husband had figured it out, so she quietly waited for the flowers to be delivered to the door. But a day passed, and the flowers were not delivered. When her husband went to take a bath in the evening, Wanwan picked up her husband's mobile phone and found that the flowers had been delivered to another girl. Haruki Murakami said, "The sense of ritual is a very important thing. ”A marriage without a sense of ritual is like a pool of stagnant water, lifeless. There is neither anything to look forward to, nor the passion to come. Therefore, no matter how deep the affection is, the strongest love, with the passage of time, will gradually disappear with the forgetfulness of the sense of ritual. In October 2018, Li Yong's wife Ha Wen's Weibo "Never Lose My Love" made people feel very sad and regretful. Behind the grief, we found that the love story of Li Yong and Harvin is so sweet and warm. Li Yong and Harvin met in college, and after the relationship was confirmed, the two of them fell in love. After graduating from college, Li Yong and Ha Wen were assigned to different places for internships, and their long-distance relationship began. After the separation of the two places, Li Yong missed Havin, so he insisted on writing love letters to Hawen every day, and sent hand-painted envelopes to Havin. Li Yong adhered to this habit until the end of the internship period. After returning from the internship, Li Yong first went to the barber shop to get a haircut, and after tidying himself up, he went to buy a diamond ring and 99 roses to meet Haven and show his love to Haven. Ten years after they got married, Harvin became pregnant, and when he learned that he was an expectant father, Li Yong had to write a diary every day to express his feelings at that time. And after Li Yong fell ill, Harvin had to post a "morning" on Weibo every day to express his love and retention for her husband. 
Lin Wanyang said: The sense of ritual is to let us have the perception of love and perceive the world with our hearts. Li Yong and Ha Wen's love makes the sense of ritual not only limited to the verbal "I love you", but also implemented in the habits of life bit by bit. It's like a bowl of braised pork in coarse tea and light rice, a conpoy in white rice porridge, and a spoonful of inadvertently fresh. The trivialities that melt into life are the most affectionate confessions and the most extreme romance you give me. There is an issue of "Wonderful Sayings" that debates the topic: Is a wedding really necessary?Huang Lei's answer was: "I have two daughters, if one day the man tells my daughter that there is no wedding, I will tell my daughter not to marry him." ”Weddings are a sacred ritual. 
It's not about whether you can afford to wear a haute couture wedding dress, whether you can afford to rent a high-end venue, whether you can afford to wear a high-end ring, it's just about the "I do". I am willing to live in this prison that you have set up for me, and I am willing to take your hand and accompany you for the rest of my life. People of Mom's and Dad's generation basically didn't take wedding photos when they got married. I remember when I was in elementary school, my neighbor's aunt brought me a flyer from a wedding photography shop on the street and tried to persuade my parents to take wedding photos. When several other aunts in the neighborhood heard about it, they all joked: "They are all old husbands and wives, what kind of wedding photos do they take." But my mother was very impressed, so she told my father. Dad immediately said to Mom, "If you like it, of course we have to shoot." I didn't have money before, so I treated you badly, but now that I have the ability, I will accompany you to make up for it slowly. "It turns out that the sense of ceremony can be late, but it is not possible to be absent. Because, no matter how old a person is, there will be a day when princesses and princes will return. Although life is boring, the sense of ritual that belongs to two people is enough to warm two hearts, and it is worth remembering for a lifetime. There is a dialogue in "The Little Prince" where the fox says, "You'd better come at the same time every day." The little prince asked, "Why?"The fox said, "You come at four o'clock in the afternoon, and from three o'clock I begin to feel happy." The closer the time gets, the happier I feel. At four o'clock, I would be restless;I will find the price of happiness. But if you come at any time, I don't know when I'm going to get ready for me. There should be a certain ritual. ”"Ritual, it's about making a certain day different from other days, making a certain moment different from other moments. ”Why does life need a sense of ritual?I really like the answers given on Sogou Encyclopedia. It says: The sense of ritual reminds us that in fact, in addition to life, there are also poetry and distance. The sense of ritual is not only the spice of marriage, but also the freshness of marriage. It is a touch of color in ordinary married life, and a ray of light in the gap of time. It is with a sense of ritual that life is given a different meaning. 
Life is full of ups and downs, and the years are not shocking. May every day for the rest of your life be a good day.