Title: "The World Is Worth It".
Author: Martha. m.Ryan Han.
After reading this book, I couldn't calm down, and the face of my former colleague kept coming to mind, because she jumped from the biggest bridge we had in the first half of the year.
She jumped into the river in the early morning, most of the people have not gotten up yet, and when they find out, there is only an empty car parked by the river, and in the afternoon, her body is found downstream, her family is grief-stricken, and her daughter directly gave up the college entrance examination.
I heard that she suffered from depression, ** for more than two years, during which she also had suicidal tendencies, but in the end, she still gave up everything and chose to commit suicide.
If only she had read the book earlier, maybe she wouldn't have died.
This book "The World is Worth It" is the author's own personal experience, step by step from the verge of suicide through a difficult mental journey, struggle, redemption, entanglement, resistance, and finally, not only saved himself from hell, but also summed up a set of executable methods through his own experience: "DBT", using action to save more people who are still in hell.
The book progresses from four aspects, from hell, to self-redemption, to overcoming difficulties by achieving goals, and finally, I learned to love and be loved, and love allows me to be redeemed.
So, what exactly is DBT?
DBT is an industry-leading approach. It integrates not only individual talks, group skills training, mentoring, etc., but also family interventions. At the heart of its role is also the Xi of skills.
1. Stay mindful and positive. First of all, establish a correct world view, learn to live a depressed life, find out the causes of depression, urge yourself not to touch these things that will cause you to be unhappy and depressed, get along with the people you like, do something to make yourself have a sense of accomplishment and things, accumulate positive emotions, make a list of happiness and unhappiness, and eliminate unhappy things from life, so as to bring help to the body and mind.
2. Improve your pain tolerance. Every change is always painful, physical and mental pressure is great, which is a very painful thing for people with depression, how to bear this pain, here tells you many ways, including setting short-term goals, distracting attention, achieving small successes, distracting the pain, and slowly learning to bear the pain.
3. Learn to regulate emotions and be an emotionally stable adult. Whether it's suicide or happiness, it's an emotion, so it's important to manage your emotions well. Learning to control your emotions and maintain emotional stability is a matter of life.
4. Strengthen interpersonal communication and don't close yourself. It is necessary to push yourself into the social crowd, and enhance your sense of existence and participation through social activities, so that you will not be isolated by the world and fall into a state of autism. Sometimes a person stays for a long time and feels that his energy is very low, so he goes to a lively place, such as a stadium, such as a shopping mall, to absorb the energy of others to improve his own energy.
5. Persistence. There is a good saying: "I have learned a lot of truths, but I can't live this life well." "If you learn a lot of knowledge, but don't put it into action, it's just on paper.
Sisters, take action and stay away from depression!!