Ever since I got married, I've been feeling guilty and indebted to my parents. They worked so hard to raise me, and now I'm married out of town, and I can't be there for them, I can't take good care of them. Especially in recent years, as my parents have grown older, I miss them more intensely and often want to honor them. So, for the past few years, I have been going home to visit my parents almost every holiday and bring them some gifts. Every month, I will also send some salary to youFather。But for some reason, since I left home, my parents have become a little more indifferent to me. Even though they didn't show it obviously, I could feel it. Especially since my sister-in-law entered the house, my position at home seems to have changed from what it used to be. I used to go home, but now I have become a guest at my mother's house. Even the room where I lived for many years has now become my sister-in-law's personal space. Although I don't care much about this, I think it's the result of distance and time. However, inFatherOn my 60th birthday, my perception changed dramatically.
Extension: As the daughter of a parent, I am well aware of my responsibilities and obligations. Although I am married, I have never ignored my parents, but have worked harder to care for them. I understand the hardships of life and the selfless dedication of my parents to me, which makes me feel guilty. I always tried my best to make up for this guilt and did everything possible to make my parents feel that I cared for me. Whenever the holidays come, I plan my gifts in advance and try to make my parents happy. Even if I am in a different place, I will insist on giving when the whole country is ambiguousFatherSend back some wages and make them feel my heart. But I always feel that my efforts are not enough, especially in recent years, my parents are getting older, which makes me more worried and worried. I have been working hard to translate this guilt into action and try my best to repay my parents for their nurturing kindness.
MineFatherAs he approaches his 60th birthday, I want to surprise him and make him feel the warmth of someone's care and love. So I started planning half a month before his birthday. I spent a few days visiting the mall, givingFatherBought an electric massage chair so that he could relax at his leisure. In addition to this, I would like to giveFatherMake a three-story largeCakes, let him feel the happiness of his birthday star. But take into accountCakesUnable to make it in my city and deliver it to my hometown, I decided to take the high-speed train home a day earlier and book oneCakesshopCakes。I expected that this birthday celebration would make meFatherI was so excited that I would call my aunt, uncle, aunt and other relatives to celebrate.
However, when I got back home, I found that everything was not exactly what I expected. The house was not as quiet as I imagined, but very lively. There were several cars parked in front of the door, all of them relatives and even some distant relatives who came. When I walked into the house, my aunts were very excited to see me and asked me why I had come back, because after all, no one informed meFatherof birthdays. FatherAnd my brother also walked out, obviously, they were both surprised that I was home, but also happy. They saw me in my handCakesand massage chairs, hurry over and help me pick it up. However,FatherTell me that my sister-in-law and brother have booked one in advanceCakes, already on the way. It made me feel like my mind was a little redundant.
After lunch, everyone sat around and ateCakes, lively and extraordinary. However, I was a little absent-minded and felt like I was being left out. FatherI've been smiling and chatting with my relatives, and my sister-in-law is also giving it to youFatherTea was poured and water was handed out, and I seemed to be an outsider. Watching such a scene, I felt extremely lost and sad, and began to doubt whether my existence and dedication were meaningful. I suspect that maybe it was my long absence from home that made me feel guilty and helpless because of my position in my family. I thought about my situation and the relationship between my relatives, and I felt an indescribable bitterness in my heart.
That night, I lay in bed and reflected on my emotions and expectations for my family. I realized that this feeling of guilt and helplessness did not do me any good and could not change my relationship with my family. A person's worth is not only reflected in material expression, but more importantlyEmotionof communication and companionship. And no matter how the outside world changes,FatherAlthough my sister-in-law and I are estranged from me, it doesn't mean that they don't care about and love me. Maybe it's because I've been away from home for a long time and I don't communicate with them enough, so I have caused some misunderstandings and estrangement. It is only through good communication with them that one can get to know and understand each other better.
The next day, I took the initiative to look for itFatherI talked to my sister-in-law and expressed my inner feelings to them. I told them that I didn't care about the attitude of my family towards me, but I wanted to be more involved in the family and spend time with them. FatherMy sister-in-law listened to my words, and the corners of her mouth smiled with a guilty look. They told me that they didn't deliberately exclude me, but that I didn't know much about my current life and situation because I was away from home for a long time. They also admit that they themselves are lacking in their own attitude towards me, and they should also be more considerate and understanding of me.
From that day on, I andFatherThe relationship between the sister-in-law began to improve. I promised that I would go home to visit them more often, get involved in the family's affairs, and make them feel that I was there and cared for. FatherMy sister-in-law and I also responded positively, and they said that they would also communicate better with me and learn more about my life and work. We decided that future birthdays and important moments would be discussed in advance to avoid too much overlap and conflict.
Since then, I've worked harder to keep in touch with my parents, calling them once a week to see how they're doing and how they're doing. I also try to go home once and again to meet my parents and help them with the big and small things in the house. It also makes them feel my care and love. Although I strive to pursue my career, my family is my eternal treasure, and I will always strive to do my best for the happiness of my family. I believe that through my good communication and companionship with my parents, our relationship and affection will get better and better. Family unity and happiness are important and have always been the goal of my efforts.
This experience taught me that family is not just about physical relationships, it's moreEmotionbonds. Although I will always feel guilty, I will make up for it with action and companionship. Communication and care with my parents is always my most important task and the best reward I can give to them. At the same time, I also understand my parents' expectations and care for me, and I will cherish them more and honor them with my heart so that they can live a happy life.