After three years of remarriage, it was found that neither divorce nor remarriage was the solution to the problem
After three years of remarriage, I realized that divorce could not solve the problem, and remarriage would not solve the problem.
The common problem for most remarried couples is that when the novelty of a second marriage wears off, life seems to return to monotony. What's even more worrying is that even the contradictions and problems of the first marriage will recur, as if everything is back to square one.
However, despite the contradictions and problems, people are no longer the same people as they used to be, and this lack is an irreparable regret.
This is illustrated well by the following story:
I'm 38 now, I remarried three years ago, but I'm starting to regret the mess I had in my life.
Two years ago, my ex-wife and I ended our eight-year marriage, and looking back on the reasons for the divorce, it didn't seem worth it. We didn't divorce because of a breakdown in our relationship, mainly because my ex-wife and my mom were constantly arguing, and I was caught in the middle.
After many unsuccessful attempts to persuade me, my desire for a divorce grew stronger and stronger, as I was exhausted by eight years of frequent quarrels. In the end, I agreed to my ex-wife's request, and we quickly went through the divorce process.
At the time of the divorce, we had a 7-year-old daughter who was taken away by his ex-wife. I wanted to fight for custody of my daughter, but my mother objected, and I was afraid that it would make it difficult for me to find a suitable partner for my future marriage. Faced with irreconcilable contradictions, I finally gave up custody of my daughter.
After my divorce, I had a quiet time away from the hustle and bustle. Two years later, I was introduced by a friend to my current wife. She is a year older than me, also divorced, has a son, and returned to her ex-husband after the divorce.
We lived together for a year and felt good about each other, so we decided to get married. However, after marriage we planned to have another child because we did not have a child in common, but we faced the problem of not being able to conceive.
This issue led to an escalation of tensions between my wife and my mother. Although my wife became pregnant after giving birth to her daughter, my mother was unhappy with the sex of the child, which led to a new round of arguments. To avoid conflict, we moved out of the house and rented an apartment, but ended up in a new predicament.
My wife's work is not going well, which has led to increased financial pressure on the family. My mom and my wife got into a heated argument over a trivial family matter, which eventually turned into a physical altercation. The police intervened to defuse the conflict, but left even greater scars.
My wife and my mom are currently in a strained relationship and are threatening a divorce. Faced with the prospect of divorce, I felt powerless and afraid. I'm 38 years old, divorced once, and now facing the breakdown of another marriage. When I think back to my decision to divorce, I regret it.
When I got in touch with my ex-wife, I found out that she had already remarried, but her newlywed life was just as unsatisfactory. This made me think deeply: divorce can't solve the problem, and remarriage is even more difficult. Life is too short to divorce lightly.
This experience taught me that we should cherish the people in front of us and not abandon them easily.