Just ask, there shouldn't be any woman who would tolerate her husband looking for a mistress outside, right?
But in the eyes of actress Xu Fan, it's the opposite.
16 years, in the show "Venus Show".
Xu Fan talked about Feng Xiaogang's derailment for the first time.
Faced with her husband's cheating, Xu Fan said calmly: "Our family is male anyway, and we don't suffer losses."
It is not easy for a woman who can do her husband's cheating and still be able to endure it.
Many people may be curious, why did Xu Fan choose to be tolerant and tolerant in marriage?
In fact, if you look at her emotional experience, you will understand that Xu Fan is the wisest choice to do this.
Before meeting Feng Xiaogang, there was another man who made Xu Fan love deeply.
And, it left a deep imprint on her heart.
This person is Wang Zhiwen.
Back then, the two met on the campus of Chinese opera.
At that time, Xu Fan's love was just beginning to open, and he had a beautiful fantasy about love.
Every day is either learning to Xi acting, or looking forward to love coming to you.
Maybe it's fate.
Just when she fantasized about meeting love all day long, Wang Zhiwen quietly came to her side.
At that time, Wang Zhiwen was one year older than Xu Fan and was Xu Fan's senior.
It stands to reason that Wang Zhiwen should graduate from college and start to develop in the entertainment industry.
However, because Wang Zhiwen performed well in school and excelled in Xi.
Therefore, after graduating from Chinese opera, he did not enter the entertainment industry for the first time to film.
Instead, he was invited by the school to come back and teach as a teacher in the acting department.
At that time, before Wang Zhiwen met Xu Fan, he had a teacher-student relationship with Pan Jie.
Therefore, it is more than enough for him to take down the inexperienced Xu Fan.
Wang Zhiwen, who returned to school, took the textbook and came to Xu Fan's classroom.
With long flowing hair and a charming smile, Xu Fan in the audience was fascinated.
From the moment he stood on the podium and opened his mouth to introduce himself.
Xu Fan had already fallen into Wang Zhiwen's handsome face.
Although, there are still big beauties such as Chen Xiaoyi, Xu Qing, and Jiang Shan in Xu Fan's class.
But Xu Fan's conditions at that time were not bad.
Although his appearance is not the most outstanding in the class.
But with his refined and elegant temperament, Xu Fan is also an admirer of many boys.
Especially those translucent eyes, full of the girl's innocence and ignorance of the unknown future.
makes her whole person exude gentleness and atmosphere.
Perhaps, Xu Fan never thought that the boy who made his heart flutter would be his teacher.
The girl's affection is always warm and unreasonable.
If you like it, you will be brave to chase it.
Once you fall into the honeypot of love, you will not be able to extricate yourself.
When Xu Fan confirmed that her heart had been filled by Wang Zhiwen, she desperately pursued her teacher.
It just so happened that Wang Zhiwen was in the window period of falling out of love at that time.
Before and after, he broke up with Lin Fangbing, the goddess of Northern Shadow, and his model girlfriend with a hot body.
Now he needs a woman to help him heal the pain in his heart.
At this time, Xu Fan's initiative to send it to the door is undoubtedly the best medicine for Wang Zhiwen to soothe his inner pain.
In this way, Xu Fan soon became Wang Zhiwen's current girlfriend.
It's just that Xu Fan didn't realize at that time that Wang Zhiwen was just treating her as an object of pastime.
didn't plan to seriously talk about a vigorous, undying love with her.
Like most girls.
First love is always sincere and devoted to girls.
In order to maintain this relationship, Xu Fan did everything he could, and he also spent all his thoughts.
When love is deep, he does not hesitate to start a cohabitation life with each other.
When the two lived together, Xu Fan had not yet graduated.
It's a pity that Xu Fan's efforts did not get Wang Zhiwen's return.
Instead, he turned around and threw himself into the gentle country of other women.
At that time, the cohabitation life of the two had just begun.
Wang Zhiwen's career began to slowly improve and was on the right track.
He starred in many works before and after, making him famous.
At the same time, he has also accumulated a lot of contacts in the circle.
Seeing that her boyfriend's career is getting better and better, Xu Fan thought to herself that she couldn't stay in the dilapidated rental house all the time to do laundry and cook.
After all, love is not the whole of a person's life, and it cannot be eaten.
So, Xu Fan thought that his classmates Chen Xiaoyi, Jiang Shan and others had become popular actresses in the entertainment industry.
And they are nothing.
Therefore, she thought of using her boyfriend's connections to help her introduce some film and television resources.
didn't think about it, Wang Zhiwen was unwilling to bow to the capitalists for his girlfriend.
Therefore, Xu Fan's career was put on hold.
But fortunately, Xu Fan, who is strong, did not sit still.
It's about waiting for the right time and looking for the day to come out.
Fortunately, this day soon befell Xu Fan.
When she first entered the campus, she was appreciated by director Tian Zhuangzhuang.
and starred in "Special Operating Room".
Unexpectedly, after many years, the two met again.
Looking at Xu Fan's resume, Director Tian gave her the role of Concubine Zhen in the script "The Great Eunuch Li Lianying".
Just when Xu Fan was immersed in the joy of entering the showbiz,
As everyone knows, her love life is about to usher in a crisis.
Wang Zhiwen here has actually lost his original freshness to Xu Fan.
In private, he has already had a hot fight with Xu Qing.
It's just that in the face of Xu Fan, he doesn't know how to propose to break up.
It just so happened that Xu Fan, who was filming in the crew, had an affair with director Tian Zhuangzhuang.
took this opportunity to have a reason to separate from Xu Fan.
After breaking up with Xu Fan, Wang Zhiwen still did not change his romantic nature.
not only had an ambiguous relationship with Xu Qing.
Even Tian Hairong and Jiang Shan did not let go.
thought that after breaking up with Wang Zhiwen, Xu Fan would have a story with Tian Zhuangzhuang.
Unexpectedly, the relationship between the two ended after not lasting.
After experiencing two failed relationships, Xu Fan no longer has any hope for love.
At that time, she felt empty in her heart.
For a long time in the future, Xu Fan will be immersed in the pain of falling out of love.
Seeing that Wang's former lover was constantly having girlfriends around her, her heart was like a knife, but she was helpless.
I can only wipe away my tears and bless silently.
It wasn't until Feng Xiaogang came to her world that Xu Fan gradually came out of the shadow of broken love.
In fact, Feng Xiaogang has been silently paying attention to Xu Fan behind his back.
It's just that I didn't meet the right time to cooperate with Xu Fan.
It wasn't until he learned that Xu Fan was out of love that Feng Xiaogang realized that the opportunity had come.
So he took the initiative to comfort Xu Fan, who was emotionally hurt.
Not to mention the warmth, she was also invited to star in "The Great Satan".
At the beginning, Feng Xiaogang often told his colleagues in the crew that Xu Fan was his future girlfriend.
This made Xu Fan very embarrassed.
After a long time, I slowly accepted it.
Later, Xu Fan said that Feng Xiaogang's appearance was like a benefactor in his life.
He would forcibly pull himself out of painful memories.
For Feng Xiaogang's friendship in the snow, Xu Fan is very grateful.
So he accepted Feng Xiaogang's wishes.
It's just that after falling in love with Feng Xiaogang, Xu Fan wanted to marry him.
However, Feng Xiagang couldn't marry her home at all.
Because, when he met Xu Fan, Feng Xiaogang was a family man.
At that time, he and his wife Zhang Di had a stable relationship and never planned to divorce.
Facing two women, Feng Xiaogang made it difficult.
For a while, I didn't know how to decide.
On one side is the wife who has given birth to a child for himself and has been with him for many years.
On one side is the woman he likes.
For this reason, he didn't know how to decide, and he planned to spend it like this.
Until the wife divorces.
During this period, apart from the relationship of having children, the two had almost no other communication.
Faced with such a married life, and a man who doesn't love herself, Zhang Di finally can't afford it.
So he chose to end the relationship with Feng Xiaogang.
In '99, the two signed a divorce agreement.
Later, their children were raised by Zhang Di.
After achieving his goal, Feng Xiaogang couldn't wait to marry Xu Fan into the door.
Finally, in September of the same year, they officially became husband and wife.
At the wedding, Xu Fan wore a wedding dress and said to Feng Xiaogang affectionately: "Marrying you is the most correct decision in my life."
In order to prove her love for Feng Xiaogang, she chose to sacrifice her career and return to her family.
I want to be a good wife and be Feng Xiaogang's best helper.
After all, Xu Fan has been waiting for this day for seven years.
It's just that what she didn't expect was that.
Since he can get Feng Xiaogang in this way.
Then, there will be countless women like themselves.
What's more, judging from Feng Xiaogang's behavior of abandoning his wife Xu Fan, it is known that he is not a man who is dedicated to his feelings.
thought that Xu Fan would be like most women.
After learning that her husband was out of town, she would be furious.
As a result, Xu Fan's approach was the opposite.
She not only turned a blind eye, but also tolerated Feng Xiaogang's behavior.
Just like at the beginning, when Feng Xiaogang cheated on Shen Xing, China's first female host, Xu Fan, who learned the news, did not respond, and did not scold Feng Xiaogang with a face.
Just silently watching her husband's every move.
Even more surprising.
No matter how many women Feng Xiaogang provoked outside, their feelings were not affected in the slightest.
Her forbearance is far greater than we can imagine.
In addition to ignoring Feng Xiaogang's romantic debts, he will also praise Feng Xiaogang's goodness in the show.
This wave of reverse operations allows us to see what it means to be powerful.
For example, in the show "Venus Show", Jin Xing talked about how to face the problem of her husband's cheating.
Xu Fan said calmly: "My family is a man, and I don't suffer losses."The reason why Xu Fan was able to do this is that he was able to do this.
First, thank Feng Xiaogang for helping him before.
Second, she just wants to maintain this marriage.
As she said at the wedding: "I will be firm with you".
In the eyes of outsiders, Xu Fan's behavior may be too infatuated.
But for Xu Fan, she just saw through too much truth.
I looked down on the man's cheating and calmed down.
In fact, the real marital status is like this.
Whether a marriage can be maintained depends on forbearance and tolerance.
Many times, knowing too much is not necessarily happy.
It's like maintaining a blunt sensibility between people.
As long as you live happily, it's fine.