First of all, let's review the touching news I just read: a 16-year-old girl was subjected to domestic violence because she was not admitted to 985 University. This story deeply shocked and heartaches me. Even though I was a 16-year-old student like the girl, my experience was completely different from hers. I was fortunate to have a family that was not wealthy, my parents were illiterate and did not have a high career, but they never abused me. In comparison, I am ashamed of myself. However, I also wondered why this girl had already taken the college entrance examination at the age of 16, and I had only graduated from junior high schoolIt seems that students who only graduated from junior high school at the age of 16 have become the norm now. So what else has this girl experienced besides domestic violence?I speculate that girls who took the college entrance examination at the age of 16 have experienced the secret of skipping the class span. According to ** report, Wu Moumou's biggest dream is to be admitted to a certain 985 university, but the first college entrance examination did not achieve this goal. Looking back on my high school years, I still remember my obsession and anxiety about grades. For those students with high grades, pressure and expectations are everywhere. And Wu Moumou regrettably failed to meet her father's expectations, which led to her suffering endless pain and domestic violence. Isn't it also a problem when single fathers expect too much from their children?The reason behind this may be that he has been overly influenced by the "chicken soup for the soul" on the Internet and cares too much about his children's academic achievements. This reminds me of a similar story, a few years ago, there was a physics teacher surnamed He, his child was prone to cerebral palsy because of his frailty, so He's father let the child learn to swim when he was a baby, and at the age of two, let the child walk long distances, and even run naked in the snow of minus 13 degrees Celsius. This kind of "eagle education" swept the country for a period of time, and Wu's father may have been affected by this method. However, we, as parents, should understand that not all children can adapt to this "eagle education", and not all parents should follow suit. While we can be supporters of our children's learning Xi and we can protect them from the storm, we should not deliberately create storms. Children think you can shield them from the wind and rain, but they don't realize that these storms are brought by their parents. This will bring a serious psychological gap to the child, and even produce a psychological shadow. Parents should understand that not every child can become a prodigy, and only a few children can adapt to this "eagle education". Imitation by other parents may lead to rebellious psychology in children, and even ruin the child's life. Parents should not take their children's academic performance as their own obsession, and it is not advisable to over-pull seedlings in the family.
Home and school are two crucial environments in a child's development. However, for some parents, their uprooting may lay a hidden danger for their child's future, or even make the child "lame". We know that every child is a unique individual with their own characteristics and potential. Therefore, we cannot treat every child with the same standards, let alone blindly pursue the so-called signs of success.
In the process of education, parents should give their children the appropriate freedom and space to experience life and explore the world at the appropriate age. It is very important for children in kindergarten to have a good time. They need to build friendships, develop hobbies, and discover their talents in a relaxed and happy environment. Don't rush them into a first-grade classroom and carry them under excessive academic pressure.
In addition, for children with good grades, parents should carefully consider whether to let them skip a grade. While skipping a grade may be a top student, there are risks associated with it. In the case of constant skipping grades, the child may "lame" in some subjects and be unable to keep up with his peers. Therefore, under the premise of ensuring proper step-by-step, children can truly become top students. Only at the right time, at the right stage, can the child's talent be fully displayed.
We can't ignore our children's inner needs and physical and mental health, and we can't treat grades as everything. Parents should give their children enough love and support, and respect their choices and interests. If a child is not gifted, let them enjoy happiness in the ordinary and spend quality time with their families. Childhood is only once, and it is more important for children to spend this time happily and cultivate a healthy and sunny attitude than to pursue so-called success.
In the wave of education in the pursuit of high grades and prestigious schools day by day, we often ignore the essence of education. Education is not only about producing students who excel academically, but more importantly, about developing well-rounded people. We must not lose respect for our children's individual differences and the pursuit of happiness because of the pursuit of so-called success.
As parents, we should pay attention to our children's physical and mental health and inner needs, and give them enough love and support. We should not regard our children's academic performance as our own obsessions, nor should we let our expectations bring mental stress and physical torture to our children. Instead, we should respect our children's choices and interests and let them grow up happily.
The goal of education should be to develop children's independent thinking skills, creativity, and lifelong learning Xi, not just the pursuit of good or bad grades. We should give children enough freedom and space to develop, so that they can discover their potential and develop their own interests and hobbies through exploration and experimentation.
Finally, putting aside the mentality of utilitarianism and comparison, we should pay attention to the growth of children with an optimistic and inclusive attitude. Every child is unique, and they have their own strengths and values. Only by giving them enough love and support to choose the right path according to their interests and aspirations can they truly achieve all-round development and happiness.