Thirty years, in the blink of an eye. The high school classmates who were once young are now middle-aged. A grand class reunion that brought together our scattered group of people. However, this gathering reveals a shocking truth: marriage, an institution that has been endowed with a sacred halo by society, hides a lot of unknown pain and helplessness behind it.
At the beginning of the party, everyone was excitedly talking about each other's recent situation. However, as the conversation deepened, the conversation gradually turned to marriage. A female classmate couldn't help but confide in her marital dilemma: "After so many years of marriage, I have been trying to play the role of a good wife and mother, but my heart is full of exhaustion. For the sake of my children, I can only live with it. Another male classmate said helplessly: "My wife doesn't understand me more and more, and the distance between us is getting farther and farther away, but I can't give up my family." ”
At the party, I met my first love. He told me that he was about to get divorced because his wife couldn't stand his cheating. However, on the eve of the divorce, he said to his wife: "Actually, I don't want to get divorced, but I can't give up that relationship." I was struck by this statement. It turns out that marriage is not as beautiful as we imagined, but full of contradictions and conflicts.
I began to reflect on the institution of marriage. In the traditional concept of our country, marriage is regarded as one of the most important things in life. However, with the development of the times, the marriage system has gradually exposed various shortcomings. More and more people are beginning to question: Is marriage really a way of life suitable for human beings?
In marriage, we often hear vows like, "I want to love you, respect you, and be with you forever." In real life, however, these vows often turn into a bondage. Many people have to give up their pursuits and dreams in order to maintain the stability of their marriage. And is this sacrifice really worth it?
Perhaps, we should revisit the institution of marriage. The French philosopher Jacques Derrida once proposed the idea of replacing marriage with "union civil". This concept emphasizes respect, understanding, and communication rather than the blind pursuit of loyalty and responsibility. Under this concept, people can choose their own lifestyle according to their own needs and values, rather than being bound by the institution of marriage.
Of course, this does not mean that we should deny the institution of marriage. Rather, it is hoped that in marriage, we will be able to focus more on the needs and happiness of the individual. After all, everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness and not be troubled by marriage.
Back at the party, I looked at the classmates who were in trouble in their marriages, and I couldn't help but feel a wave of emotion in my heart. Perhaps, we need the courage to face the problems in our marriage and seek a more humane way of life. Only in this way can we truly achieve our own happiness.
The meeting ended, but the reflections on marriage continued. I hope that everyone can find their own happiness in marriage, instead of being troubled by the system. After all, life is short, and we have the right to pursue our own happiness.
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Thirty years later, the class reunion opened my eyes to the truth of marriage. While shocking, it is this truth that gives us the opportunity to reflect and change. May we all find true love in marriage and find our own happiness.