Some people say that Grandma Liu went to the Grand View Garden to be a funny clown for five buckets of rice, which is really poignant.
Is that really the case?
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Daiyu is versatile and affectionate, Baochai is gentle and thoughtful, and Sister Feng is spicy and ......capableEvery character is vivid and full, but only Grandma Liu is called "the first strange woman in ancient and modern times" by Mr. Lu Xun.
As a rural village woman, her family is poor and she can't read big characters, but she can break the circle, make friends with a wealthy family like Shangjiafu, get real financial support, and become the richest man in the village, how can she not be called "strange".
It is difficult to hide the bitterness of pretending to be ugly and laughing in Jiafu, but which is more important than the survival of the family?
The answer is obvious.
The people who can read Grandma Liu and give her a thumbs up are all people who have been honed through life and know what it means to "make a living".
I have read such a sentence, even if life is a place of chicken feathers, you must tie the chicken feathers into a beautiful feather duster.
When life couldn't go on, Grandma Liu didn't feel sorry for herself, but tried every possible way to bend down to pick up the chicken feathers on the ground.
It is precisely because she bends down that she has won a good life for her family.
In the winter of that year, the days were difficult, and Grandma Liu took her grandson Ban'er to Jiafu to "play the autumn wind", got some silver taels, and survived the winter smoothly.
Grandma Liu remembered this kindness, and in the harvest season of the coming year, she picked the best melons and vegetables and sent them to Daguan Garden to "honor my aunts and girls".
How could a wealthy family like Jiafu be rare with these ordinary melons and vegetables, but this is the most decent gift that Grandma Liu can afford.
Mother Jia happened to learn of Grandma Liu's arrival, so she stayed in this "ancient" old man's house for a few days and chatted together.
On the second day, Mother Jia made a big red flower and casually said that she wanted to dress up Grandma Liu, so Sister Feng inserted a plate of flowers into Grandma Liu's head, which made everyone laugh at Grandma Liu like an old goblin.
Is Grandma Liu embarrassed?No.
She smiled and said, I don't know what blessings I have cultivated, and I ...... be so decent todayAlthough I am old, I was also romantic when I was young, and I love a flower and a pink, and it is good to be old and romantic now.
Enjoying oneself and bringing happiness to others is the wisdom of Grandma Liu to get along with others.
Grandma Liu accidentally fell, the maids laughed, and Mother Jia reproached, little hooves, don't pick it up yet!Whack it.
Grandma Liu hurriedly said that she was not so delicate, and she could be regarded as relieving the maids.
At the banquet, in the face of a plate of pigeon eggs, Grandma Liu puffed out her cheeks and laughed that she ate as big as a cow, which was funny, causing everyone to either spray rice or laugh ......
picked up the chopsticks, and finally caught a pigeon egg, but it fell to the ground again, and everyone laughed when they saw it.
It turned out that this was all arranged in advance by Sister Feng and Mandarin Duck to make fun of Grandma Liu.
When the mandarin duck apologized, he said: "Grandma, don't worry, I'll compensate your old man." ”
Grandma Liu smiled: "Let's coax the old lady to open up, but what's annoying!."”
Yes, Grandma Liu is coaxing Mother Jia to be happy, why not coaxing Sister Feng and Mandarin Duck to be happy, everyone is happy, and Grandma Liu is naturally happy.
Jia's mother has a noble identity and a delicate life, while Grandma Liu is just a village woman, full of local flavor.
Why can two old ladies with very different identities get along?
In fact, the secret lies in the fact that Grandma Liu knows how to be human.
Writer Yishu said: "The most important thing in being a man is decency. ”
But what is decency?Is it just a matter of dressing up and behaving elegantly?
Nope!The decency of ordinary people is more like Grandma Liu:Food and clothing are in place, and life is passable.
And these are all to be fought for through their own efforts.
If it weren't for pretending to be ugly and funny, satisfying the mentality of the people in Jiafu to have fun, how could Jia Mu and Sister Feng and others take out more than 100 taels of silver and many gifts as "rewards", making Grandma Liu's family the richest family in the village in one fell swoop.
If Grandma Liu wants to save face and can't stand being ridiculed and teased, what can she do to fight for "charity" and get through the current difficulties in life.
If you want to be decent for yourself, give it to others first.
In order to live the life you want, you can laugh and be relieved when you encounter cynicism;Asking someone to do something, encountering embarrassment, can be accepted calmly.
How many people who live transparently are not "Grandma Liu"?
Grandma Liu is a widow who lives on a few acres of land, and her son-in-law Wang Gou'er sees that she is alone and takes her to live together.
When people are old, whether they are alone and chic, or share their family, Grandma Liu chooses to "work with one heart and one plan to help her daughter and son-in-law live".
One day, the family was worried about food and clothing for the winter.
The dog was drinking and sulking.
When Grandma Liu saw it, she persuaded the dog not to just sigh and sigh, and to find a way to make money is the feasible way.
Dogs also want to make money, but there is no way, can't they steal?
Grandma Liu gave advice, the dog family and the Jinling Wang family have even passed the sect, and the second lady of the Wang family is now the wife of the second master of Rongguo Mansion.
But how can a wealthy family like Jiafu get in?Someone has to report it.
Don't look at the dog's unmotivated appearance, at the critical moment, I really thought of a good way.
It turned out that when Zhou Rui, the companion of the Wang family, bought land, the dog's father helped Zhou Rui, and Zhou Rui was on an errand in Jiafu, if he could find him, he might have hope to knock on the door of Jiafu.
There is a way, but who will go to Jiafu?
The dog was reluctant to go, and Grandma Liu's daughter was afraid of losing face.
Grandma Liu took the initiative to ask Ying and said: It's better to give up my old face to touch it.
Sure enough, there are some benefits, and everyone is beneficial;Even if there is no silver, I will go to the Houmen of the Duke's Mansion to see the world, and my life will not be in vain.
The brilliance of this passage lies in the fact that it seems to be comforting itself, saying that he wants to see the world, but it is not comforting this big family.
It was with Grandma Liu's "face touch" and her unique wisdom of life that she successfully brought back some money from Jiafu for the winter.
There is a saying: The best feng shui for a family is to have something to say and something to discuss.
If Grandma Liu saw her son-in-law drinking, she took out the posture of an elder and scolded her, and the dog might quarrel with her.
If it weren't for the family's discussion, the dog wouldn't have thought of a good idea, and there would be no place to spend the winter.
If Grandma Liu puts on a posture of "respecting the elderly", only sits back and enjoys the success, and is unwilling to show up to beg for help, it is difficult to say whether the family can survive that winter.
In the face of family difficulties, Grandma Liu was unequivocal and called on her family to find a way to get through the difficulties together.
As an elder in the family, Grandma Liu happily paid and did not feel any grievances.
In this way, if a family gathers in one place for the sake of livelihood, the family will be safe.
A writer once said, "Making your home happy is the ultimate goal of all ambitions." ”
Indeed, people live a lifetime and are busy, isn't it just for their families?
Home is never a place to hurt each other, but a place to warm each other, and the happiness of home is inseparable from careful management.
Home is a person's inside, without the backing of the inside, how can it be bright on the outside.
Only those who take care of their children can withstand the ups and downs on the road of life.
Just like Grandma Liu, she knows how to share with her family in case of trouble, and the family is harmonious, and good luck will come naturally.
The difference between people is that some people accept favors calmly, and some people receive favors and repay them with all their might.
Because of the recommendation of Zhou Rui's family, Grandma Liu had the opportunity to enter Jiafu and get twenty taels of silver from Sister Feng, which was enough for the family's living expenses for one or two years.
Before leaving, in order to thank Zhou Rui's family, she had the heart to leave a piece of silver to buy fruit for the children of Zhou Rui's family to eat.
I am so grateful to the servants of Jiafu, and I am even more attentive to the masters of Jiafu.
When Grandma Liu heard the news of Jia's mother's death in the countryside, she cried in the field, regardless of whether it was true or not, and rushed to Jiafu before dawn.
It's just a one-sided relationship with Jia's mother, why is it so?
When the family was having a hard time, she was deeply favored by Jia's mother, and Grandma Liu remembered it in her heart, how could she not be in a hurry if something happened to her benefactor?
She rushed to Jiafu and inquired many times before she was able to see Sister Feng, and then went to mourn Jia's mother.
Seeing that Sister Feng was sick, skinny, and in a trance, Grandma Liu felt pity.
Even if Sister Feng once intended to make fun of her, she treated Sister Feng sincerely.
The countrymen believe that sincerity is spirituality, and Grandma Liu prayed to God and made a wish for Sister Feng, hoping that Sister Feng would recover her health as soon as possible.
Sister Feng saw Grandma Liu praying for herself, and wanted to give Grandma Liu a gold bracelet to make a wish, but Grandma Liu did not accept it.
If it was said that he had entered Jiafu to ask for some benefits, this time, Grandma Liu purely came to visit and show her heart.
Sister Feng was grateful, thinking of herself who was sick, she couldn't help but worry about the future of her daughter Sister Qiao, and intended to entrust her daughter to Grandma Liu to take care of.
Sister Feng is such a shrewd person, even if Jiafu is down, there are other relatives there, but she falls in love with Grandma Liu because she believes that Grandma Liu can treat her daughter well.
Later, Sister Feng died, and in the face of the decay of Jiafu, Sister Qiao's uncle Wang Ren wanted to sell Sister Qiao for silver for his own selfish desires, regardless of family affection.
When Grandma Liu learned about it, she decided to rescue Sister Qiao.
If the news leaks out, Grandma Liu will be a big deal that she can't afford.
Is she scared?No.
She took a huge risk and finally rescued Sister Qiao from the darkness, giving Sister Qiao a ray of light in her life, and for her, everything was worth it.
It is exactly what the book says: Receiving favor is deeper than relatives and friends.
When she had silver taels in her hand, Grandma Liu was willing to give part of it back to Zhou Rui's family, who had helped her.
After receiving help from Jiafu, he did not sit on the mountain, but worked hard and made a fortune.
When he has the ability, he is willing to do his best to rescue Sister Qiao.
Knowing kindness and being willing to pay is the background color of Grandma Liu's life.
If it weren't for such a background, I'm afraid that Grandma Liu wouldn't even be able to enter the door of Jiafu, so how could she have the opportunity to live a prosperous life.
There is a topic on Zhihu: Does Grandma Liu know that she was being teased?
Someone replied: How can this be called teasing, this is a joke that everyone is happy to make.
Because of her laughter, the banquet and play became a grand event for both the elegant and the vulgar, and it was much more joyful than usual.
Some people say that in order to survive, even if it is teased, who does not continue to live while being bitter.
The plan to stay up for a few nights was denied by Party A, did it try its best to modify the plan, or patted its ass and didn't wait?
When the family encounters a predicament and needs to bow their heads and beg for help, is it to tide over the difficulties with their families, or is it just a good time?
If you find the answer difficult, you might as well take a look at Grandma Liu.
Don't immerse yourself in the bitterness of life, and strive to dig out the sweetness of life, the days will naturally become more and more hopeful.