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In the workplace, many people have been reprimanded by their leaders. Different leaders have different styles, some will point out the shortcomings of their subordinates in a kind way, while others will criticize mercilessly and even insult them with unequivocal words.
As we move up the ranks, we take on more responsibilities and are under more pressure, and even the slightest mistake can have serious consequences, so the criticism from senior leaders is often harsh.
Some people fall into self-doubt after being criticized and are tied down when doing things;Others will become resentful and disagree with the leader.
If we encounter the wrath of our leaders, how can we respond appropriately and even be able to turn a crisis into an opportunity?
First of all, avoid rebuttals on the spot when you are reprimanded.
This is something that I have learned after many years of experience in the workplace. When I first started working, I always thought that right was right and wrong was wrong, and if there was an objective reason, it must be explained on the spot.
An Neng broke his eyebrows and bent his waist to deal with the powerful, which made me unhappy!"That's what I thought at the time.
Gradually, however, I discovered that the more strongly I argued, the harsher the leader's criticism became, until I was speechless.
I always fall into the cycle of self-proof, and from the perspective of the person being examined, I will always be criticized for not thinking well enough.
In fact, we all know that everyone will have a time when they are not well thought out, and there will always be unexpected situations in the project, so why blame others for pursuing perfection?
Especially when we have worked hard for the project and worked overtime until our hair is bald, we will feel aggrieved if we are still criticized by the leadership.
However, the adult world does not focus on the cause, only the effect.
Understanding this is a sign of maturity in the workplace.
No one wants to pay for your misfortune, and no leader wants to listen to your explanation.
Most companies are business organizations, not refuges, and the place where comfort and understanding are truly sought is home.
I used to work for a company where the head of R&D was known for being "mean", and when he criticized someone, he didn't like to listen to their explanations.
From his point of view, if things go wrong, someone must be responsible, and all explanations are excuses and shirk responsibility.
If someone refuted his criticism, he would relentlessly reprimand him harshly.
You might think that such a leader can't stay in a high position for long.
However, the truth is that he was a very good leader, and under his management, the company made the world's first product from scratch.
He made all the middle employees tremble, but the efficiency of the R&D team was very high.
Because everyone knows that explanations are useless to him, it is better to focus on the project and make it better next time.
Second, seize the opportunity to close the loop and report after the event.
After being scolded by the leader, although they will not refute it on the spot, they will think that the responsibility is not their own, and then they will no longer pay attention to the matter.
This kind of cold treatment is an improvement compared to rebutting on the spot, but we can do better.
When done right, we can turn crises into opportunities.
We can remove the emotional part from the leader's criticism, leave the part with reference value, and optimize our own working methods.
After that, we can summarize and sort out the improved parts, report to the leader at the right time, and add a sentence: "After the last time the leader made a suggestion, after careful thinking, I optimized a certain aspect of the project, and the effect has indeed improved, thank you very much for the guidance and help of the leader." ”
Believe me, such a move will definitely make the leader's eyes shine.
This not only shows your attitude and actions to correct your mistakes, but also pleases the leader, who would not like such a subordinateThe next time you have the opportunity, the leader will definitely think more about you.
Having said all this, some people may think that my suggestions are all "outdated ideas of feudal society", a sign of groveling and flattery.
Can't we discuss issues with leaders on an equal footing?Couldn't we point out the leader's criticism on the spot if it was wrong?
Of course you can, but remember that people are not machines, we have seven emotions and six desires, there are always things that we love to listen to and what we don't like to hear, even when petting a cat, we have to follow its fur to stroke.
There are skills and methods of communication, especially when dealing with different people, we need to be flexible in adjusting the communication style and method.
Of course, we can maintain some individuality when we are young, which is also the vitality of young people and the expectation of society, but we must also gradually accept and integrate into our own culture and learn to adapt to the environment.
Just like a fish adapts to water, this is the environment in which it lives, whether it likes it or not.
Of course, there is a special case, if the leader's criticism is not based on facts, but is deliberately directed at you personally, then you can consider other options. In modern society, everyone has a lot of choices, we don't have to stick to a tree, if we encounter a situation that is not in tune with the leader, it may be broader to change the environment.
In fact, even when I am facing criticism from my boss, I still have a lot of mood swings, and I still need to build up my mind and comfort myself. Fan Zhongyan once said: "Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself", this kind of realm may take a lifetime to pursue!
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