If a person's inner energy is not strong enough, he is very afraid of conflict with others, no matter who that person is. However, in this society of survival of the fittest and the law of the jungle, those who are not afraid of conflict with others will live beautifully, while those who have always been afraid of conflict with others have always been difficult to improve their lives, as if they will never get ahead.
Why are some people so afraid of conflict with others? This is related to the education methods and methods of their original families, that is, it has a lot to do with their growth environment, for example, they have been suppressed and belittled and ridiculed at home, no matter how hard they try, they can't be recognized, and then as long as they resist, they will be more severely suppressed by their parents, so over time, they are very afraid of conflicts with others, and the psychological hints they give themselves are that only swallowing their anger is the best way for themselves.
However, in actual life, if a person will only blindly swallow his anger and make compromises, then they are a soft persimmon in the eyes of others, and they can take it at will, which is equivalent to telling others to bully them, and they do not need to pay the price and cost. In fact, in this case, it is very disadvantageous for their situation, and it does not play a good positive role at all.
Maybe they have tried to resist, or have conflicts with others, but the final result is to fail, so this experience of failure will make them secretive, in the future, when they encounter the situation of others offending or provoking themselves, they dare not conflict with others head-on, they choose to calm down.
However, if they always blindly retreat in this way, dare not clash with others, and boldly and correctly safeguard their own interests, their space for development and the possibility of survival will become smaller and smaller. Because no matter what kind of situation they will encounter in **, if they are not solved from the source, this situation may still exist, and it will become a stumbling block on the road to their life development and hinder their better development.
Therefore, after all, it is necessary to look at the conflict with others objectively and rationally. In fact, conflict with others is not entirely a bad thing, it is just a more intense way of communicating with others.
There's an old saying: If you don't fight, you don't know each other. In many cases, after a conflict with others, expressing one's own position, and arguing reasonably, it will deepen the understanding of others. Also, after this confrontation, others will feel that they are not a weak person, and they will even flatter or admire themselves in turn. Because, human nature is all curtain wall.
People who dare to have a head-on conflict with others, that is, they dare to defend their own interests, and the bottom line of principles, which shows that their inner energy is strong, not weak and bulliable, to put it bluntly, they are such people, they are essentially a strong person, at least in terms of mentality.
People have always been more tolerant of the strong and like to find advantages in them. So in this way, in fact, their development space is relatively broad, and it will be relatively smooth. Because those cows, ghosts, snakes, and gods didn't dare to scratch their heads in front of them, they didn't dare to provoke them easily, for fear of getting into trouble and paying the price.
If you look closely at the people around you who are more open and smooth-talking, most of them are not cowardly or afraid of conflict with others. On the contrary, they are the kind of people who dare to conflict with others in order to protect their own interests, bottom lines or principles.
So, don't be afraid to get into conflict with others, sometimes it's unavoidable. If you are often suppressed and belittled by those around you, and you fall into self-denial, then you must take strong measures to fight back against those who suppress you. People are bullying the weak and afraid of the hard, as long as you are not afraid of conflict with them, those people will restrain and start to respect you.