The theme of what we want to do today is, why does Meng Ying have a deep hatred for Miyue?
Is it just because of men that relationships break down?Many people may hold this view.
Actually, I used to hold the same opinion.
However, when I re-examined the whole process of the two of them first met, I realized that Su Qin was actually the trigger that led to the breakdown of the relationship between Meng Ying and Mi Yue, and it was not the core of the problem.
Before Mi Yue was favored, there were two pillars in the harem, in addition to Mi Shu, Meng Ying was one of them.
Despite having a deep friendship with Meng Ying and sharing a hobby of horseback riding, he did not use Meng Ying's status as a princess to protect his actual situation.
When Mi Shu was grounded, Mrs. Wei took advantage of the opportunity of King Qin's departure from the palace to deliberately set up a crime of theft for Wei Ran, intending to punish Wei Ran in the palace, and threaten Mi Yue to marry a lowly courtier and expel her from the Qin Palace.
In the end, Meng Ying lent her the palace exit charm to Mi Yue, and suggested that she go to the northern suburbs to intercede with his father, so that Wei Ran could be rescued from Madame Wei's poisonous clutches.
It is no exaggeration to say that Meng Ying's action directly caused Mi Yue to owe her two important favors.
First, he assists Miyue in rescuing her brother who is in dangerSecond: Assisted Mi Yue to find an additional third support in the Qin State: the King of Qin.
It is often said that money is easy to return, but favors are hard to repay.
While some people don't expect anything in return when they give kindness, for most people, in helping others, they are more or less eager to receive the same reward from them.
After some hard work, Mi Yue finally found an opportunity to give back to Meng Ying, but due to her limited ability, this opportunity was not realized after all.
When Yan Guo came to propose to Meng Ying, Meng Ying couldn't cry and was resolutely unwilling to marry the old and frail Yan King. Mi Yue knew that now was the right time to repay Meng Ying for the aid he had given her in the past.
Whether Mi Yue took the initiative to meet the King of Qin, or openly clashed with Mi Shu, or asked Mi Shu to intercede for Meng Ying, these could not change Meng Ying's fate of being destined to marry.
Although Mi Yue owes Meng Ying a favor, she actually feels quite anxious herself.
After all, human emotions can sometimes be like a sharp blade hanging over your head, and if you don't return it quickly, it's hard to know when the knife will fall and whether the part you are asking for is acceptable.
It's a pity that although Miyue wants to repay, her ability is there, and she can't repay it at all.
Mi Yue not only did not repay the past kindness, but soon owed a new favor.
Although Meng Ying struggled hard, he was unsuccessful, so he had to marry Yan Guo according to the original plan.
Before Meng Ying was about to enter the palace of marriage, he paid two more favors for Miyue.
She had planned to take Mi Yue to the northern suburbs of the palace, hoping that Madame Ying would intercede with the King of Qin for her, but Meng Ying later told Mi Yue: "That day, I will take you to meet my aunt, she may help you solve some problems in the future." ”
Meng Ying continued: "I specially obtained a talisman from my father to facilitate your departure from the palace, and with this talisman, you will become more handy. ”
Now the situation has changed for the better, the old love has not been resolved, and now there are two more favors.
When the human debt increases, there may be an imbalance in the relationship between the two parties.
In a healthy relationship, giving and asking are often in a state of equilibrium. If one party only gives to the other and cannot or does not know how to reciprocate, then sooner or later a rift will arise in the relationship between the two parties.
After Meng Ying got married, he returned to the Qin Palace for the first time and presented himself to everyone with an extremely embarrassing and lost image.
After the death of King Yan, the kingdom of Yan fell into internal chaos, and Meng Ying and her son were sent to Korea as hostages and imprisoned in the Korean capital.
Subsequently, it was Su Qin who assisted Meng Ying in sending a distress letter to the King of Qin, so the King of Qin decided to send personnel to rescue Meng Ying and his children.
But unexpectedly, Meng Ying'er's son and son's position were taken away by Zhao Guo on the way.
Meng Ying returned to Qin alone, and with tears streaming down her eyes, she begged the King of Qin to assist her in rescuing her son, but the King of Qin refused Meng Ying's request out of consideration for the interests of the country.
Meng Ying's anger and grief made it impossible for King Qin to control his output.
The core meaning of this sentence is: for the sake of Qin, he voluntarily became a victim of a political marriage, and now he has lost his country and her husband, and even his only son has been taken away by Zhao, and now he is a lonely person.
It is no exaggeration to say that Meng Ying is now experiencing a low ebb in her life, and all kinds of pain and misfortune are pouring towards her like a tide.
However, Mi Yue and Meng Ying's living conditions are very different.
Under Meng Ying's matchmaking, Mi Yue has now become the favorite concubine of King Qin, enjoying brocade clothes and food and supreme honor. In her, she couldn't find the confusion and confusion when she asked Meng Ying for help, and her temperament still retained the sunshine and vitality of the year. But Meng Ying has experienced setbacks and difficulties, his mood has become indifferent, and he has lost his original freedom and brightness.
When the two compared, how could Meng Ying not feel frustrated.
In real life, many sisters gradually drift apart from each other, and this estrangement and estrangement is not entirely due to the differences in their lives.
However, it is easy for any one person to live well and another to live poorly, and such a person can easily develop feelings of inferiority and self-pity.
Moreover, Meng Ying believes that Mi Yue's ability to enjoy her comfortable life today is not entirely because of her help as a matchmaker.
Due to various difficulties and challenges in life, Meng Ying felt a subtle feeling of jealousy. Although he offered Mi Yue many times and hoped that she would introduce him to his beloved Su Qin in front of the King of Qin, Mi Yue was reluctant to lend a hand, which was a typical act of ingratitude.
To describe it in a modern storyline: Meng Ying thinks that Mi Yue has her money in her hands, eats and drinks well, but is unwilling to return it, which leads to her living a poor life instead.
In fact, in Meng Ying's eyes, Mi Yue didn't have enough ability to repay her kindness before. But now, although this matter was easy for Mi Yue, she deliberately behaved hypocritically, shirked, and pretended not to know in front of Meng Ying, not wanting to repay Meng Ying's past kindness.
Let's describe in detail, Mi Yue and her children suffered many insults from Mi Yin in Yan Kingdom. They tried to send messages to Meng Ying several times, but they were all stopped. In the end, it was Qi Yin's maid who helped them convey this information to Meng Ying. The question now is, didn't Meng Ying really know that Mi Yue and her child had arrived in Yan Kingdom?
I don't think it's possible because two details in the play have already been revealed, and Meng Ying already knew that Mi Yue and her children had gone to Yan Kingdom before this.
The first small detail is: when the maidservant Qingqing told Meng Ying that the proton of the Qin State sent someone to send her a message, Meng Ying immediately laughed and said, "She also has a request for a message." ”
As soon as Qingqing mentioned a proton, Meng Ying immediately speculated that it might be Mi Yue, indicating that she had already known about the news that Mi Yue and her child had arrived in Yan Kingdom.
The second specific detail is that in the conversation between Meng Ying and Guo Kui, Meng Ying mentioned: "The envoy of the Qin State also attached a letter written by Empress Hui Shu in the letter of state, in which we were asked to strictly manage the proton and not give too much preferential treatment in daily life. ”
Du Jin was in charge of sending Miyue to Yan Kingdom, and after delivering Miyue safely to Yan Kingdom, he left quietly. Before leaving, he had already handed over the credentials to Meng Ying, who should have realized that Mi Yue and her child had arrived in the Yan Kingdom.
Therefore, she is indifferent to Miyue's concern. On the one hand, she was jealous that Mi Yue had turned a blind eye to her predicament at the time, and didn't know how to repay her kindness;On the other hand, Meng Ying might have thought that Miyue was so beautiful when she was in the most difficult time, and now she should also experience this situation of despair everywhere.
Meng Ying's resentment towards Mi Yue, although Su Qin played a role in the fuse, was not the core of the problem.
The breakdown of the relationship between the two is mainly due to the imbalance between giving and returning.
When Meng Ying was in the Qin Palace, he helped Mi Yue many times, but Mi Yue never sincerely reciprocated Meng Ying's kindness.
What Su Qin did was undoubtedly the last straw to defeat Meng Ying.
At the end of the story, when Mi Yue was negotiating with Su Qin, she specially instructed Su Qin to convey to Meng Ying that she knew her kindness and was willing to help Yan against Qi.
Mi Yue has realized that the rupture of her relationship with Meng Ying is mainly due to the imbalance in interpersonal relationships.
Therefore, she assisted the Yan State against the Qi State, thus completely repaying the debt to Meng Ying.
The experiences of Meng Ying and Mi Yue are also a wake-up call for us: we must always be vigilant and owe favors, because in society, one day we need to pay back.
In addition, great grace is like a great hatred, looking at it from a different perspective, isn't this accepting the kindness of others?If you can't pay it back one day, you may anger others.