The relationship between loved ones should be the most intimate and harmonious. However, what people can only realize in middle age is that some people are more hateful among relatives than outsiders. The first situation is that those relatives who have dragged outsiders to treat you together have lost them completelyAffectionconcept. In a united family, all loved ones should be held tightly together like pomegranate seeds to form a strong team. However, if there are relatives who choose to pull outsiders into the family and bully them, this shows the bad nature of human nature. We can imagine that relatives and outsiders join forces, with the expression of **, covet the interests of their families, and deprive them by all means. When relatives and outsiders join forces to destroy the family and plunder the interests of the family, the outsiders will definitely get a piece of the pie, and may even have premeditated and secretly implemented their plan in the form of wolves entering the flock. Just like the Hou Jing Rebellion during the Northern and Southern Dynasties, LiangEmperor WuAccepting him ultimately led to the decline of the Liang dynasty. People who cannot distinguish between inside and outside are undoubtedly the most dangerous, and your help will only be to shoot yourself in the foot.
Another type of relatives who are more hateful than outsiders are those who are jealous of you but who are not capable of it, and they are narrow-minded. Jia HuanheJia BaoyuIt's ".Dream of Red MansionsA typical example. They were both sons of Jia Zheng and both received the same education. However, Jia Huan has a bad nature and is not successful in his studiesJia BaoyuRelatively good, and has a high status in the family. In accordance with the provisions of family traditions,Jia Baoyuis the eldest son and is designated as the heir. However, Jia Huan never recognized his own shortcomings, but became jealous of Baoyu's progress and secretly set a trap for Baoyu to be punished. It is a thing to be applauded that relatives have the ability, how can they be hated?Between a close and united relative, whoever has money in their hands is for common prosperity. Even in the face of difficulties, rich and powerful relatives can lend a helping hand and help. In addition, we should also learn from our successful loved ones Xi gain positive energy from them to change the face of the whole family. Accommodating loved ones is the beginning of expanding one's horizons, and the loved ones go to distant places together. Those who are jealous of their relatives are narrow-minded, and their hearts are as piercing as the tip of a needle to the wheat.
The third type of hateful relatives are those who do not have the ability to do so and often borrow money from their parents and enjoy the fruits of other people's labor. In my hometown, there is a saying: "Children borrow money from their parents like a tiger borrows a pig." "After the tiger comes down the mountain, take the pig away, and it will not be returned next time. And when the tiger comes down again, it bites away another pig, and so on. In a good family, parents will encourage their children to earn money and pursue their own futures, so that the whole family will gradually fall apart. When their children have a future, parents can enjoy their old age and no longer work for itRetirementLose sleep over something. However, if there is a sibling who is always lazy and Xi borrowing money from his parents, this is a moth in the family. What's even more terrifying is that you forRetirementThey lend money to their parents, but they support their siblings who not only do not support their parents, but also let them bear the burden of supporting. It's actually that you're raising your parents and you're also raising your siblings, which is very hateful. When parents are really unable to work and need to spend money, those who often borrow money from their parents often do not admit the fact of borrowing money, or deliberately leave a muddy account to make you helpless. Although it is the responsibility of parents for children to borrow money from their parents, it depends more on the self-discipline and awakening of adults. There are no people in the world who have been raised by their parents, and no one can wait until their parents can't walk to start working hard. By then, it was too late.
There is also a kind of hateful relatives who divide the younger generations into three, six, nine and so on, and prefer extremes. Another example is ".Dream of Red Mansions. Once, Jia Huan went to visitMrs. Xing, Baoyu was also present, even before Jia Huan. Mrs. Xingpampered Baoyu in every way, indifferent and ruthless to Jia Huan, and did not pay attention to it at all. This is a classic example of dividing juniors into three, six, nine, and so on. In a family, parents should treat their children fairly and justly, and should not be partial to them. Every child deserves equal love and respect, regardless of his or her talents and achievements. If there is a clear preference for one child and indifference to the others, then the family in the familyAffectionis doomed to break. This can lead to jealousy and hatred in other children, which can eventually break downFamily relationships。This kind of favoritism can also limit children's freedom and development, making them feel that they have no value and meaning, which can affect their self-esteem and self-confidence. In a mature and harmonious family, parents should treat each child sensibly and fairly, giving them the same opportunities and resources to develop into independent individuals and pursue their own happiness and success.
In conclusion, the relationship between loved ones should be the most intimate and harmonious. However, there are some relatives who are more hateful than outsiders. These loved ones may pull outsiders along with you, be jealous of your success, borrow money from your parents, or be partial to extremes. These actions are based on personal interests and narrow interests, rightAffectionAnd the destruction of the family is unquestionable. in the establishment and maintenanceFamily relationshipsWe should remain rational and calm to avoid being hurt by these hateful loved ones, and at the same time, we should actively work to improve and repair broken relationships and build a truly united and harmonious family.