In the world of feelings, we often fall into a complex and delicate state, and we try to understand each other's inner world. Sometimes, however, we find that the other person is exhibiting something that is incomprehensible and seems to be hiding something that makes it difficult for us to see.
In fact, in the fog of feelings, there are still clues to follow, which can help us gain insight into the truth of feelings and see each other more accurately.
In relationships, some people pay too much attention to appearance and appearance. They may spend a lot of time on clothing, hairstyles, and makeup, so that their appearance and clothing are indeed unconventional, but the amount of grooming in their external appearance is very large.
Excessive focus on image can also be reflected in their social **. They may post frequently** or status updates in an effort to show a seemingly flawless life.
These behaviors may be for attention and praise, or they may be for satisfying a need for self-worth or even vanity. Without these, they would be restless. Their positioning of self-worth is external, and it is pinned on the eyes of others. If you find something inadequate, they will not only be unwilling to accept it, but will also try to cover it up.
Behind this behavior is a distrust of the self and a desire for the approval of others. However, in a relationship, the first thing to do is to improve yourself, which is responsible for yourself and for both parties, and they may need to improve themselves before entering a relationship.
In relationships, there are people who are overly dependent. People who are overly dependent may show over-involvement in the other person's life. They may ask each other about every detail, care about each other's every move, and try to understand the whole of each other's lives.
Some people will show excessive attention to the whereabouts of the other person. They may frequently ask about the other person's location, plans, and circle of friends to make sure they are in sight at all times.
People who are overly dependent see the needs of the other person as their only goal. They may sacrifice their interests and lives to devote themselves to each other's needs. However, behind such behavior, their self-worth is not firm enough, and they are more likely to be shaken.
Perhaps, this relationship is just a tool for them to settle down temporarily, but who knows what unknowable changes will follow.
In a relationship, reserving a certain amount of space for the other person is the manifestation of true love, and such a relationship is more likely to last.
In relationships, some people choose to hide their true feelings through fake smiles and perfunctory responses.
This smile may look similar to a real smile on the surface, but in reality it lacks real emotional resonance. This may be because the other person is reluctant to show their true feelings, or they are afraid to express their true feelings.
In addition, there were perfunctory responses. When faced with a problem or need a response, they may choose to avoid it or respond with vague language rather than being honest about it.
This kind of person always avoids the important and avoids discussing some topics in depth. It's not that they don't understand, it's that they don't want to. They are reluctant to communicate openly and deeply, preferring superficial harmony.
This kind of person does not invest too much emotion in his bones, just wants to maintain the relationship, however, the basis of the relationship is to be able to communicate with each other, and for a long time, it means that the relationship has deteriorated, and it is no longer worth investing.
Some people are defensive in their relationships and lack trust in each other. They are reluctant to share their personal feelings or experiences.
They will show excessive caution in their words and actions. So when interacting with them, they seem to be constantly paying attention to words and actions, and trying to find clues or signs from them to confirm their thoughts or suspicions.
This kind of person does not trust feelings from the heart, so it is necessary to interpret it from some inconsequential details and verify themselves. And the questions they ask are not really trying to improve emotional communication, but trying to find some evidence from the other party's mouth to confirm their guesses.
However, this excessive suspicion can only mean that he is not really invested in this relationship, although he does not say it, but the floodgates of feelings will slowly close. And trying to make them change their minds has also become a luxury, and their minds have long been elsewhere.
In a relationship, the truth that a person hides is exposed little by little, so that we can see each other clearly and see the relationship clearly.